Trying to be understanding: what do you as a Somali women or man wish the other gender understood about you?

[__08]

Like how could we better understand your perspective and what you go through? Like something you are afraid to say. But you are more than welcome to say it here.

I’m not judging!

 

[BetterDaysAhead]

Most xalimos are sadly very unskilled at belly rubs I have an adeer that got divorced 23 times because of this reason

 

[__08]

Most xalimos are sadly very unskilled at belly rubs I have an adeer that got divorced 23 times because of this reason

Ok I see. Lotion, oils ayy we good to go! We provide the belly rubs you guys provide shopping sprees we good.

 

[Mehdi Hassan]

Most xalimos are sadly very unskilled at belly rubs I have an adeer that got divorced 23 times because of this reason

23 times!? Damn that's more rings than Jordan and Bill Russell combined

 

[Mehdi Hassan]

Why they generalize so much.

 

[المهندس]

Xaalimos need to understand we are very simple

Feed us
Sleep with us
Be loyal

Thats it

If we decide to take a second wife don't rip your hairs out just patiently bare with it, soon you will be best friends with your co wife.

 

[__08]

Why they generalize so much.

Hmm valid point.

 

[__08]

Xaalimos need to understand we are very simple

Feed us
Sleep with us
Be loyal

Thats it

If we decide to take a second wife don't rip your hairs out just patiently bare with it soon you will be best friends with your co wife.

Sounds reasonable. Especially if the man is good too. I don’t want my fellow sisters to be slaves.

 

[Genesis]

Why do you feel entitled to 20k Mehr when the only food you can prepare is cereal? I am shook at the audacity.

 

[__08]

Why do you feel entitled to 20k Mehr when the only food you can prepare is cereal? I am shook at the audacity.

If we are being real these are Queens you’re talking about. Personally I’d put a higher price on them imo.

 

[Bashi]

Mine are pretty easy. Be a normal housewife, cook for the husband, and for the cleaning part we can hire a maid if she likes. We can hire someone to cook but i don't want that, I want my wife's cooking

 

[__08]

Mine are pretty easy. Be a normal housewife, cook for the husband, and for the cleaning part we can hire a maid if she likes. We can hire someone to cook but i don't want that, I want my wife's cooking

Not bad Insha Allah you get that.

 

[Desert Flower]

We’re not all clingy and needy. Some of us want our space and independence. I still need my autonomy. Basically the Somali, halal version of Dennis Rodman; I’ll give hubby whatever he wants but if I decide to go on an impromptu solo trip to Aruba he needs to leave me alone and respect that.

 

[Bashi]

We’re not all clingy and needy. Some of us want our space and independence. I still need my autonomy. Basically the Somali, halal version of Dennis Rodman; I’ll give hubby whatever he wants but if I decide to go on an impromptu solo trip to Aruba he needs to leave me alone and respect that.

Under islam you have to listen to what the husband says. You can only go with the husband's blessings and he doesn't always have to accept either. You're your own person, but your husband is the leader in the house. That isn't hard to understand. You first must admit the leadership of the husband and then next you can do your thing. Girls have a hard time accepting the leadership thing

 

[__08]

We’re not all clingy and needy. Some of us want our space and independence. I still need my autonomy. Basically the Somali, halal version of Dennis Rodman; I’ll give hubby whatever he wants but if I decide to go on an impromptu solo trip to Aruba he needs to leave me alone and respect that.

Very understandable and fair. I feel you sometimes you want space to miss the person.

 

[__08]

Under islam you have to listen to what the husband says. You can only go with the husband's blessings and he doesn't always have to accept either. You're your own person, but your husband is the leader in the house. That isn't hard to understand. You first must admit the leadership of the husband and then next you can do your thing. Girls have a hard time accepting the leadership thing

That’s true, if he’s a wise & fair leader that’s fine. I think the possibility of him having oppressive nature is something we fear. Because God supersedes us both.

 

[Bashi]

That’s true, if he’s a wise & fair leader that’s fine. I think the possibility of him having oppressive nature is something we fear. Because God supersedes us both.

Yes, he shouldn't abuse his position that goes against islam. And a woman has a right to divorce him if he abuses her. In the beginning find a good husband with a character, if he is oppressive then the marriage is doomed whether you do your own thing and go on trips whenever you want.

 

[Jaydaan]

We’re not all clingy and needy. Some of us want our space and independence. I still need my autonomy. Basically the Somali, halal version of Dennis Rodman; I’ll give hubby whatever he wants but if I decide to go on an impromptu solo trip to Aruba he needs to leave me alone and respect that.

Married person going on solo trip is only for one reason....to cheat in peace

 

[Bashi]

Married person going on solo trip is only for one reason....to cheat in peace

She is her own person, she has autonomy and is independent. Who are you to tell her what she can and can't do. Respect her rights.

 

[Jaydaan]

She is her own person, she has autonomy and is independent. Who are you to tell her what she can and can't do. Respect her rights.

I respect her rights. Its not like I will chain her to the bed and say you cant go. I would just say go.....just dont come back here