The mothers that call their daughters sharmuuto/dhillo are just projecting their own ratchet history onto their daughters, they instinctively understand like mother like daughter, and they are absolutely right.This is really common, that poor boy though.
I had a friend and her mother would call her dhillo and sharmuuto for not washing the dishes or cleaning the house. Then on a private FB group for Somali women I saw a lot of women complaining that they hated their mothers for calling them those words when they were little. A lot of Somalis are growing up with issue due to verbal abuse as children.
My parents are from the south and they would never say those words. Swearing is forbidden in our house. The worst my mother has said to me is " thabalyedyeh".somali parents are verbally abusive. from my experience, reer waqooye parents are hostile to their children, reer Djibouti been the worst. My hooyo used to verbally abuse us whenever she had a shitty day. Swear words and habaar ( siilka hooyada was, aabaha was, farakh, dhilo, siil cas, qalad kugudhacday, etc..) were sometimes used in daily conversations.
Reer xamarawi parents on the other hand are pretty shill and easygoing from my experience