Khaniis ba tahay
Would you marry a Women who doesn't not wear the hijab.
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true, the dangers of being a dayouth are also a big factor
Yaraye
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Nah 
Yup. People are not always who they say they are. You are mostly meeting their representative. I tend to appreciate frankness, authenticity and honesty regardless and that extends to living a life in accord with your values whatever they maybe. That also means only asking for what you are be it in deed, creed or characteristics.
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Proof?
‘Aishah narrated that the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to go out at night to al-Manasi’ (well known places in the direction of al-Baqi’) to relieve themselves and ‘Umar used to say to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), “Let your wives be veiled.” But the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) did not do that. Then one night Sawdah bint Zam’ah, the wife of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), went out at ‘Isha time and she was a tall woman. ‘Umar called out to her: “We have recognized you, O Sawdah!” hoping that hijab would be revealed, then Allah revealed the verse of hijab. (Narrated by al-Bukhari, 146; Muslim, 2170)
“O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies . That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [al-Ahzab 33:59]
this verse is proof they didn't used to do this before the revelation of the verse therefore necessitating a verse be sent down so they wear jilbaabs and cover their entire bodies and faces
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وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَـٰتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَـٰرِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا ۖ وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَىٰ جُيُوبِهِنَّ ۖ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ ءَابَآئِهِنَّ أَوْ ءَابَآءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَآئِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَآءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَٰنِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِىٓ إِخْوَٰنِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِىٓ أَخَوَٰتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَآئِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَـٰنُهُنَّ أَوِ ٱلتَّـٰبِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُو۟لِى ٱلْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ ٱلرِّجَالِ أَوِ ٱلطِّفْلِ ٱلَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا۟ عَلَىٰ عَوْرَٰتِ ٱلنِّسَآءِ ۖ وَلَا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِن زِينَتِهِنَّ ۚ وَتُوبُوٓا۟ إِلَى ٱللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَ ٱلْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ ٣١
And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their chastity, and not to reveal their adornments except what normally appears. Let them draw their veils over their chests, and not reveal their ˹hidden˺ adornments except to their husbands, their fathers, their fathers-in-law, their sons, their stepsons, their brothers, their brothers’ sons or sisters’ sons, their fellow women, those ˹bondwomen˺ in their possession, male attendants with no desire, or children who are still unaware of women’s nakedness. Let them not stomp their feet, drawing attention to their hidden adornments. Turn to Allah in repentance all together, O believers, so that you may be successful.
— Dr. Mustafa Khattab, the Clear Quran
this verse is also proof they didn't cover up completely their necks and chests before revelation of the ayah
AbwaanCali
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@Adeersyber Why do you have a shirtless profile picture on a predominately male forum 
When people speak of hijab its often synonymous with the headscarf not the holistic view of it all including how one conducts themselves.
Also, not all Somali families were brought up with it. I was not. My mother didn't wear it until she was 40. Obviously, if it is a deal breaker to someone (which most of the time it is) don't even bother with them. You have your standards, a certain way you were raised and you shouldn't have to align it with someone else who clearly isn't on the same page at least attire wise. Most Somali women are hijabis anyway so this shouldn't be a point up for discussion.
What I do find odd is insinuating that a woman without a headscarf is some how engaging in vice (other than not wearing it). You wouldn't believe how many nimaan are shocked when I tell them I don't even date, never committed zina, don't drink, don't smoke nor do I take any over the counter medication (haven't for 20 years) and the like. As though my intrinsic values must be indicative of attire alone (even though there is some correlate). There are tiers to the headscarf just like there are tiers to women who don't wear it. No one cares for nuance though. That's what I find more troubling.Its like they also expect you to exercise your options due to physical attractiveness and are gob smacked when that couldn't be further the truth. Men are very unique creatures. Hence, why I usually stay clear from them. And mostly engage with people for professional or academic purposes.
When I do where the headscarf (I'A) I won't pursue these men who think I'm only wearing it for them or that there is some nefarious past I'm trying to cover up. Nope. The last thing you want in your life is a paranoid or controlling man that is ego encapsulated and can't even trust you. Even when you prefer to lead with authenticity. Why mistrust someone who puts on the headscarf even if its later? I find that very odd. Shouldn't the goal be to promote it?
You need to wear the headscarf first which I am sure would bring out your cute somali features even more. Small steps. Also, I wouldn't recommend the full blown Somali Hijab as that is unncessary. What they call Cabbayad, the type Arabs dress is sufficient with the headscarf. My recommendation for you boils down to the picture below.
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I find that type of dressing both conservative and fashionable. Serves and checks all purposes for unmarried young females.
The answer to your question is Yes as Hijab doesn't define the whole of a woman. A more off putting characteristics in a female would be partying, smoking, drinking, and sleeping around. In My view then, and provided she is somali, her personality and views on things are more important than her Hijab status minus the bad behaviours I listed that are negative for males and females alike anyway.
AbwaanCali
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You can find a woman who wears hijab and doesn't party. They tend to go hand in hand.
If she wears it after we get married then yes. I don’t see it as a big deal.
There is nothing more gay than what you’re posting online.
Wallahi billahi your type of profile picture is commonly used by gay men on twitter and I’m not making this up.
AbwaanCali
Hot like shaax, cool like jalaato
We need a seperate thread just to have this man address the khaniis allegations. It's not looking good.
