Talking to a girl and just found she drank once before ?

Should I keep talking to her

  • Yes

    Votes: 20 33.3%
  • No

    Votes: 40 66.7%

  • Total voters
    60
She's not a virgin if she drank alcohol.
So many women from sahaaba drank and gave it up upon revelation, does that make them a zani. Throwing blanket accusations around is going land you in - not the women you despise, in naar. Also quit the culture of demoralizing sinners. Nobody is perfect. Life is a work in progress. If the ummah has leaders like you who profit off of demoralizing and cancelling people because of their shortcomings and life struggles we would be dead. Thank god your not at the healm bro
 
She's not a virgin if she drank alcohol.
I had to ask her straight up if she was a virgin and she said she was. Said she only drank once in collard didn’t like it. She’s a homebody and is at home all the time and doesn’t go out one of the reasons I liked her was because she was so miskeen and sweet. Her admitting to drinking really threw me off wallahi
 
I really like her and was keeping halal as possible with her, she was so miskeen and religious but drank once in her college years.


If she repented, and appears to sincerely have changed her ways; then pursue her in a halal way brother. NOT dating or talking for years.... either marry her or cut off relations.
 
If she repented, and appears to sincerely have changed her ways; then pursue her in a halal way brother. NOT dating or talking for years.... either marry her or cut off relations.
Yes I’m saving up for marriage, do you think I should continue sxb ? She seemed to sincerely repent. But I’m worried about what else I don’t know her in her past. I cannot accept a non virgin
 
Yes I’m saving up for marriage, do you think I should continue sxb ? She seemed to sincerely repent. But I’m worried about what else I don’t know her in her past. I cannot accept a non virgin


Good akhi, may Allaah bless you and make it easy for you; no doubt, if you truly are seeking marriage to protect yourself from zina, Allaah will make it easy for you.
Yes, maybe have some sitdowns with her and her wali-father, uncle, etc.
I don't know how you guys do it, but my cousin (oromo) and his wife (harari) had sitdowns, and he asked her straight up if she ever been with a man.. i don't know how he phrased it though.
BUT there are ways to find out. If she is a good Muslimah, then proceed.
 
I had to ask her straight up if she was a virgin and she said she was. Said she only drank once in collard didn’t like it. She’s a homebody and is at home all the time and doesn’t go out one of the reasons I liked her was because she was so miskeen and sweet. Her admitting to drinking really threw me off wallahi

Somali women lie all the time when it comes to getting picked but they are bad liars. She probably told you she only did it once to see your reaction and if you would be OK with it and she only did it because you made her feel comfortable. She's not telling you everything. Everyone becomes a homebody when they get older saxiib. You can be a pump and dump and then become a homebody when you become older. There's a million Somali girls to pick.
 
Yes I’m saving up for marriage, do you think I should continue sxb ? She seemed to sincerely repent. But I’m worried about what else I don’t know her in her past. I cannot accept a non virgin


You really gone take a chance with a women who drank khamri lol? Who was she surrounding herself around to make that happened

reformed th0tties are not to be taken seriously bro. Just hit it if shes bad
 
In the back of my mind I'd be thinking if she was so comfortable to tell me she drank what other worse stuff has she done that she wouldn't share.
 
Yes I’m saving up for marriage, do you think I should continue sxb ? She seemed to sincerely repent. But I’m worried about what else I don’t know her in her past. I cannot accept a non virgin
Don't marry her, you are already having doubts. This will eat you for the rest of your life and you will always bring up her past. Leave her alone.
 
What makes you think that an innocent/religious woman wants "someone like you"? :mybusiness:

even you don't want someone like yourself :wtfdis:

your words, not mine :gaasdrink:
Tbh this is a very common pairing within the Somali community. Awkward religious Somali girls and reformed ciyaal suuq Somali guys compliment each other more than you’d think lol.
 

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