Why is it the average/ below average earning men worried about gold diggers

[Rocktheboat]

@Ragnimo use your words

 

[Yaraye]

@Ragnimo use your words

yes. he gave me qashiin like a gazillion times and didn't say shit Just had a whole list in my notifications of qashiin from him.

 

[JohnCena]

That is why I said as long as it benefits them. Example with the context of Somalis. The men have the upper hand when they marry back home. They simply lie about bringin they to the west but never follow through as they know that they’re merely a means to an end and closer access to leaving Somalia and poverty.

Older richer men in the context of the West will have iron clad prenups and the best lawyers. Their younger and working class wives don’t have the resources and connections or they simply don’t marry them, but actually have proper relationships such as children, living together and everything a wife would get.

Like I mentioned above, some men know how to play the game.

Fam, your initial statement was " Men love gold diggers" and I effectively argued against that.

If you said "Wealthy Men loved younger women" , then your point would've made much more sense, in fact I 100% agree with that. You can also gather peer reviewed research as well to back that claim up.


If you want to go the anectodal route, I can post a list of intelligent men who smash/dash these younger women purely because they just cared for sex and managed to protect all their assets. They were short term relationships as well.

To me, a gold digger can't be a gold digger unless she was able to effectively take a portion of the wealth from their host.

 

[JohnCena]

yes. he gave me qashiin like a gazillion times and didn't say shit Just had a whole list in my notifications of qashiin from him.

What a menace

 

[Abdisamad]

How does that work? Are you planning to dump the women you get with now when she gets older and replace her with a younger model? No wonder why you’re @ing me in the DiCaprio thread.

Not exactly a model, but I'll probably expand gradually, I'll start with one wife, then second, third and lastly fourth, and if I divorce some on the way I'll get a younger one.. But first I gotta save enough money

 

[Angelina]

YES. That was my entire point throughout this entire back and forth

Saxib, I’m not an idiot. I’m fully aware that humans are complex and some men simply value real connections that isn’t simply fueled by sexual attraction and finances and I agree that truly intelligent men with actual emotional intelligence along with a need for compatibility wouldn’t operate that way.

But the reason why I said ‘men love them’ was to not only be hyperbolic but to emphasize how common it is for men to argue that they dislike gold-diggers whilst allowing these women who don’t actually care for them access to some their wealth provided they have access to them sexually. Since average/broke men do not have access to these women physically, their hatred is more pronounced, yet when they’re in a position of wealth/power like when they’re back-home and their social standing changes and are able to play the game to their benefit, their supposed fear of a woman being with them mainly for monetary benefit disappears.

 

[Yaraye]

Not exactly a model, but I'll probably expand gradually, I'll start with one wife, then second, third and lastly fourth, and if I divorce some on the way I'll get a younger one.. But first I gotta save enough money

you...... you are not my uncle are you? my uncle did the same shit. he started with 1 then 2 then 3 then 4. then divorced number 1 got number 5, divorce number 2 got number 6.

 

[JohnCena]

Not exactly a model, but I'll probably expand gradually, I'll start with one wife, then second, third and lastly fourth, and if I divorce some on the way I'll get a younger one.. But first I gotta save enough money

Never change SSPOT, never change....

 

[Abdisamad]

yes. he gave me qashiin like a gazillion times and didn't say shit Just had a whole list in my notifications of qashiin from him.

Like how @Rocktheboat use to do me.. No words just qashin my every comment

 

[JohnCena]

Saxib, I’m not an idiot. I’m fully aware that humans are complex and some men simply value real connections that isn’t simply fueled by sexual attraction and finances and I agree that truly intelligent men with actual emotional intelligence along with a need for compatibility wouldn’t operate that way.

But the reason why I said ‘men love them’ was to not only be hyperbolic but to emphasize how common it is for men to argue that they dislike gold-diggers whilst allowing these women who don’t actually care for them access to some their wealth provided they have access to them sexually. Since average/broke men do not have access to these women physically, their hatred is more pronounced, yet when they’re in a position of wealth/power like when they’re back-home and their social standing changes and are able to play the game to their benefit, their supposed fear of a woman being with them mainly for monetary benefit disappears.

See if you led on with this statement instead of generalizing like your initial statement, it would make sense.

Your initial statement was the equivalent of saying "Women love Old men"

 

[Abdisamad]

you...... you are not my uncle are you? my uncle did the same shit. he started with 1 then 2 then 3 then 4. then divorced number 1 got number 5, divorce number 2 got number 6.

Lool.. I'm not, great minds think alike I guess

 

[Angelina]

Not exactly a model, but I'll probably expand gradually, I'll start with one wife, then second, third and lastly fourth, and if I divorce some on the way I'll get a younger one.. But first I gotta save enough money

Wallahi re-think your stance on marriage. If you want to be polygamous, that’s your business but the whole ‘if I divorce some along the way’ nonsense is without doubt concerning. Just know that some behaviors can be thrown back at us in the dunya. Don’t go around treating other people’s daughters as temporary pleasures you replace after they’re been there for you and gave birth to your kids. Proper superficial way of looking at marriage.

What sucks is that I highly doubt you’d be honest with your future wife. What a bitter and sad future that awaits her.

 

[Yaraye]

Like how @Rocktheboat use to do me.. No words just qashin my every comment

he is a menace

 

[Yaraye]

Lool.. I'm not, great minds think alike I guess

 

[Abdisamad]

Wallahi re-think your stance on marriage. If you want to be polygamous, that’s your business but the whole ‘if I divorce some along the way’ nonsense is without doubt concerning. Just know that some behaviors we see thrown back at us in the dunya. Don’t go around treating other people’s daughters as temporary pleasures you replace after they’re been there for you and gave birth to your kids. Proper superficial way of looking at marriage.

What sucks is that I highly doubt you’d be honest with your future wife. What a bitter and sad future that awaits her.

What if one woman isn't enough? Am I supposed to force myself to stay with that woman and cope with it until I die?

 

[Abdisamad]

he is a menace

I think he lowkey likes you..

 

[Angelina]

you...... you are not my uncle are you? my uncle did the same shit. he started with 1 then 2 then 3 then 4. then divorced number 1 got number 5, divorce number 2 got number 6.

lol, we all have an uncle like that. But sadly for them, their kids hardly ever like them and are only met with fake smiles and are only ever respected out of fear of Allah and never real genuine love like that of a father that was there for his kids and wife.

 

[Abdisamad]

Lol, how old are you?

 

[Yaraye]

I think he lowkey likes you..

Lol, how old are you?

22

 

[Yaraye]

lol, we all have an uncle like that. But sadly for them, their kids hardly ever like them and are only met with fake smiles and are only ever respected out of fear of Allah and never real genuine love like that of a father that was there for his kids and wife.

yeah. that's true. Its for the sake of allah