SMH. I am sure plenty of these incels are raised by their hooyo and her family. But just like parasites, they only see their hooyo as a body to feed on, not a human being with an identity.
In Somali culture it doesn't matter who a woman is married to, she is very much part of her family life and by extension, her extended relatives aka qabiil. In fact, women are seen as weak for acting like she doesn't have her own family. I've never in my life seen a woman acting like she's part of her husband's qabiil, it's absolutely ridiculous, embarrassing and haram.
Not long ago, I saw this MJ lady who lives in Berbera or somewhere similar in financial difficulty. Her Reer abti are isaaq, her 8 children are isaaq, and guess what? The people in the comments were asking where her qabiil was. In addition, the Isaaq man who was fundraising for her, told everyone what her qabiil is! If the incel fantasy was so true and 'women have no qabiil', why are women's clans always highlighted whether it's good or bad news? Not only is a woman's qabiil important in Somalia, women are often forced to raise children using the help of their own family and qabiil if their father is a deadbeat or dead.