What questions are inappropriate to ask a potential spouse?

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What questions are inappropriate to ask a potential spouse?

Please do not troll or derail! I’m seriously inquiring for future personal use.

Is it inappropriate for me to ask if he has committed zina for example? Particularly if the suitor is 30+ and raised in the West?

Can I request he undergoes STD testing prior to accepting a proposal if the answer is yes?

Also can I outright ask how much money he makes? (I would answer the same question if asked)

What questions should a Muslim man or woman ask?

And what should he or she avoid?

Islamically how long can I delay nikah? My family would not be in favour of me marrying anyone I’ve known for less than a year. Particularly if my family does not know his?

How long is common?

Thank you in advance to any and everybody who seriously replies.
 

John Michael

Free my girl Jodi!
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I'm not religious but...

When you ask questions guys tend to give you the answers you want to hear. It's best not to 'interview' someone and just get to know them organically like you would a co worker or a friend. You can observe their character and see if you are compatible better imo.

And there's nothing you shouldn't ask. Yes to the STD test for the both of you, even if they are a virgin as well as for yourself. There's no harm.
 
Is it inappropriate for me to ask if he has committed zina for example? Particularly if the suitor is 30+ and raised in the West?

Can I request he undergoes STD testing prior to accepting a proposal if the answer is yes?
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its appropriate because you going to be with this person your whole life.

Also people who commited zina should only go for other people who are not virgins.
Virgins for virgins.

If you're a virgin yourself then find yourself someone that is virgin.
 
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what's your qabil?
are you a practicing muslim?
are you a virgin?
if no, have had any abortion?
if no, how many kids did you give birth to?
do you have any contagious diseases like AIDS or Ebola......
how much money you have in bank?
have you ever been convicted of a crime? if yes, for what?
been to jail?
do you have a car?
what's the highest level of education you attained?
 
:gucciwhat:

Do all these neefs drink from the same infested Eyl or what?

Miidkasta has a marriage jiini.

Kullah can I ask her if she’s been :chrisfreshhah:

What if she has :russ: Kullah!


90% of the neefs on here want a virgin who can quality for VP of Goldman Sach, but at the flip of a coin can stay home instead and watch the kids.
:drakelaugh:


The next post I read about another neef posting from his Hoyos wifi about his demands for a person who doesn’t exist in thier life, I’m going to stick my head in a geels ass.lool

:ufdup: Focus on paying off your student loans before dreaming of a household with 160%+ debt/income ratio.
 
:gucciwhat:

Do all these neefs drink from the same infested Eyl or what?

Miidkasta has a marriage jiini.

Kullah can I ask her if she’s been :chrisfreshhah:

What if she has :russ: Kullah!


90% of the neefs on here want a virgin who can quality for VP of Goldman Sach, but at the flip of a coin can stay home instead and watch the kids.
:drakelaugh:


The next post I read about another neef posting from his Hoyos wifi about his demands for a person who doesn’t exist in thier life, I’m going to stick my head in a geels ass.lool

:ufdup: Focus on paying off your student loans before dreaming of a household with 160%+ debt/income ratio.

I’m a girl. I’m in my late twenties, I have MA degree and am gainfully employed. I’m asking here because I do not have many Somali friends (2 and they’re not religious). I never had this discussion with my father before he passed and my mother is more liberal than me.
 
its appropriate because you going to be with this person your whole life.

Also people who commited zina should only go for other people who are not virgins.
Virgins for virgins.

If you're a virgin yourself then find yourself someone that is virgin.
Of course I would like a virgin. Most men in my desired demographic (28-35) are not.
 
what's your qabil?
are you a practicing muslim?
are you a virgin?
if no, have had any abortion?
if no, how many kids did you give birth to?
do you have any contagious diseases like AIDS or Ebola......
how much money you have in bank?
have you ever been convicted of a crime? if yes, for what?
been to jail?
do you have a car?
what's the highest level of education you attained?
I will definitely ask about criminal convictions! I’m in Toronto and if he’s from the GTA I almost always ask.
 

ArchBishopofAtheism

Intellectual saqajaan
No relevant questions should be off limits. Thing is, the deeper questions should come later in the relationship once you've got lesser questions out of the way (with satisfactory answers).
 

ArchBishopofAtheism

Intellectual saqajaan
What questions are inappropriate to ask a potential spouse?

Please do not troll or derail! I’m seriously inquiring for future personal use.

Is it inappropriate for me to ask if he has committed zina for example? Particularly if the suitor is 30+ and raised in the West?

Can I request he undergoes STD testing prior to accepting a proposal if the answer is yes?

Also can I outright ask how much money he makes? (I would answer the same question if asked)

What questions should a Muslim man or woman ask?

And what should he or she avoid?

Islamically how long can I delay nikah? My family would not be in favour of me marrying anyone I’ve known for less than a year. Particularly if my family does not know his?

How long is common?

Thank you in advance to any and everybody who seriously replies.
The zina question is naive because he/she won't necessarily tell the truth and you'll never find out. Further more you'll show your hand as a gullible person and expose yourself to further, worse lies.
 
Asking if he has committed zina is a bad idea, it's fine if you ask the second question.
Instead of asking how much money he makes you should ask about his position in his work place.
You also ask about how good of a Muslim he is
 

Grigori Rasputin

“No more your dad” “your mom loofs me”
Staff Member
Wariyaha SomaliSpot
Show me your credit report?

Police report ?

What sort of siblings do you have ? ( investigate it yourself) remember these siblings of his/her will be uncles/aunts of your children

What type of mother or father ?

Does he/she pray ?

Any inkling of SJW qaxaabidnimo like this one
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You have every right to know that information sister, after all you're committing your life to him. You don't want to find out later on down the road and end up in a divorce mess.
 

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yh the zina and stds are big questions,if this was me i would ask these questions as they are very important, however,i would do it after im sure that im comfortable with that person and can ask any question, asking this in the initial stages of courting can be a bad decision as the potential spouse may be taken aback and decide to leave with no strings attached.
 
I’m a girl. I’m in my late twenties, I have MA degree and am gainfully employed. I’m asking here because I do not have many Somali friends (2 and they’re not religious). I never had this discussion with my father before he passed and my mother is more liberal than me.

STD test yes!!! Do not marry without one of those. I had my husband take them, even though he said he was virgin. I took them too lol even though I was virgin. There is no harm in it like @John Michael said. You have saved yourself for all these years not to get infected by a male ****.

After that get to know the person, you can ask them as many questions you want. Why the hell not. We are talking about marriage here.
I interrogated my husband like I was the CIA before marriage.
 
I'd always get an STD done. Depending on where you are, it might be free and also quick. There is a clinic in London where you can get all your results in 24 hours. You are also in and out in half an hour. Don't mess with your health. There are some fucked up people out there who are infected with all sorts - including HIV - who will not tell you this.
 
What questions are inappropriate to ask a potential spouse?

Please do not troll or derail! I’m seriously inquiring for future personal use.

Is it inappropriate for me to ask if he has committed zina for example? Particularly if the suitor is 30+ and raised in the West?

Can I request he undergoes STD testing prior to accepting a proposal if the answer is yes?

Also can I outright ask how much money he makes? (I would answer the same question if asked)

What questions should a Muslim man or woman ask?

And what should he or she avoid?

Islamically how long can I delay nikah? My family would not be in favour of me marrying anyone I’ve known for less than a year. Particularly if my family does not know his?

How long is common?

Thank you in advance to any and everybody who seriously replies.
Ask for a STD test, (if they get mad about it then their hiding something)

Ask for a criminal background check (don't listen to them if they refuse it, insist on getting a criminal background check cuz people lie)

Ask for proof of work (tax returns etc)

That's all you need from your end and don't trust Somalis saying "this berson is good troooost me", do your own screening and background checks and you will be fine.
 
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