Somali woman gets aids from her husband

[Odious Delirium]

I don’t know about that as many scholars even think women taking the pill for a prolonged period of time without a valid excuse is haram, even though the pill
Is a temporary method like the pull out method.

Mainly because people debate taking the pill as halal in the first place. Pulling out is the only natural method which has no one disagreeing on it but pulling out isn't as safe as the artificial methods so even if someone relied on it for a long time eventually it wouldn't work out and even then the pull out method is only allowed if the wife allows it in the first place. It's only impermissible if he does it despite his wife being against it.

 

[Bari🐍]

Better safe then sorry. Both partners should be getting tested together especially on a routinely basis it can be annually if you want and whenever your apart like on holidays, work trips etc

And who care about a random nurse thinking anything why would you risk your health for a dumb reason like that?

Aww date night at the sex clinic to get tested
Respectfully, you've lost your mind

 

[Mercury]

Really? I thought they’d avoid her because they’re afraid they can get it from her and same with the men. I thought Somalis have realized that the culprits are usually the men who go to other African countries and sleep with/marry women there.

people will avoid her let alone go near the person and act as if it’s an airborne disease and refuse to shake her hand or touch her even if the culprit is the husband they gonna call her names and treat her like an outcast

 

[Odious Delirium]

Aww date night at the sex clinic to get tested
Respectfully, you've lost your mind

So once a year is crazy or after a long time apart?
That's your health your risking I don't care if you do or don't it's up to you

But if your wife cheated on you and got something while you were gone there won't be much one can do about it after they have gotten it. So it's on you if you wanna be vigilant or not. The rate of people getting infected by all kind of HIVs only increases year by year

 

[Mercury]

Really? I thought they’d avoid her because they’re afraid they can get it from her and same with the men. I thought Somalis have realized that the culprits are usually the men who go to other African countries and sleep with/marry women there.

People don’t care I remember the maid who worked for my ayeeyo even after everyone found out she got it from her husband a lot of relatives refused to visit my Ayeeyo’s house saying what if the maid spits in the food and infects us all or something puts all the toothbruses in her mouth to infect us the only one who treated her as a human being was my ayeeyo everyone else treated her like a plague she later left to the outskirts of hargeisa to live in a farm to avoid all the harassmentt she received from people she left her young daughter with my ayeeyo cause she didn’t want her to grow up being targeted because of who her mom was and she wanted nobody to tell the daughter that her mom got AIDS

 

[Bari🐍]

So once a year is crazy or after a long time apart?
That's your health your risking I don't care if you do or don't it's up to you

But if your wife cheated on you and got something while you were gone there won't be much one can do about it after they have gotten it. So it's on you if you wanna be vigilant or not. The rate of people getting infected by all kind of HIVs only increases year by year so it up to you how you wanna go about things.

Before a marriage everyone should. But during, it is weird in my opinion. Signifies a lack of trust if anything. If you marry a good Muslim, you don't worry about these kinds of things. Your wife will think you're paranoid.

 

[Qeelbax]

It's not mutah. Its only mutah if you both stipulate and agree to it being like that with a set date basically glorified escorting. But just marrying someone and then divorcing them because you no longer are in the area any more isn't mutah but it's scummy to get into knowing that you won't be around for long

Bro it is mutah and it’s haram. You can’t marry with the intention of divorcing, that’s absolutely haram. These men purposely get married and divorce when they are going back. They’ve been doing this for a long time.
The second woman is usually not in on it and when he divorced her like he always intended to do, he leaves her with nothing but a child she has to raise on her own.

 

[Odious Delirium]

Before a marriage everyone should. But during, it is weird in my opinion. Signifies a lack of trust if anything. If you marry a good Muslim, you don't worry about these kinds of things. Your wife will think you're paranoid.

This is the sort of thing you come to an mutual agreement on before getting married (if you want to get routine check ups or not)
Not just randomly post married when you feel like it. Obviously that would be weird and make someone look paranoid.

Plus annual health check ups for your own good is something an individual should be doing it's not just about sex but state of your health all around Is a must. You should get everything checked out not just for stds.

 

[Odious Delirium]

Bro it is mutah and it’s haram. You can’t marry with the intention of divorcing, that’s absolutely haram. These men purposely get married and divorce when they are going back. They’ve been doing this for a long time.
The second woman is usually not in on it and when he divorced her like he always intended to do, he leaves her with nothing but a child she has to raise on her own.

That's the point you don't know every individuals intentions.
so you can't really call It that unless they clearly state that to be there intention or wrote it down in the contract making it mutah.
Maybe that wasn't the original intention. He may have left in the end but we don't know what went of in his mind so we can't label it that.

But regardless I don't support the practice and it has its consequences like this woman's aid story

 

[AbdiFreedom]

You don't need to specifically test for only STDs. I do full blood work every annual check up and have the STD boxes checked off even though I will never get an STD. I tell my doctor just check every box that applies to me in the requisition paper. Some people even do blood work every 6 months if they are a hypochondriac. I am only really concerned about the complete blood count and cholesterol and testosterone and those stuff.

 

[Bari🐍]

You don't need to specifically test for only STDs. I do full blood work every annual check up and have the STD boxes checked off even though I will never get an STD. I tell my doctor just check every box that applies to me in the requisition paper. Some people even do blood work every 6 months if they are a hypochondriac. I am only really concerned about the complete blood count and cholesterol and testosterone and those stuff.

This I think is normal and standard. Going as a couple to specifically get tested for HIV, that's weird to me.

 

[AbdiFreedom]

This I think is normal and standard. Going as a couple to specifically get tested for HIV, that's weird to me.

If anyone is worried about STDs, just make your spouse do full medical checkups twice a year and use the "take care of your health" line and show an interest in their blood results. I will start doing it twice a year because once a year may miss stuff. I started going regularly after an old colleague I knew died of cancer. His blood test could have shown something suspicious going on with him if he caught it earlier.

HIV is rare in the west anyway and it's harder to get even if you did have sex with someone with HIV. You should be alot more concerned about the other widespread terrible STD syphilis.

 

[Odious Delirium]

This I think is normal and standard.

If anyone is worried about STDs, just make your spouse do full medical checkups twice a year and use the "take care of your health" line and show an interest in their blood results. I will start doing it twice a year because once a year may miss stuff. I started going regularly after an old colleague I knew died of cancer. His blood test could have shown something suspicious going on with him if he caught it earlier.

HIV is rare in the west anyway and it's harder to get even if you did have sex with someone with HIV. You should be alot more concerned about the other widespread terrible STD syphilis.

You can just get them to agree upon getting an annual full check up like that prior to the marriage. no need to go behind there back and be sly about it by misdirecting them from the reason why you wanna get one. The full checkup with stds and all is taking care of your health and I doubt anyone would have a problem in going along with it unless they have something to hide

 

[Waaqmasho]

Test men before marriage twice. It take AIDs sometime to show up in the bloodstream and be detected by the blood test in the hospital. If a person was just infected the virus won't show up in the medical tests for a while. That's why you need to test a man twice 6 months in between to be 100% sure that he doesn't have anything, don't sleep with them until both tests are done. Then test them routinely every 6 months forever. Make sure to do the blood draw test, not the other ones. This is my professional advice as a nurse

My personal advice: Follow above, excepts test them routinely every 3 months

This is very funny to me that you say it. Because this is what you had to say about DNA testing a child.

We are muslims. Things like this rarely happen. I understand testing your girlfriend's child to make sure its yours. However, if you're married and you're DNA testing your wife's child, then you're one disrespectful motherf*cker! If you try DNA testing your muslim wife child prepare for a f*cking divorce cuz that's an insult to her.

that's a humiliation to her. You saying to her that you think she's a wh0re incapable of loyalty/trust. What's the point of marriage if there is no loyalty/trust and he wants to humiliate you? Let him DNA test the child and divorce the man as well.

Keep in mind that's one test and you think it's a cool idea to tell a husband to get tested for AIDS every 3 months.

 

[Basra]

If anyone is worried about STDs, just make your spouse do full medical checkups twice a year and use the "take care of your health" line and show an interest in their blood results. I will start doing it twice a year because once a year may miss stuff. I started going regularly after an old colleague I knew died of cancer. His blood test could have shown something suspicious going on with him if he caught it earlier.

HIV is rare in the west anyway and it's harder to get even if you did have sex with someone with HIV. You should be alot more concerned about the other widespread terrible STD syphilis.

LIES. First your colleague died of AIDS not cancer


Second of all- AIDS is killing anyone who has a risky life style aka sleeping around. PERIODT

 

[Basra]

If i were young bride-- i will not make my husband take Aids test at all. But when we marry i will warn him that if he gives me any sexual disease he will die in my hands. I hold his life in my hands. Periodt

 

[iskufilann]

If i were young bride-- i will not make my husband take Aids test at all. But when we marry i will warn him that if he gives me any sexual disease he will die in my hands. I hold his life in my hands. Periodt

Why not ask him to take the test edo?

 

[JackieBurkhart]

If anyone is worried about STDs, just make your spouse do full medical checkups twice a year and use the "take care of your health" line and show an interest in their blood results. I will start doing it twice a year because once a year may miss stuff. I started going regularly after an old colleague I knew died of cancer. His blood test could have shown something suspicious going on with him if he caught it earlier.

HIV is rare in the west anyway and it's harder to get even if you did have sex with someone with HIV. You should be alot more concerned about the other widespread terrible STD syphilis.

Why are these people being hysterical? Them getting STDs from their partner is unlikely.

 

[Basra]

Why not ask him to take the test edo?

I do not want to insult him. Asking a young new husband to take sexual disease test is a bit invasive. Its like a husband asks a wife to sign a pre-nup where she is not entitled for any money after divorce. Its not trustful and healthy.

Of course- we will discuss it. In my courting period we will be honest. I will say have you had sexual experiences? If he says yes- then i will recommend softly to take a test. If he declines then i will warn him. I will murder him in his sleep if he gives me any std ! The method of revenge will vary to the type of Std

If he gives me Chlamydia which is curable- i will chop his fingers


if it is Herpies which is not curable- i will stick a knife in one of his eye.

If it is HIV which not curable and my worst nightmare; i will cut his throat with a butcher knife while he is sleeping. or maybe one bullet on the forehead while he is sleeping (I prefer the cutting of throat with butcher harmer or knife for personal feel effect. I will cherish every bit of the blood mess)


it depends-- i am very just

 

[iskufilann]

I do not want to insult him. Asking a young new husband to take sexual disease test is a bit invasive. Its like a husband asks a wife to sign a pre-nup where she is not entitled for any money after divorce. Its not trustful and healthy.

Of course- we will discuss it. In my courting period we will be honest. I will say have you had sexual experiences? If he says yes- then i will recommend softly to take a test. If he declines then i will warn him. I will murder him in his sleep if he gives me any std ! The method of murder will vary to the type of Std

If he gives me Chlamydia which is curable- i will chop his fingers


if it is Herpies which is not curable- i will stick a knife in one of his eye.

If it is HIV i will i cut his throat with a butcher knife while he is sleeping. or maybe one bullet on the forehead while he is sleeping


it depends-- i am very just

Bismillah, edo please do not get married You'd rather ask him to take the test rather than asking him in the middle of the marriage. Basra you definitely will be the man in the relationshipIf I was a guy, I would never approach you instead I would run and not look back