Making them wear it at a young age helps them grow into it. The more you normalize it, the more likely they are to feel comfortable in it. Pakistanis, Maghrebis, and Arabs don't have their women wearing it as much as we do so that shows that making them wear it young actually works into making them wear it when they're old. Yes, how they actually behave and practice is important but how they present themselves is also important as well. A grown woman who doesn't wear the hijab and a grown woman who does but smokes shisha are both sinning. I hope Allah (subhanu wa tala) guides you and makes you love your deen again.I was talking to my cousin the other day who is super religious and she was talking about how she was disappointed about her two dugsi students not wearing their hijabs, MIND YOU they are both 8 and 9. Why are Somali people like this? I don't see anyone else in the muslim community in the west who is more extreme than Somali people, even Paki's aren't as extreme when it comes to hijab. I feel like Somali's are more obsessed with the image that comes with deen rather than the deen itself. Why should a 5 year old girl be forced to wear hijab, when she doesnt even know the meaning behind it?
Personally I dont wear my hijab anymore after wearing it through 3-18, I didnt even know what I was wearing I just knew it was part of my everyday clothing. By the time I grew older I knew I didnt want to wear it anymore but I didnt want to face backlash from the community so I did it when I graduated. And when I did, I feel like everyone started to perceive me differently, Somali men (mostly fobs) thought I was a loose girl, my mom's friend told her I was caayala suuq and warned my mother I could be up to something, My hooyo snapped! And told her "at least she knew where her daughter wasnt going out smoking shisha and flirting with boys" because thats what the friend's daughter was doing.
Even Arabs feel the need to police me as well, I've had numerous encounters with arab women who would ask me why I'm not wearing a skirt? Why is my hair sticking out? Why am I showing my earrings? YALL at 13 I went out with my older sister (22) and didnt wear a hijab and legit her friend who started wearing her hijab LAST YEAR was talking "where is your sisters hijab" to a 13 year old, can you imagine!
No one else does this to their girls except Somalis. Arabs, Paki's, North Africans they dont force their girls to wear skirts and hijabs the way Somali's do.