Why do Somali men take pride in being

[Gibiin-Udug]

Emotionally unavailable. What's wrong with men talking about their feelings?

How come Somali men find it easy to say I love you on the first date but pretend to be emotionally unavailable for the rest of their lives. Smh.

 

[SodoW]

I remember talking about my emotion in front of women once. Big Mistake
I'm Emotionally unavailable because I want to protect myself.

 

[Suldaanka]

We Somali men dont have feelings to express. We keep are shit together like our forefathers.

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

I remember talking about my emotion in front of women once. Big Mistake
I'm Emotionally unavailable because I want to protect myself.

What did they say? Those women are not your friends. If they truly cared, they would cherish the moment you decided to share your feelings with them.

 

[East side]

I love you on first date......who the hell says that and then be emotionally unavailable?

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

We Somali men dont have feelings to express. We keep are shit together like our forefathers.

That's stupid, you're a human being. Everyone has feelings.

I remember when my Faraax cried Infront of me for the first time, it was beautiful, captivating.

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[SodoW]

What did they say? Those women are not your friends. If they truly cared, they would cherish the moment you decided to share your feelings with them.

I'm not falling for this again.
I know who you are, I've read some of the posts you write.
I ain't saying shit no more

 

[Suldaanka]

That's stupid, you're a human being. Everyone has feelings.

I remember when my Faraax cried Infront of me for the first time, it was beautiful, captivating.

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Exactly. I have never seen any of my male relatives cry. I have never cried since becoming an adult. Especially not in front of my females.
They would probably slap me too.

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

I love you on first date......who the hell says that and then be emotionally unavailable?

Somali men are notorious for saying I love you at first sight.

How do you think @Suldaanka bagged not one but two wives. He told them he loves them the moment he met them, now they're wondering where that man went. All he calls them is nayaa now, while complaining about his warehouse shift while he sips Starbucks in Lennox town center.

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

I'm not falling for this again.
I know who you are, I've read some of the posts you write.
I ain't saying shit no more

You've thought wrong.

I'm here to help you. I don't judge. Share your feelings away.

 

[Suldaanka]

Somali men are notorious for saying I love you at first sight.

How do you think @Suldaanka bagged not one but two wives. He told them he loves them the moment he met them, now they're wondering where that man went. All he calls them is nayaa now, while complaining about his warehouse shift while he sips Starbucks in Lennox town center.

How do you know about Lennox.
I said i love you at first sight to the first one.
Second one wey iis adkeyse. Lakiin i got her on the 2 date.
Ka waran

 

[HalimaJ]

The psychopath

1. Some genuinely have no emotions and could have a mild of form of psychopath tendencies. Hence saying 'I love you' on the first date is a way to lure in an attention starved Xalimo.

The emotionally retarded

2. The overally macho, dog eat dog Somali culture, irons out any emotional vulnerability in Somali kids, therefore, as adults it becomes exceedingly hard to express ones emotions. I believe, being emotionally unavailable is a problem with Xalimos as well.

The insecure

3. Severe neediness and low self esteem can have the opposite effect. Men may feel that expressing their real thoughts and feelings to their significant other will diminish their power. As a result they adopt a 'treat them mean, keep them keen' mentality so that they can always be in control of the situation. They wrongly believe this will make them look more masculine, therefore desirable in their partners eyes.

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

How do you know about Lennox.
I said i love you at first sight to the first one.
Second one wey iis adkeyse. Lakiin i got her on the 2 date.
Ka waran

And you showed them the U.S passport after that. Be honest.

 

[Suldaanka]

And you showed them the U.S passport after that. Be honest.

No wallahi. I speak a couple of different dialects. Told them i was from Kismayo. I def didnt want a gold digger.. Ma walantahy. I left America because of that shit.

 

[HalimaJ]

Exactly. I have never seen any of my male relatives cry. I have never cried since becoming an adult. Especially not in front of my females.
They would probably slap me too.

The reason why they would slap you is because they are emotionally unavailable as well. Sad times. You all need healing.

 

[Suldaanka]

1. Some genuinely have no emotions and could have a mild of form of psychopath tendencies. Hence saying 'I love you' on the first date is a way to lure in an attention starved Xalimo.

2. The overally macho, dog eat dog Somali culture, irons out any emotional vulnerability in Somali kids, therefore, as adults it becomes exceedingly hard to express ones emotions. I believe, being emotionally unavailable is a problem with Xalimos as well.

3. Severe neediness and low self esteem can have the opposite effect. Men may feel that expressing their real thoughts and feelings to their significant other will diminish their power. As a result they adapt a 'treat them mean, keep them keen' mentality so that they can always be in control of the situation. They wrongly believe this will make them look more masculine, therefore desirable in their partners eyes.

I could see 2 and 3.

 

[Suldaanka]

The reason why they would slap you in because they are emotional unavailable as well. Sad times. You all need healing.

Waa iiska hadal. If was important they would help me cope with it. Lakiin jiljileec they wouldnt accept no bs. Strong women manshallah

 

[Libaaxseendheer]

An old somali lady was telling me that back in her day the women wouldnt look in the eyes of the husband. Wifes would bring the shah take the shah and come to bed.

 

[Radical]

As a historicalally male dominent species it is expected of us to show apathy in troubling times such as war and famine etc, these are just inherent traits from our ancestors, I assure you it would also be the same for women if we were more matriarchal in the past.

But history has also proven that stereotypcal gender roles tend to change or switch like how high heels and skirts were originally designed for men, and looking at the world today and where we're headed, the line between man and woman will be quite blurry in the near future.

 

[SomaliSteel]

Emotional men are new western thing. Men are 'emotionally unavailable' as normal worldwide. Fathers are supposed to be stoic and reserved not crying and whining like women