Would you judge a Somali person who doesn't hang out with Somali people?

[Wervelwind]

In the community

 

[Halimo-2018]

No. Somalis can be toxic.is good to keep your distance

 

[Alluring]

No, they are smart for not making attachments to people based off a shared ethnicity. Too many people get led astray for hanging around the wrong crowd of Somalis.

 

[XalimosVeryOwn]

To be honest, I am someone who hangs out with more black ppl than Somalis. So many Somali girls where I am from, are fake as f--- for no reason! I know, one bad apple ruins the tree or whatever, but wlh majority of them are all the same. They love talking badly of other's apperances, and if they have dirt on them, they spread it around so the whole community (my age) knows. I even was lied upon and set up over a lie, by like 10 somali people. And these are the same people that came here from the war? I just cut them off pretty much, and I don't trust a somali girl. And worst part, they side with galoos before they will side with you.

 

[Juliet]

To be honest, I am someone who hangs out with more black ppl than Somalis. So many Somali girls where I am from, are fake as f--- for no reason! I know, one bad apple ruins the tree or whatever, but wlh majority of them are all the same. They love talking badly of other's apperances, and if they have dirt on them, they spread it around so the whole community (my age) knows. I even was lied upon and set up over a lie, by like 10 somali people. And these are the same people that came here from the war? I just cut them off pretty much, and I don't trust a somali girl. And worst part, they side with galoos before they will side with you.

Seems like you know some really trashy people. I know a few catty cadaan girls where I live, but most of my friends are cadaans too. I don’t judge them because of the few toxic ones i’ve come across. you should try doing that. After all, hundreds of thousands of people don’t have the exact same personality

 

[XalimosVeryOwn]

Seems like you know some really trashy people. I know a few catty cadaan girls where I live, but most of my friends are cadaans too. I don’t judge them because of the few toxic ones i’ve come across. you should try doing that. After all, hundreds of thousands of people don’t have the exact same personality

Your right, thank you abayo. For some reason, I am the type to like hold a grudge and try to put the same revenge on someone so we can be equal, which is not right to do. Honestly, since I could remember, Somali girls my age just did not like talking to me and if some of them even did they would be fake behind my back. I just think cause of my Childhood Trauma, and what happened when I was younger is why like I think that every somali girl is the same to me which isn't true. Thank you for this though, your right and I appreciate that. I am going to try to not think of those negative thoughts, and hope Allah SWT can forgive me for any negative thoughts I had upon this.

 

[QueenofKings]

Generally speaking I wouldn’t judge, it’s the persons choice who they get along with. But I’ve met a few people who seem to actively avoid other Somalis - I judge them. They’re usually self hating and ignorant.

 

[مسافر]

Your right, thank you abayo. For some reason, I am the type to like hold a grudge and try to put the same revenge on someone so we can be equal, which is not right to do. Honestly, since I could remember, Somali girls my age just did not like talking to me and if some of them even did they would be fake behind my back. I just think cause of my Childhood Trauma, and what happened when I was younger is why like I think that every somali girl is the same to me which isn't true. Thank you for this though, your right and I appreciate that. I am going to try to not think of those negative thoughts, and hope Allah SWT can forgive me for any negative thoughts I had upon this.

How many somali chicks got traumas man - what did your dad/uncle do to you as a kid? This shit is concerning me now. Not the first time I read a Xalimo mentioning her childhood trauma

 

[QueenofKings]

How many somali chicks got traumas man - what did your dad/uncle do to you as a kid? This shit is concerning me now. Not the first time I read a Xalimo mentioning her childhood trauma

Not talking about this sister because I don’t know her life.

But generally assume every type of abuse that you hear happens in a ajinabi or gaal household happens in a Somali household. We are all humans and bad people exist everywhere. We just aren’t as open talking about it in our culture. And if you’re a man you’re even less likely to be told about the few cases that do come to light.

 

[XalimosVeryOwn]

How many somali chicks got traumas man - what did your dad/uncle do to you as a kid? This shit is concerning me now. Not the first time I read a Xalimo mentioning her childhood trauma

Alx, my dad/uncle did nothing to me as a child, but I just have really bad trust issues. My siblings never acknowledged me as their own, and I always felt distant. Constantly ignore me and mock me in front of their friends every chance they had. My parents would be working when I was going to School/Dugsi, and would come home when I would be sleeping. I only counted on my friends as my "family", but it turns out they were fake too.

 

[XalimosVeryOwn]

How many somali chicks got traumas man - what did your dad/uncle do to you as a kid? This shit is concerning me now. Not the first time I read a Xalimo mentioning her childhood trauma

As a somali man, you may not relate to this, but I want you to take a second.

Imagine yourself as a Somali Girl, and then growing up your mom/dad want you to start dressing more modestly "because then you don't have men attention", (mind you, your only like 6). Your also taught how to make food at a young age, and if you ask why, they would say "because when you get married you must cook for your husband". When you go to school/dugsi, your taught not to talk to the other gender "because it's not good to talk to boys." And then, sometimes some men will take your innocence for granted and you know, subhanallah do that horrible thing to you. And your a child, going to primary/elementary, and you don't even know how to count to 30.

Then, your getting into puberty, and your told to "wear bigger clothes, because men will try to get to you". And your like 13, going to middle school. And then, your also not told to be able to talk to the other gender, "because boys going through puberty have a wandering eye". Those uncles you remember as a kid? They will cat call on you now. Men will now cat call you on the streets.

Then, your finishing your studies and now your told to "get married" and "push out children". Your also told to not dress too tightly, wear loose fitting clothes, and if you ask? they will say "because it would be shameful for you to embarrass our family. think about our reputation. You try to bring up the trauma you had with a relative? Most likely your sister/mom/aunt will say "your lying" and "you want attention" and will probably kick you out or disown you. And, your always going to be blamed for what your younger sibling does, because your supposed to be a mentor for them.

When you get married, and have kids, 9/10 this cycle will restart and your most likely going to treat your daughter the same way because you were raised as this to be "normal".

I didn't mean to write a whole essay about this, but Somali boys like you don't even understand how its like to be a woman. All you do is just go outside, your parents don't even care how long you stay out, while us females we have to be told what to do and where to go and if you come home at this time we will kick you out. And to top it all off, your mom will most likely tell her friends/relatives every single embarrassing story about you. So next time you want to comment about our "trauma" make sure to think about this story I written for you. Because it happens a lot, to somali girls everywhere.

 

[مسافر]

Not talking about this sister because I don’t know her life.

But generally assume every type of abuse that you hear happens in a ajinabi or gaal household happens in a Somali household. We are all humans and bad people exist everywhere. We just aren’t as open talking about it in our culture. And if you’re a man you’re even less likely to be told about the few cases that do come to light.

Alx, my dad/uncle did nothing to me as a child, but I just have really bad trust issues. My siblings never acknowledged me as their own, and I always felt distant. Constantly ignore me and mock me in front of their friends every chance they had. My parents would be working when I was going to School/Dugsi, and would come home when I would be sleeping. I only counted on my friends as my "family", but it turns out they were fake too.

لَا حَوْلَ وَلَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِٱللَّٰهِ

 

[Shimbiris]

As a somali man, you may not relate to this, but I want you to take a second.

Imagine yourself as a Somali Girl, and then growing up your mom/dad want you to start dressing more modestly "because then you don't have men attention", (mind you, your only like 6). Your also taught how to make food at a young age, and if you ask why, they would say "because when you get married you must cook for your husband". When you go to school/dugsi, your taught not to talk to the other gender "because it's not good to talk to boys." And then, sometimes some men will take your innocence for granted and you know, subhanallah do that horrible thing to you. And your a child, going to primary/elementary, and you don't even know how to count to 30.

Then, your getting into puberty, and your told to "wear bigger clothes, because men will try to get to you". And your like 13, going to middle school. And then, your also not told to be able to talk to the other gender, "because boys going through puberty have a wandering eye". Those uncles you remember as a kid? They will cat call on you now. Men will now cat call you on the streets.

Then, your finishing your studies and now your told to "get married" and "push out children". Your also told to not dress too tightly, wear loose fitting clothes, and if you ask? they will say "because it would be shameful for you to embarrass our family. think about our reputation. You try to bring up the trauma you had with a relative? Most likely your sister/mom/aunt will say "your lying" and "you want attention" and will probably kick you out or disown you. And, your always going to be blamed for what your younger sibling does, because your supposed to be a mentor for them.

When you get married, and have kids, 9/10 this cycle will restart and your most likely going to treat your daughter the same way because you were raised as this to be "normal".

I didn't mean to write a whole essay about this, but Somali boys like you don't even understand how its like to be a woman. All you do is just go outside, your parents don't even care how long you stay out, while us females we have to be told what to do and where to go and if you come home at this time we will kick you out. And to top it all off, your mom will most likely tell her friends/relatives every single embarrassing story about you. So next time you want to comment about our "trauma" make sure to think about this story I written for you. Because it happens a lot, to somali girls everywhere.

I knew very well about most of the rest but the sexual abuse, abayo... Is it truly common in your experience?

 

[Aurelian]

Have any of you heard this sentence of your hooyos?
" Soomaalida ka leexda !" mine was having a meet with her friend and that eedo said" waa sax, soomaalidan wey ku xumeenayan ka leexo"

 

[Shimbiris]

Have any of you heard this sentence of your hooyos?
" Soomaalida ka leexda !" mine was having a meet with her friend and that eedo said" waa sax, soomaalidan wey ku xumeenayan ka leexo"

I have two cousins whose parents didn't really teach them Somali. Mother spoke it to them sparingly and the father spoke it more but was usually away for work. Their mom did this deliberately so they wouldn't be exposed to Somalis and all the qabilism and craziness that can go around and basically have mostly Ajanabi friends. Regrettable choice, though.

The boys are now adults and were raised very firmly within the deen and one of them is being groomed to take over the reins of his dad's business holdings in the Horn whereas the other lives in Canada but because of his firm religiosity and cultural pride despite barely speaking Somali wants to marry within the ethnic group and deen and is now engaged to a nice Somali girl. I can see how sad they feel about the state of their Somali now, especially the one who needs it for business. Parents should really think ahead when they make decisions like this. Don't make willy nilly decisions with a person's whole life.

 

[Ismail99]

As a somali man, you may not relate to this, but I want you to take a second.

Imagine yourself as a Somali Girl, and then growing up your mom/dad want you to start dressing more modestly "because then you don't have men attention", (mind you, your only like 6). Your also taught how to make food at a young age, and if you ask why, they would say "because when you get married you must cook for your husband". When you go to school/dugsi, your taught not to talk to the other gender "because it's not good to talk to boys." And then, sometimes some men will take your innocence for granted and you know, subhanallah do that horrible thing to you. And your a child, going to primary/elementary, and you don't even know how to count to 30.

Then, your getting into puberty, and your told to "wear bigger clothes, because men will try to get to you". And your like 13, going to middle school. And then, your also not told to be able to talk to the other gender, "because boys going through puberty have a wandering eye". Those uncles you remember as a kid? They will cat call on you now. Men will now cat call you on the streets.

Then, your finishing your studies and now your told to "get married" and "push out children". Your also told to not dress too tightly, wear loose fitting clothes, and if you ask? they will say "because it would be shameful for you to embarrass our family. think about our reputation. You try to bring up the trauma you had with a relative? Most likely your sister/mom/aunt will say "your lying" and "you want attention" and will probably kick you out or disown you. And, your always going to be blamed for what your younger sibling does, because your supposed to be a mentor for them.

When you get married, and have kids, 9/10 this cycle will restart and your most likely going to treat your daughter the same way because you were raised as this to be "normal".

I didn't mean to write a whole essay about this, but Somali boys like you don't even understand how its like to be a woman. All you do is just go outside, your parents don't even care how long you stay out, while us females we have to be told what to do and where to go and if you come home at this time we will kick you out. And to top it all off, your mom will most likely tell her friends/relatives every single embarrassing story about you. So next time you want to comment about our "trauma" make sure to think about this story I written for you. Because it happens a lot, to somali girls everywhere.

That's good parents that cares about you mashAllah

 

[Maxaa kaa galay]

As a somali man, you may not relate to this, but I want you to take a second.

Imagine yourself as a Somali Girl, and then growing up your mom/dad want you to start dressing more modestly "because then you don't have men attention", (mind you, your only like 6). Your also taught how to make food at a young age, and if you ask why, they would say "because when you get married you must cook for your husband". When you go to school/dugsi, your taught not to talk to the other gender "because it's not good to talk to boys." And then, sometimes some men will take your innocence for granted and you know, subhanallah do that horrible thing to you. And your a child, going to primary/elementary, and you don't even know how to count to 30.

Then, your getting into puberty, and your told to "wear bigger clothes, because men will try to get to you". And your like 13, going to middle school. And then, your also not told to be able to talk to the other gender, "because boys going through puberty have a wandering eye". Those uncles you remember as a kid? They will cat call on you now. Men will now cat call you on the streets.

Then, your finishing your studies and now your told to "get married" and "push out children". Your also told to not dress too tightly, wear loose fitting clothes, and if you ask? they will say "because it would be shameful for you to embarrass our family. think about our reputation. You try to bring up the trauma you had with a relative? Most likely your sister/mom/aunt will say "your lying" and "you want attention" and will probably kick you out or disown you. And, your always going to be blamed for what your younger sibling does, because your supposed to be a mentor for them.

When you get married, and have kids, 9/10 this cycle will restart and your most likely going to treat your daughter the same way because you were raised as this to be "normal".

I didn't mean to write a whole essay about this, but Somali boys like you don't even understand how its like to be a woman. All you do is just go outside, your parents don't even care how long you stay out, while us females we have to be told what to do and where to go and if you come home at this time we will kick you out. And to top it all off, your mom will most likely tell her friends/relatives every single embarrassing story about you. So next time you want to comment about our "trauma" make sure to think about this story I written for you. Because it happens a lot, to somali girls everywhere.

Why didnt your siblings acknowledge you as their own?

 

[Jiron]

I try not to judge people but those who exclusively avoid their people and paint them in a negative light are not being honest with themselves. Some of them come back down the line, once they realize the same traits can be found in ajnabis too.

 

[Mozart]

Only Somali people I interact with are my family and those on this site

 

[Hali]

No the Somali community is too small and they have no filter and there’s nothing called privacy