'Whitest' half Somali

[Merca]

I met a half Somali guy today (his mother is white, father is Somali) and he's probably the most "whitest" half Somali I've ever seen. He knows absolutely nothing about Somali/a/land or the culture, and the funniest part was that his name is very white. Picture the whitest of white names!

How come that many half Somalis, particularly those born from non-Somali women, don't know anything about their father's background even though they've grown up with both of their parents?

 

[supz]

Cos our culture is qashin

 

[Mohamud]

Because there's a reason some people marry out and I'll leave it at that

 

[Merca]

Because there's a reason some people marry out and I'll leave it at that

But in our culture, the children follow the father, so shouldn't they know their roots and forefathers etc?

 

[maestro]

This is why I won't ever marry out.

Kids end up confused and not sure what they are.

 

[Merca]

Cos our culture is qashin

There are beautiful aspects of our culture though

 

[Merca]

This is why I won't ever marry out.

Kids end up confused and not sure what they are.

I just think it's very important to teach the children both cultures so they won't end up not knowing what they are. I've seen some half Somalis only flaunting their Somali origins, but that was because their father taught them a lot.

 

[Mohamud]

But in our culture, the children follow the father, so shouldn't they know their roots and forefathers etc?

What I mean is some people marry out with the intent of shedding their identity either subconsciously or consciously. Their reasoning for marrying outside their community is sometimes a derivative of that feeling, and with that they don't really have a reason to teach their kid their heritage.

Sometimes it's legit self hate. And there are others that attempt to balance both cultures which is perfectly fine, but it become harder when we're talking about white people in a majority white country. Their culture specifically is engulfing and so easily adaptable. There really isn't room for anything else.

 

[Merca]

What I mean is some people marry out with the intent of shedding their identity either subconsciously or consciously. Their reasoning for marrying outside their community is sometimes a derivative of that feeling, and with that they don't really have a reason to teach their kid their heritage.

Sometimes it's legit self hate. And there are others that attempt to balance both cultures which is perfectly fine, but it become harder when we're talking about white people in a majority white country. Their culture specifically is engulfing and so easily adaptable. There really isn't room for anything else.

You explained it well

 

[maestro]

I just think it's very important to teach the children both cultures so they won't end up not knowing what they are. I've seen some half Somalis only flaunting their Somali origins, but that was because their father taught them a lot.

It's very important yes but how many interracial couples actually take the time to teach kids about both cultures? It just seems a real pain in the ass and no one would do it. Not the average person. Plus the kids will hate being forced to learn all this and will just abandon everything and create their own identity. Check all the confused mixed raced people on Tumblr struggling to come up with ridiculous ideas to identify as.

Btw children will usually adapt the mothers culture since she's with them most of the time.

 

[Mohamud]

Men tend to follow their fathers if they're actually in their lives

 

[Ferrari]

I met a half Somali guy today (his mother is white, father is Somali) and he's probably the most "whitest" half Somali I've ever seen. He knows absolutely nothing about Somali/a/land or the culture, and the funniest part was that his name is very white. Picture the whitest of white names!

How come that many half Somalis, particularly those born from non-Somali women, don't know anything about their father's background even though they've grown up with both of their parents?

will your kids become part of that statistic?

 

[merka]

But in our culture, the children follow the father, so shouldn't they know their roots and forefathers etc?

Actually it's usually the mother that teaches the children language and culture.

 

[Merca]

Actually it's usually the mother that teaches the children language and culture.

Those children won't be seen as Somalis because their father isn't one? You inherit your clan through your father, that's why? Many on this site hold this view.

 

[merka]

Those children won't be seen as Somalis because their father isn't one? You inherit your clan through your father, that's why? Many on this site hold this view.

Yes the kids won't be seen as Somali if the father isn't one. But it's the mother that teaches the kids at home. The father doesn't usually teach the kids, especially when they're young.

 

[Bahal]

Because there's a reason some people marry out and I'll leave it at that

This.

The father ran away from his culture and bleached himself, what makes you think the poor mullato will know any better?

 

[arawelo 2.0]

But in our culture, the children follow the father, so shouldn't they know their roots and forefathers etc?

thats not true at all, probably the complete opposite. half somali children with somali mother are 99% of the time the ones who are more connected to our culture. the whole 'children follow their father' is probably a way to discourage somali women from marrying out. most somali fathers hardly contribute to child rearing so how exactly are they supposed to follow their father.

 

[Hafez]

But in our culture, the children follow the father

That's only in terms of their race and lineage.

 

[arawelo 2.0]

just lineage. genetics wont be any different whether its the mother or the father who is Somali.

 

[Hemaal]

That father must have his reasons. Can't blame him