What do you mean ‘don’t use the deen’? Listen just because I said men and women are not equal doesn’t mean I’m putting down women. Second of all a wife has to listen to his husband at the end of the day, in Islam a wife has to obey his husband, not in a slave way of course but you have to obey your husband in turn a husband has to respect his wife.
If a wife doesn’t obey his husband then the angels curses the wife (according to the most authentic Hadith) and the wife could go to hell for not being obedient. I suggest you look at a husband and a wife role in Islamic sense not gaal feminist sense.
In a natural way yes, I pay the bills, my wife won’t, I’m the protector, the security, I pay for rent, food etc but my wife has to cook, clean, help the children etc.