Why dont Somali men spend more time with their kids?

[Boogie]

If you see an healthy adult or even a teenage not functioning well. 90% their problems started in their childhood and their parents.

A child development play a huge role for the rest of their life

But why are they acting like we all have deadbeat fathers its very annoying.

 

[Lostbox]

But why are they acting like we all have deadbeat fathers its very annoying.

It doesn't matter if you uppers class or Ghetto Somali family. The father being absence or not valuing bonding time with their children is so common. It like it programmed in are culture

I don't know the true reason why or when it started but that it's a common problem in are community

 

[HiraanBorn]

If you see an healthy adult or even a teenage not functioning well. 90% their problems started in their childhood and their parents.

A child development play a huge role for the rest of their life

Somalis aren't ready to have this conversation yet apparently

 

[Juke]

It doesn't matter if you uppers class or Ghetto Somali family. The father being absence or not valuing bonding time with their children is so common. It like it programmed in are culture

I don't know the true reason why or when it started but that it's a common problem I'm are community

I think there's some elements of misery loves company when ppl talk about this topic

 

[Boogie]

It doesn't matter if you uppers class or Ghetto Somali family. The father being absence or not valuing bonding time with their children is so common. It like it programmed in are culture

I don't know the true reason why or when it started but that it's a common problem in are community

Do u understand what i am saying

 

[Lostbox]

Somalis aren't ready to have this conversation yet apparently

Community meeting

"Let's talk about childhood development and are roles"

 

[HiraanBorn]

Community

"Let's talk about childhood development and are roles"

Exactly

 

[Angelina]

It's easier to be around your kids in the home, and working away your from home isn't exactly a luxury, you still have a job to do.

Its 2021, a lot of women I know work and look after kids. Stop making excuses. I have women in my family who are in the medical field and they still raise their kids

We are not in the 1950s wtf.

The whole point is that when these men are not working, during their free time, they prefer being around their friends rather than their kids. Working mum's don't have that luxury.

 

[HiraanBorn]

I think there's some elements of misery loves company when ppl talk about this topic

I think certain members in this thread are exhibiting elements of brush it under the rug syndrome, wouldn't you say?

 

[Zoobear]

I once knew a man who would openly boast about abandoning his bastard children.

If you're willingly betraying 50% of your own blood and flesh, what can you do to a stranger?

I can only hope that each generation of Somali father's will change more diapers than the previous one's.

 

[Revolutionary]

Its 2021, a lot of women I know work and look after kids. Stop making excuses. I have women in my family who are in the medical field and they still raise their kids

We are not in the 1950s wtf.

The whole point is that when these men are not working, during their free time, they prefer being around their friends rather than their kids. Working mum's don't have that luxury.

You've just contradicted yourself, before you've said you dont have the luxury to not be around your kids, now you say its 2021 and they work and look after kids, if working was the only contrast from mothers and fathers now its gone. Its good that you guys are working, less of a monetary burden. Women in their freetime are usually at home chatting with their relatives and friends at home while the men usually go out with their friends, thats the difference, i still agree that dads need to spend more time with their children. There is nothing to disagree with, you're just looking for something to be mad at.

 

[cawaale]

A man who abandons his kids is a coward. Allah swt will question him about his responsibilities as a father.

There are reasons to abandon your kids in the west as a somali father. 95%+ of somali marriages aren’t registered. Somali dads work 80+ hours weeks as uber drivers or security guards. The house they come home to isn’t theirs, it’s social housing provided to a “single mum with 5 children”. Obviously this fat xalimo isn’t single. She got a hard working husband. One day she lets the benefits get to her head and starts a toxic argument with her man. The farax has been working so long and living there illegally, when she gets toxic he dips, cause he doesn’t want the tax man to find out.

This is different in third world america where the government chases the man to pay reparations.

 

[Juke]

I think certain members in this thread are exhibiting elements of brush it under the rug syndrome, wouldn't you say?

We know where this discourse goes too many times, but by all means carry on

 

[Angelina]

You've just contradicted yourself, before you've said you dont have the luxury to not be around your kids, now you say its 2021 and they work and look after kids, if working was the only contrast from mothers and fathers now its gone. Its good that you guys are working, less of a monetary burden. Women in their freetime are usually at home chatting with their relatives and friends at home while the men usually go out with their friends, thats the difference, i still agree that dads need to spend more time with their children. There is nothing to disagree with, you're just looking for something to be mad at.

You have comprehension issues. They do not have the luxury not to be around their kids when they are NOT working.

We are talking about distant fathers who spend little time around their kids not because they work, but because when they are NOT working they would rather spend time with their mates at the local maqaayad. Women do not have that luxury.

Read and stop finding ways to twist what i'm saying.

Can a hooyo work for several hours and then go out with her girls most days gossiping? No they come home and cook and clean, get the kids to do homework.

 

[Sloane Ranger]

This entire topic is a complete joke.
100% the wife's fault if she can't get her husband to stick around with her buuq and nonsense what type of wife is she?
Calacal and complain is what awaits a man so he might as well save himself for the sake of his sanity.

Did your wife leave you because she wasn't woman enough to handle your delusions ?

 

[Royalflush]

Me reading through pages of calaacal knowing I had a dad and mum

 

[Distant1]

Why do u all got aabo issues then try to project it onto us

Its a general observation

 

[Halimo-2018]

Sometimes fathers have to be away from their kids to feed them they're the exception. Only because a father is with his kids dont mean shit they could be there to be praised by people then turn around abuse and beat them. A good father is very rare. Most men wouldn't even have kids if it wasn't for sex so this ain't a surprise.
Women need to wake up

 

[Distant1]

You have comprehension issues. They do not have the luxury not to be around their kids when they are NOT working.

We are talking about distant fathers who spend little time around their kids not because they work, but because when they are NOT working they would rather spend time with their mates at the local maqaayad. Women do not have that luxury.

Read and stop finding ways to twist what i'm saying.

Can a hooyo work for several hours and then go out with her girls most days gossiping? No they come home and cook and clean, get the kids to do homework.

Very true

 

[Boogie]

Sometimes fathers have to be away from their kids to feed them they're the exception. Only because a father is with his kids dont mean shit they could be there to be praised by people. A good father is very rare. Most men wouldn't even have kids if it wasn't for sex so this ain't a surprise.
Women need to wake up