women come in!!

[YoungFarah]

Yea, I understand that but what makes you think it won't be a long term marriage? And income disparity is bound to happen here. His vetting process doesn't look too strict [since he literally only wants someone who will play wife in front of his parents]. I'm not sure where he's from but it definitely doesn't hurt to be aware of the laws in one's region regardless. And he didn't mention a contract at all though, so I think that he's expecting to 'surprise' her once she is already committed.

I don't think he's looking for a Muslim wife...but if he is, I'd imagine that it would be almost impossible to find a normal Muslim woman that would be okay with not having kids (because the parental/cultural pressure on her side would push her to reproduce also). Thus, he'd have to look elsewhere (non-religious women) if he perceives marriage as a requirement.

As for the not cheating thing, nah...it's not as simple as that. If the woman was too religious to cheat, I assume that she'd be too religious to engage in pre-marital intercourse as well. That means she would be signing up to be a virgin for the rest of her life (that's some monk type sh!t). The average woman has biological needs that need to be met and...so, he'd have to luck out with either an ace, a low libido woman, or a woman with strong willpower who doesn't mind the terms of such a marriage. Again, highly unlikely.

I don't think they have to rule out sex. I'm guessing they can have sex all like as long as they don't have kids.

 

[paramedic]

Yea, I understand that but what makes you think it won't be a long term marriage? And income disparity is bound to happen here. His vetting process doesn't look too strict [since he literally only wants someone who will play wife in front of his parents]. I'm not sure where he's from but it definitely doesn't hurt to be aware of the laws in one's region regardless. And he didn't mention a contract at all though, so I think that he's expecting to 'surprise' her once she is already committed.

I don't think he's looking for a Muslim wife...but if he is, I'd imagine that it would be almost impossible to find a normal Muslim woman that would be okay with not having kids (because the parental/cultural pressure on her side would push her to reproduce also). Thus, he'd have to look elsewhere (non-religious women) if he perceives marriage as a requirement.

As for the not cheating thing, nah...it's not as simple as that. If the woman was too religious to cheat, I assume that she'd be too religious to engage in pre-marital intercourse as well. That means she would be signing up to be a virgin for the rest of her life (that's some monk type sh!t). The average woman has biological needs that need to be met and...so, he'd have to luck out with either an ace, a low libido woman, or a woman with strong willpower who doesn't mind the terms of such a marriage. Again, highly unlikely.

1) the average women with libido will become increasingly frustrated to the point where money isn't worth it. A big home with no man (insane work week) or kids will get lonely real fast. So any normal women would prefer to get divorced in a relatively short time if they wanted a man and kids and didn't get either of that.

2) income disparity isn't as amazing as you think it is. If it's a short term she can't claim the argument that she's become accustomed to the grand lifestyle. The small lump sum I was thinking of was when they sell the matrimonial home, she's not entitled to spousal support when they are both young and the marriage was short, she is able to bounce back super quickly so support if any would be minimal at best.

3) He asked on a predominantly Muslim forum so I gave him an answer befitting that. It's true that gaals would be more likely to accept that, esp ppl that call themselves asexuals. But remember he's getting married bc of parental pressure, so a Somali wife is most likely.

4) I'm religious and will never do extra marital anything, If my guy is incompetent then I'm not staying around for that,
And I agree w the last part: either you (very very very rare) luck out and find a religious woman who secretly doesn't want kids, get a gaal who identifies as asexual (they're part of the gays parade though lmfaooo good luck w that) or a gold digger who thinks your income is the best she's ever going to get (long term marriage w high likelihood of divorce, miserable throughout)

 

[Sophisticate]

Yes; we can have a soul-to-soul connection. However, you work far too much and get paid too little in proportion. I must be handsomely compensated, for not carrying minions. Just look at me!

 

[leeroy jenkins]

I don't really label it beyond that tbh. Just an individual who believes in equality *but with a starting point from the female perspective (since I think that a lot of ['low tier'] men's issues originates from devaluing females).

In the future we might even see topless xalimos running amok in parliaments all over the west.Just thinking about half naked xalimos, makes not want raise a family in europe or America.

 

[TooMacaan]

I don't think they have to rule out sex. I'm guessing they can have sex all like as long as they don't have kids.

Lol nah, he said he's ruling out all of it.

 

[YoungFarah]

Lol nah, he said he's ruling out all of it.

Then that's some weird shit. He needs to come out as asexual then.

 

[TooMacaan]

1) the average women with libido will become increasingly frustrated to the point where money isn't worth it. A big home with no man (insane work week) or kids will get lonely real fast. So any normal women would prefer to get divorced in a relatively short time if they wanted a man and kids and didn't get either of that.

2) income disparity isn't as amazing as you think it is. If it's a short term she can't claim the argument that she's become accustomed to the grand lifestyle. The small lump sum I was thinking of was when they sell the matrimonial home, she's not entitled to spousal support when they are both young and the marriage was short, she is able to bounce back super quickly so support if any would be minimal at best.

3) He asked on a predominantly Muslim forum so I gave him an answer befitting that. It's true that gaals would be more likely to accept that, esp ppl that call themselves asexuals. But remember he's getting married bc of parental pressure, so a Somali wife is most likely.

4) I'm religious and will never do extra marital anything, If my guy is incompetent then I'm not staying around for that,
And I agree w the last part: either you (very very very rare) luck out and find a religious woman who secretly doesn't want kids, get a gaal who identifies as asexual (they're part of the gays parade though lmfaooo good luck w that) or a gold digger who thinks your income is the best she's ever going to get (long term marriage w high likelihood of divorce, miserable throughout)

Exactly, no normal woman (esp a Somali Muslim woman) would take his offer. That's why I advised him not to even bother with the marriage in the first place. Too risky.
He'll either attract calculating & dedicated gold diggers who: don't care to have kids, will cheat & tolerate the misery until they pass at least 5 years, and save up yearly from joint account (?). Or he'll meet a normal woman who will dip after she realizes that she can't handle that lifestyle. Or he'll meet a unicorn who shares the same values and life plan.
Most likely, it'll be woman 2 (the normal one who leaves).

 

[TooMacaan]

In the future we might even see topless xalimos running amok in parliaments all over the west.Just thinking about half naked xalimos, makes not want raise a family in europe or America.

If that's the worst thing you can imagine, the future isn't that bad tbh.

 

[leeroy jenkins]

If that's the worst thing you can imagine, the future isn't that bad tbh.

The worst thing would be fathering a khanis son or a daughter. Other than that, there's not much that scares me.
What about you abayoo.

 

[OmarLittle]

Whats the point of marriage if you dont want kids?

Well, how about if they don't want children and don't want to commit Zina? You want niggas to live their lives like they're asexual, lol.

 

[Garaad Darawiish]

Are you trolling rn???
You want to put half of your income at risk...and you're not even getting s-x or children in return

Word of advice; don't even get married sxb!
I understand how tough parental pressure can be but it's just not worth it. At the end of the day, it's your life and YOU're gonna be the one impacted by the consequences of your decisions/actions, not them.

im not trolling and i dont know why you are seeing it that way. See, getting married is an expectation and its definitely not a question of 'if' but 'when' in the average somali household. I will fulfill those requirements but i will make it clear to my potential wife that i will NOT be having sex with her.

 

[Garaad Darawiish]

There are some women who naturally or voluntarily don't want kids but will never mention it for fear of being ostracized. May Allah give you the best partner for you ameen

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Well that's a toughy then. I would suggest a barren divorcée but she might not like being left alone very few do. Your best case scenario would be online dating but I gotta be honest, this situation would sound a bit suspicious

its not suspicous. i will not be sleeping with other women behind her back. Personally, i want to live for myself first and foremost and kids(for me) are burdensome. Sex, i can live without.

 

[Garaad Darawiish]

No, not good enough.

I believe everyone should have 2 kids
Maximum everywhere and no more.

I would like to sterilise those Indians,
Their population is out of control
It stands at 1.334 billion currently!

They make up 17th percent of the world
Population. This is insane!

hmm, i think its a matter of perspective. You may see kids as a necessity in life but i dont share those views. LIVE AND LET LIVE is my mantra

 

[Garaad Darawiish]

adoption it is

id rather have a kid than adopt tbh. so Adoption is also a big NO-NO.

 

[Garaad Darawiish]

If she wants to sleep with other men while i am at work then im untying the knot. simple as that. To avoid that scenario( as unlikely as it seems in a muslim household), we will come to a mutual understanding beforehand.

 

[Garaad Darawiish]

Yes; we can have a soul-to-soul connection. However, you work far too much and get paid too little in proportion. I must be handsomely compensated, for not carrying minions. Just look at me!

well, my philosophy is 'live for yourself'. Before, we think about having kids,wives etc what have i accomplished in my life? Thats the question i need to answer before i even consider having kids or starting a family. If my wife is not happy with that, then the door is wide open. It will actually give me the excuse i need to get my parents off my back.'i tried marriage, it didnt work and i will not pursue it anymore'.

 

[AussieHustler]

People get married to have a family not a sugar daddy. What that persons looking for is a sugar baby

Black

A family doesn't necessarily mean children included, a husband and wife could be a family.

Omer

Do Somalis discuss the amount of children they want to have or is it f*ck and wait for the next pregnancy? I just met an old neighbour, she is 27 with 8 kids and is recently divorced. She looks older than Hillary Clinton. Too many child births ages women.

 

[bluebird]

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its not suspicous. i will not be sleeping with other women behind her back. Personally, i want to live for myself first and foremost and kids(for me) are burdensome. Sex, i can live without.

That's not what I meant. For most women if u told them that their first though would be someone suppressing homo feelings and wants to marry to save face. I know its not ur situation but this is how they think

 

[Garaad Darawiish]

That's not what I meant. For most women if u told them that their first though would be someone suppressing homo feelings and wants to marry to save face. I know its not ur situation but this is how they think

well women who think like that are feeble minded and naiive. I dont want sex= ur gay wtf.

 

[agnes]

If he wanted to wait a couple of years I'd be ok with that, but I wouldn't stay with him if he didn't want kids all.

Wait! What? You don't want to do the deed either? :/ Whoever you marry you better let them know ahead of time.

Maybe you will fall in love someday and you will want to do all these things you think you don't want now.