Somali woman gets aids from her husband

[Yaraye]

ok now you’re just tweaking.

It’s one thing to ask for a test before getting married but to insist on continuous tests throughout the marriage is retarded.

You’re basically expecting them to cheat on you and testing to see if he/she got aids while cheating on you. If you can’t even trust your spouse to not cheat then why marry?

Also, there’s a flaw in your logic.

According to you testing once isn’t enough because he could have JUST contracted aids, so test him again after 6 months. What if he really didn’t have aids the first test but then contracted it a month before the second test. Then after your nikkah night you got aids too lmao.

I mean, if we’re gonna go the whole paranoia route, why not go the whole way.

My advice: Abstain for the rest of your life, regardless of marriage

this is not about trust. This is about keeping track of your health by routinely testing yourself and your spouse. Other diseases are routinely screened for in our community, we gotta do the same for STDs

Your advice is trash. Many men (espically genz) out there are willing to be tested twice and also want to test the woman they'll marry twice

Getting someone tested twice (6 months apart) is not according to me. it's according to all healthcare professionals on the field and research articles. Plus why would he contract HIV while getting to know someone for marriage?(its called AIDs in the later stages) unless he's sleeping around during that time, which then i wouldn't marry him to begin with

 

[Mr. Nur]

WOW this is scary NGL but

I wonder if the 2 wife was Somali or non-somali becuase it rare for somalis to have aids what do you guys think she didn't explain what the 2nd wife was if she was somali or non-somali muslim?

 

[Mr. Nur]

Sad.

There are people out there who have HIV but their spouses don't know because they take their medication. I hear this happens in South Africa alot. Imagine being married and taking your HIV pills at shaqo or putting it in Tylenol bottles at home to hide it.

Y'all need stay safe and not go to South Africa is my #1 recommendation (ofc unless if you family its pass).

 

[Mr. Nur]

It was in somalia so most likely somali

We don't know her ethnicity btw I don't care about tribes or clan or any of that shii i'm just wondering in this case if women was somali or not but in this case nationality doen't matter. any non-somali could live in somalia you know that.

 

[Odious Delirium]

We don't know her ethnicity btw I don't care about tribes or clan or any of that shii i'm just wondering in this case if women was somali or not but in this case nationality doen't matter. any non-somali could live in somalia you know that.

We don't know but most likely she was

 

[Yaraye]

We don't know but most likely she was

like you say always don't make assumptions

 

[Odious Delirium]

like you say always don't make assumptions

Exactly which is why I said we don't know and used most likely and not she is somali

 

[Yaraye]

Exactly which is why I said we don't know and used most likely

didn't see that

 

[Odious Delirium]

didn't see that

Don't jump the gun and run to conclusions take it easy hastiness is from shaytaan @Yaraye
But it's alright I don't mind we all slip up here and there

 

[Yaraye]

We don't know but most likely she was

why?

Don't jump the gun and run to conclusions @Yaraye
But it's alright I don't mind we all slip up here and there

excuse my glasses wearing eyes

 

[Odious Delirium]

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excuse my glasses wearing eyes

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For this I got a qashin for saying that so I just got rid of it along with the qashin
Naaa it's alright as a fellow glasses wearer I understand and if I do slip up make sure you catch me lacking

 

[Ripemoos]

Tbh my guess that if he contracted straight up AIDS that fast he’s probably secretly gay. HIV/AIDS is 18 more times likely HIV transmission from anal sex is up to 18 times higher than from receptive sex.

Risk of exposure to HIV/AIDS

Read more about risks of HIV/AIDS exposure, including the challenges in calculating, types of sex with varying percentages, and interpreting the numbers.

stanfordhealthcare.org

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

Bless her, poor lass; she sounds awfully brave in her disposition considering her current predicament. Must say, the other women in the equation is rather conniving, if dangerously wicked. Would anyone consider the husband a victim caught in crosshairs?

Also, women should also put no-polygamy clauses in their marriage contract or make it clear from the get go that if he tries to get married again, they’re gone,

This is exactly why most women refuse polygamy, because a good number of these braindead

I am thinking aloud, so temper with me, as I toddle through thought.

Is polygamy to blame? Why rally against it, when it is permissible in Islam, of course with requisite conditions being put in place? discounting, I am not of the fact many men abuse it, but is that a good enough reason, or excuse, to strike off verses of the Qur'an? And for what in return?

When does one begin to fancy oneself as knowing more than the Omniscient. Suggesting so is the case herein, I am not, for I know little, but a troubling trend is being observed in the congregation, and amongst Muslims, mostly in the West, where like our contemporaries in Christianity, a practice of picking and choosing Islamic principles and teachings, as if what might be deemed the norm, or popular, in the West, is being embraced irrespective of core principles at stake, or being breached; similar trend is being observed amongst Muslims in Gulf States.

Of course, it is not new, for once one begins to think of oneself as more knowing, then one, as others before battled reconciling own thought with scripture, one must give.

B. Spinoza battled to reconcile Judaism with his epistemological thesis, and abandoned the former instead of crisscrossing the latter's thorny terrain. E. Kant had misgivings about Christianity, and pursued a life of atheism. M. Assad struggled with Judaism, and wholly embraced Islam.

Or is the fissure so full that schism reins?
Just a thought.

 

[Odious Delirium]

I am thinking aloud, so temper with me, as I toddle through thought.

Wow that's a nice way to put it. Very eloquent indeed. I'm going to be stealing that line since that's literally me on here so I'll be making it my own.

Thanks in advance

 

[𐒋𐒖𐒆𐒔𐒖𐒕𐒈]

Wow that's a nice way to put it. Very eloquent indeed. I'm going to be stealing that line since that's literally me on here so I'll be making it my own.
Thanks in advance

It is a form of petitioning for mercy as being led to the jaws of gallows.

 

[Odious Delirium]

It is a form of petitioning for mercy as being led to the jaws of gallows.

Yeah that happen quite a bit on here to me. people misunderstand and get on the defensive when I'm just relaying thoughts as opposed to actually challenging or making an argument/statement

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Bless her, poor lass; she sounds awfully brave in her disposition considering her current predicament. Must say, the other women in the equation is rather conniving, if dangerously wicked. Would anyone consider the husband a victim caught in crosshairs?




I am thinking aloud, so temper with me, as I toddle through thought.

Is polygamy to blame? Why rally against it, when it is permissible in Islam, of course with requisite conditions being put in place? discounting, I am not of the fact many men abuse it, but is that a good enough reason, or excuse, to strike off verses of the Qur'an? And for what in return?

When does one begin to fancy oneself as knowing more than the Omniscient. Suggesting so is the case herein, I am not, for I know little, but a troubling trend is being observed in the congregation, and amongst Muslims, mostly in the West, where like our contemporaries in Christianity, a practice of picking and choosing Islamic principles and teachings, as if what might be deemed the norm, or popular, in the West, is being embraced irrespective of core principles at stake, or being breached; similar trend is being observed amongst Muslims in Gulf States.

Of course, it is not new, for once one begins to think of oneself as more knowing, then one, as others before battled reconciling own thought with scripture, one must give.

B. Spinoza battled to reconcile Judaism with his epistemological thesis, and abandoned the former instead of crisscrossing the latter's thorny terrain. E. Kant had misgivings about Christianity, and pursued a life of atheism. M. Assad struggled with Judaism, and wholly embraced Islam.

Or is the fissure so full that schism reins?
Just a thought.

Polygamy is not for most men, only for those with intellect, compassion and bravery. Not for weak, reckless, liars.

Most women do not want it because a lot of polygamist men do secret "marriages" and bring nothing but drama, financial instability etc.

 

[Unbothered]

Balaayo kuga dhacday, this is why I sometimes hate men , evil bastards. I just read a post about a woman who assaulted by men with broom, yes a damn broom and now this . I am so traumatized.
Why is she even making excuses for him . Kulaha “wuu iska naag jecalyahay”
My heart goes to the poor children

 

[Man with a garuun]

I’ve heard various stories like that. Usually the husband went to South Africa. Fornicated there or secretly married and then comes back to wifey.

Women need to start getting husbands to be get tested. Also, women should also put no-polygamy clauses in their marriage contract or make it clear from the get go that if he tries to get married again, they’re gone, as many men will marry any type of women without looking throughly at their background or getting them to do any form of testing.

You can’t control a man, but at least have steps in place to put your health first. In this day and age, sexual exclusivity is important.

There is what is called "qutba siro". Not sure if you heard it before but it is available to us (men).

 

[Gacmeey]

The government needs to bring in mandatory testing so that no one’s honour is insulted