I am not refuting that. I am vehemently opposed to dhaqan celis for mishaving/troubled teens and especially early 20's. The only reason you should send your kids back home is to reacquaint them with their culture, not to magically fix them. Not too long ago something REALLY fucked up to someone I know due to the dhaqan celis culture and this cemented my view. I do think Somali women contribute to problems in the Somali culture but that doesn't mean what she said was wrong. It's retarded how a lot of Somali women seem to think the government is conspiring to take away their kids. My hoyo was telling me the other day, some lady was in a row with child protection because she left her 2 year old and 5 year old home alone and the neighbour phoned up the authorities. Hell, I used to hear all the time from my neighbour that Dutch hospitals are preying on Somalis by experimenting on them and stealing their organs. There's A LOT of ignorance in our community. I can't defend her, she went full retard by sending her kids to that shithole but her justification is understandable. Aside from all the gangsters, jails and murder nonsense she said her two sons deserve to be in touch with and meet their father and in return he pulls some saqajaan shit like that.
Like I said, she didn't go into specifics and a lot of what she did was emotionally fueled but the issues some of the older ladies are facing is very real. A lot of it has to do with how easy Somalis are to get married and divorced. Call me crazy but I don't think there's any other culture in the world where divorcing is as socially acceptable. And if we're being honest, a divorced man is much more favourable than a divorced woman. Sometimes I feel like people get married knowing damn well it's not going to end well. For instance, my friend's brother recently got married to some Somali chick. He's an absolute degenerate and she's literally no better. I'd bet my bank they'll end up divorced in less then 5 years and they have no issue bringing a child into this world. When they inevitably end up divorced, she's going to struggle and he's going to be absent for sure. She'll turn to the Somali community and point out how useless he is when really they're both liable for this mess. But that doesn't make what she says any less true. I also don't believe the men are at fault 95% as some people are making it out to be. I think both men and women are also very liable for single parent homes and the issues it ensues. But regardless of causation, there's plenty of struggling older women whose plights are ignored. Don't think of the twitter generation but wallahi some of the habro here are struggling for real. They're in a foreign country where they barely speak the language with an MIA husband and a plethora of other problems.