Would you marry a high-maintenance man/woman?

[Xaruun]

But most are though lool. They lack balance. If they’re good looking, they’re lazy and skate off their looks and don’t have an ambitious drive. Most of the well-to do Somali men (Doctors, Lawyers, Engineers) are average looking, and I’m putting that nicely.

@Nak-Muay-Kru Pretty girls get a bad rep and men tend to assume that they’re negative right off the bat. There are beautiful, well rounded women. It’s not either/or.

The attractive and well-to-do men are naturally scarce (The top 20% of the top 5%) and won’t stay on the market for more than 2 seconds.

Hey this is off topic. But do you think men associate really pretty girls with buq and other negative qualities?

Same with highly attractive women who are also good people. Top 10% attractivenss and top 20% personality. That’s like 2% of women. Imagine adding other stuff like deen and no history to this. 0.25%

 

[Angelina]

But most are though lool. They lack balance. If they’re good looking, they’re lazy and skate off their looks and don’t have an ambitious drive. Most of the well-to do Somali men (Doctors, Lawyers, Engineers) are average looking, and I’m putting that nicely.

@Nak-Muay-Kru Pretty girls get a bad rep and men tend to assume that they’re negative right off the bat. There are beautiful, well rounded women. It’s not either/or.

The whole men having issues with pretty girls is new to me. I'd love to hear other men's perspective on this.

So if she is overly pretty would they refrain from approaching, dating ect?

I also assumed only very insecure guys thought this way. @Nak-Muay-Kru doesn't strike me as the insecure type though.

 

[Desert Flower]

The attractive and well-to-do men are naturally scarce (The top 20% of the top 5%) and won’t stay on the market for more than 2 seconds.

Same with highly attractive women who are also good people. Top 10% attractivenss and top 20% personality. That’s like 2% of women. Imagine adding other stuff like deen and no history to this. 0.25%

Promoting a scarcity mindset. It’s probably why I see plenty of Somali girls throwing themselves at men that I consider not “marriage material” (this is my own experience).

I’d say that the pool of attractive, well to do Somali guys who are good, honest people is very small. But you’ll find their ciyaal suuq counterparts in plenty (just the attractive, well to do part).

 

[Desert Flower]

The whole men having issues with pretty girls is new to me. I'd love to hear other men's perspective on this.

So if she is overly pretty would they refrain from approaching, dating ect?

I also assumed only very insecure guys thought this way. @Nak-Muay-Kru doesn't strike me as the insecure type though.

I’d love to hear it too. I’ve heard that if the girl is very pretty, they assume she has a past.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

The whole men having issues with pretty girls is new to me. I'd love to hear other men's perspective on this.

So if she is overly pretty would they refrain from approaching, dating ect?

I also assumed only very insecure guys thought this way. @Nak-Muay-Kru doesn't strike me as the insecure type though.

Maybe I worded it weirdly. l personally wouldn't go out of my way to avoid pretty girls, but I've just come to the realization that must of the time the juice isn't worth the squeeze. Are there pretty girls who have a good head on their shoulders? Absolutely. But 9/10, they can be really guarded and come with more confidence/trust issues than your avg girl.

A legit 8-10 Syrian mate of mine told me something along the lines of "it's hard to discern between the guys who genuinely like me as a person and to pursuit something long term, and those who'll fake a connection just so they can f*ck me." So I completely understand why they can come across as cold/guarded etc.

I'll still approach attractive girls, but I'm x10 more flighty. If I get a whiff that she still needs to work on some deep-seated issues, I'll peace the f*ck out. I've got other priorities and going on a journey of self-exploration with some girl I might not even end up marrying is a waste of my time and hers. Don't know about other guys, but that's been my personal experience

 

[Xaruun]

Maybe I worded it weirdly. l personally wouldn't go out of my way to avoid pretty girls, but I've just come to the realization that must of the time the juice isn't worth the squeeze. Are there pretty girls who have a good head on their shoulders? Absolutely. But 9/10, they can be really guarded and come with more confidence/trust issues than your avg girl.

A legit 8-10 Syrian mate of mine told me something along the lines of "it's hard to discern between the guys who genuinely like me as a person and to pursuit something long term, and those who'll fake a connection just so they can f*ck me." So I completely understand why they can come across as cold/guarded etc.

I'll still approach attractive girls, but I'm x10 more flighty. If I get a whiff that she still needs to work on some deep-seated issues, I'll peace the f*ck out. I've got other priorities and going on a journey of self-exploration with some girl I might not even end up marrying is a waste of my time and hers. This doesn't obviously apply to all men, it's just my personal experience

Would you say 6/10 girls are harder to get than beautiful girls?

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Would you say 6/10 girls are harder to get than beautiful girls?

A 4/10 who's not really feeling you is x100 harder to graft than a legit dime. It's all comes down to whether they find you attractive or not wallahi, that's like 80% of the battle. A girl who legitimately likes will make things unbelievably easy for you. If you're having to jump through hoops, she's not really that into you.

 

[Angelina]

A 4/10 who's not really feeling you is x100 harder to graft than a legit dime. It's all comes down to whether they find you attractive or not wallahi, that's like 80% of the battle. A girl who legitimately likes will make things unbelievably easy for you. If you're having to jump through hoops, she's not really that into you.

Hm I wouldn't say that. I can like a guy, but I would most definitely be a bit guarded in the beginning to ascertain his level of seriousness and character. I've noticed men can devalue you when you make it too easy, well dumb ones and that isn't something you'll know straight away. In the age of social media, people think they have more options than they really have, men in particular.

 

[Xaruun]

Hm I wouldn't say that. I can like a guy, but I would most definitely be a bit guarded in the beginning to ascertain his level of seriousness and character. I've noticed men can devalue you when you make it too easy, well dumb ones and that isn't something you'll know straight away. In the age of social media, people think they have more options than they really have, men in particular.

So you’ll test him first then make it easy after?

 

[Angelina]

So you’ll test him first then make it easy after?

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[Desert Flower]

Hm I wouldn't say that. I can like a guy, but I would most definitely be a bit guarded in the beginning to ascertain his level of seriousness and character. I've noticed men can devalue you when you make it too easy, well dumb ones and that isn't something you'll know straight away. In the age of social media, people think they have more options than they really have, men in particular.

So true.

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[bluebird]

LOL most men wont admit it but they prefer the high maintenance woman who gives them a lot of do. if the wife is a naag nool type who is strong independent and dont need no man but does everything for her husband expecting very little in return, they bounce

I've literally never seen a naag nool and her lazy husband in a marriage that lasted more than 5 years. but the stressed out men who's wives are living large remain married for years, ever wonder why that is?

 

[Desert Flower]

LOL most men wont admit it but they prefer the high maintenance woman who gives them a lot of do. if the wife is a naag nool type who is strong independent and dont need no man but does everything for her husband expecting very little in return, they bounce

I've literally never seen a naag nool and her lazy husband in a marriage that lasted more than 5 years. but the stressed out men who's wives are living large remain married for years, ever wonder why that is?

Because they’ve invested a lot (money wise). It’s cheaper to keep her. It’s why it’s important to command excellence and to not make things too easy for a man. They don’t respect that.

 

[greyhound stone]

LOL most men wont admit it but they prefer the high maintenance woman who gives them a lot of do. if the wife is a naag nool type who is strong independent and dont need no man but does everything for her husband expecting very little in return, they bounce

I've literally never seen a naag nool and her lazy husband in a marriage that lasted more than 5 years. but the stressed out men who's wives are living large remain married for years, ever wonder why that is?

I think it cause the invested a lot of time and resources into this relationships

 

[bluebird]

I think it cause the invested a lot of time and resources into this relationships

Because they’ve invested a lot (money wise). It’s cheaper to keep her. It’s why it’s important to command excellence and to not make things too easy for a man. They don’t respect that.

interesting guys. I never thought of that... I thought it had more to do with biological instinct to be a " breadwinner"

 

[greyhound stone]

I'd pick women I can most relate to. Women's look isn't that big of a deal for tbh. It's more about future and compatibility. I could have a average looking female who takes care if her health and hygiene(necessary) than a 10/10 looking woman that I don't relate to and can't see myself building with. High matinance women aren't all that tbh. Life is journey and I can only bring those worthy with me.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Hm I wouldn't say that. I can like a guy, but I would most definitely be a bit guarded in the beginning to ascertain his level of seriousness and character. I've noticed men can devalue you when you make it too easy, well dumb ones and that isn't something you'll know straight away. In the age of social media, people think they have more options than they really have, men in particular.

Nope. I don't play games, I can be autistically blunt if I'm serious about someone. Nor do I have to time to wait around whilst some girl "assesses" my level of interest/consistency etc. I have better things to be doing, so does she. If they want to play detective and pieces together the intricacies of my character, that's on them lol. The girls who've really liked me and vice-versa, didn't do that. It was a relatively hassle and stress free experience, no background checks, no weird "vetting" shit. Just straight to the point.

So you’ll test him first then make it easy after?

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[Angelina]

Nope. I don't play games, nor do I have to time to wait around whilst a girl "assesses" my level of interest/consistency etc. I have better things to be doing, so does she. If they want to play detective and pieces together the intricacies of my character, that's on them lol. The girls who've really liked me and vice-versa, didn't do that. It was a relatively hassle-free experience, no background checks, no weird "vetting" shit. Just straight to the point.

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From a woman's perspective, not assessing a guy' s consistency and not vetting his character is a recipe for hearbreak. Lets be real, some men are fboys, some are confused and flakey and want to play the field, some are simply emotionally unavailable.

Clearly, you're a straightforward no nonsense guy, many men aren't. Sometimes, they don't even do it to be malicious, but sadly they talk a big talk and women get sucked in.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

From a woman's perspective, not assessing a guy' s consistency and not vetting his character is a recipe for hearbreak. Lets be real, some men are fboys, some are confused and flakey and want to play the field, some are simply emotionally unavailable.

Clearly, you're a straightforward no nonsense guy, many men aren't. Sometimes, they don't even do it to be malicious, but sadly they talk a big talk and women get sucked in.

Fair enough. I understand why some girls keep their distance, but I'm just apathetic to it now. I don't care anymore. I didn't personally break their heart or mess them about, so I'm not paying for some other guy's f*ck up nor am I cleaning up his mess. "Oh you have trust issues and wna take your time, no worries, laters ✌."

 

[Netflix]

This high low maintenance crap is bullshit a girl will take a good looking bum any day over a average looking doctor. A guy is different because we are attracted to a great majority of females so we care about the buuq of women. Basically because women are attracted to so few men they have to put up them because they can’t replace them. But men are attracted to the majority of females so we can easily replace a 9/10 woman with another 9/10 woman.