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I honestly think it might make a come back in the west. Itโs really bad here in Toronto and the worst part is it feels like no one even cares. You spend your whole life doing right by your parents/community and then when you need help theyโll pick tradition over your happiness. It sucks because how can a delinquent be able to fix up and easily get married someone he actually wants when you stayed away from haram and struggle so much to do so.You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.
The masjid is your best bet and get the sisters you meet there to expand your pool for you I'm sure you'll meet better brothers in that setting and ignore whatever Mrlog has to say on all this. (The guy is more then a bit weird)I honestly think it might make a come back in the west. Itโs really bad here in Toronto and the worst part is it feels like no one even cares. You spend your whole life doing right by your parents/community and then when you need help theyโll pick tradition over your happiness. It sucks because how can a delinquent be able to fix up and easily get married someone he actually wants when you stayed away from haram and struggle so much to do so.
This is a somali sister who needs help not a redpill podcast have some naxriis.You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.
Sis I will pray for you. As someone who has crept out of the depressive hold after the pandemic years I can understand the struggles of trying to jump start a life that was on pause for a while.Hey!
Ramadan Mubarak everyone I hope youโre all having a good Ramadan and your last 10 days have been fruitful!
I just wanted some advice. Iโve been a loner and depressed from 18-24 and then Covid happened which made it really hard to keep any friends. Mentally I feel like Iโm still in high school. I was wondering if you guys knew of any way to meet new Somali women in the city and make new friends? I donโt have ig or any social media apps.
Iโve also been searching for a husband on the apps for the last 4 years but itโs been very difficult. Most are either fobs or they donโt take me serious and it never goes anywhere
I also get no support from family since they thinks itโs ceeb to search for their daughters. I really donโt know what to do here as well since itโs not like itโs going to get any easier finding someone in my 30s.
I want to enjoy my youth a bit since Iโve lost most of it to being depressed. Any advice is welcome!
You should check out and seek from other cities. I know Toronto somali dudes got a bad rep. You can try the states or other parts of Canada. Many ppl are open to thatI honestly think it might make a come back in the west. Itโs really bad here in Toronto and the worst part is it feels like no one even cares. You spend your whole life doing right by your parents/community and then when you need help theyโll pick tradition over your happiness. It sucks because how can a delinquent be able to fix up and easily get married someone he actually wants when you stayed away from haram and struggle so much to do so.
So, I'm not the only one that noticed this this gen of men (not all obviously ) sure act like womenSis idk if itโs just the apps but the ones here lack even basic decency and social skills. Iโm always respectful and engaging and even the most average of them will move like bad b as if Iโm supposed to chase them. Then they get upset when I rightfully end things.
back home is not really an option for me. Everyone who wanted to come to the west has already left and the rest donโt want to come to Canada they think itโs rafaad over here. Theyโre not wrong lol.
Men have lower standards because they have no choice (beggars canโt be choosers). Itโs definitely way harder for men. Anyways just expand your social circle, keep on the lookout, read dua and youโll easily find someone dw.No Iโve had some conversations where the guys give one word responses and no enthusiasm even over the phone. Iโm generally a likeable person. They donโt bother asking me any questions and donโt put in any type of effort outside of โhowโs your dayโ. People speak well about me at work and in the past so I know itโs not my personality. And I take care of myself so I know Iโm not ugly.
I honestly disagree about women having it easier. Sure men have lower standards but that also means why they have a bigger pool to choose from which results in them not feeling like they have to put in much effort knowing that if this talking stage fails theyโll always be more women
Damn, I knew Somali women were struggling to get married but I didn't know it was this bad. I wonder what's the cause.I honestly think it might make a come back in the west. Itโs really bad here in Toronto and the worst part is it feels like no one even cares. You spend your whole life doing right by your parents/community and then when you need help theyโll pick tradition over your happiness. It sucks because how can a delinquent be able to fix up and easily get married someone he actually wants when you stayed away from haram and struggle so much to do so.
Hey!
Ramadan Mubarak everyone I hope youโre all having a good Ramadan and your last 10 days have been fruitful!
I just wanted some advice. Iโve been a loner and depressed from 18-24 and then Covid happened which made it really hard to keep any friends. Mentally I feel like Iโm still in high school. I was wondering if you guys knew of any way to meet new Somali women in the city and make new friends? I donโt have ig or any social media apps.
Iโve also been searching for a husband on the apps for the last 4 years but itโs been very difficult. Most are either fobs or they donโt take me serious and it never goes anywhere
I also get no support from family since they thinks itโs ceeb to search for their daughters. I really donโt know what to do here as well since itโs not like itโs going to get any easier finding someone in my 30s.
I want to enjoy my youth a bit since Iโve lost most of it to being depressed. Any advice is welcome!
Thank you walaal I wasnโt aware that he was like that.The masjid is your best bet and get the sisters you meet there to expand your pool for you I'm sure you'll meet better brothers in that setting and ignore whatever Mrlog has to say on all this. (The guy is more then a bit weird)
how does one go about doing this though. I feel like a man can go back and people will actually try to set him up with women I doubt theyโd do it the other way around when they donโt even do that here.First of all donโt feel alone, there is a pandemic of loneliness in the west at the moment, many many people have no one to talk to ever. The number one killer is loneliness. People underestimate it and thereโs a stigma around it, but itโs a real issue.
I resonate a lot with some of what youโve said, mainly the depression and loneliness. Am a guy so itโs even harder to make friends I donโt have any at the moment but alhamdulila I am married with kids and occupy my time with my family mansha allah. As for depression eating healthy, excercise and prayer will cure you. Also pray tahajud and do lots of istaghfar..
As far as marriage goes, would you consider going to Somalia to find a spouse? hear me out, I know a young somali sister who found herself a very educated young brother who was born and bred in Somalia, she bought him over he catched up quick and now works in tech, you would never think he came here in his 20s.
Donโt think all guys in Somalia are beneath you, there are many good looking educated brothers.
donโt delay any more than you have to. I will pray for you sis!
Hey!
Ramadan Mubarak everyone I hope youโre all having a good Ramadan and your last 10 days have been fruitful!
I just wanted some advice. Iโve been a loner and depressed from 18-24 and then Covid happened which made it really hard to keep any friends. Mentally I feel like Iโm still in high school. I was wondering if you guys knew of any way to meet new Somali women in the city and make new friends? I donโt have ig or any social media apps.
Iโve also been searching for a husband on the apps for the last 4 years but itโs been very difficult. Most are either fobs or they donโt take me serious and it never goes anywhere
I also get no support from family since they thinks itโs ceeb to search for their daughters. I really donโt know what to do here as well since itโs not like itโs going to get any easier finding someone in my 30s.
I want to enjoy my youth a bit since Iโve lost most of it to being depressed. Any advice is welcome!
Like you?My advice is become a nun Musliima
You need to get in contact with sisters who can get your name around same thing with back home get connected and make friends with people like yourself and they will help if you ask them to set you up.Thank you walaal I wasnโt aware that he was like that.
how does one go about doing this though. I feel like a man can go back and people will actually try to set him up with women I doubt theyโd do it the other way around when they donโt even do that here.
So how are you doing Basra buuqley?
So how are you doing Basra buuqley?
I am gooood walaal. Same, cannot wait for Summer inshallah, can finally wear my summer clothesAlhamdhulilaah walaal, i am okey. Looking forward for inshalaah a good summer. And YOU?