Strong, Independent, Women

[Hatredfree]

lol it’s definitely leading to divorce here. where’s my aforementioned divorce-fund?

Going halves on our marriage and landing in this mess would be the biggest L imaginable, I would legit slap myself.

Hhhm, you payed for nothing and you get divorce fund.


By the way I'm not against meher, we still have the power to divorce

 

[AussieHustler]

I’m curious what you have to say. How do you respond?

VixR

I'm allergic to the institution of marriage. I can commit to the one I love without being sanctioned by the State at a cost.

 

[Hatredfree]

VixR

I'm allergic to the institution of marriage. I can commit to the one I love without being sanctioned by the State at a cost.

Aussie good for you western marriage is slavery

 

[VixR]

Hhhm, you payed for nothing and you get divorce fund.


By the way I'm not against meher, we still have the power to divorce

I’m definitely not marrying a Muslim guy, but for arguments’ sake:

I’m talking about if I went Dutch. Better had I built a divorce fund than that, no?

Say a Somali girl married some dude and paid for her wedding, yeah? And he marries a second wife, or he invokes said already-mentioned “power to divorce”, which basically means that at a moment’s notice, you can abracadabra divorce and undivorce yourself from her at will, and she can’t unless she enters a lengthy years long pardon appeal from a sheikh. Yeah, sour odds. No thanks. And Somali relationships are pretty volatile from what I’ve seen around here to begin with. Hard fucking pass. Hard.

 

[Emily]

You are marrying a SIMP.

Besides in our culture most women are good Muslims unlike the strong independent women vultures, they don't marry men the same reason you marry which is for money.

He is not a simp, he is a gentleman. He makes more money than I do, he is generous. You must be broke af. Finish school and get a well paying job. Women don’t like men who whine about money all the damn time. Stingy men are such turn off

 

[AussieHustler]

Aussie good for you western marriage is slavery

Sidi

What I want is still considered a marriage, but not holding a wedding and a celebrant signing papers. It also involves divorces and is called here a De-facto Marriage.

A "de facto" relationship is where two people who are not married or related by family, are in a relationship as a couple on a “genuine domestic basis".

There are a number of factors that may indicate a de facto relationship. Here we list the type of evidence that may be required to prove the existence of a de facto relationship.


The duration of the relationship

• The relationship lasted for more than two years, although there are some exceptions in certain circumstances
• The longer the relationship exists, the stronger the argument that the relationship was a "de facto relationship"

The nature and extent of their common residence

• Whether the couple cohabited during the course of the relationship
• Payment of board or rent by one of the couple to the other
• Address or residence of couple in official correspondence, on their licences, the electoral roll, and other government agencies and income tax returns etc.

https://www.landers.com.au/insights...tionship-law/am-i-in-a-de-facto-relationship/

 

[Hatredfree]

I’m definitely not marrying a Muslim guy, but for arguments’ sake:

I’m talking about if I went Dutch. Better had I built a divorce fund than that, no?

Say a Somali girl married some dude and paid for her wedding, yeah? And he marries a second wife, or he invokes said already-mentioned “power to divorce”, which basically means that at a moment’s notice, you can abracadabra divorce and undivorce yourself from her at will, and she can’t unless she enters a lengthy years long pardon from a sheikh. Yeah, sour odds. No thanks. And Somali relationships are pretty volatile from what I’ve seen around here to begin with. Hard fucking pass. Hard.

Wooh the power to divorce was just light joke don't run with it. No men marries women thinking he has the power to divorce, even though I'm not well versed in the Islamic divorce jurisdiction, I'm certain you can't divorce your wife for no reason vice versa.

As for the second marriage I told you islamically the men are allowed to marry 4 wife's if they can endure, so if two Muslims breakup for second marriage reason, that is not moment notice divorce, there is legit reason for it.

Also it's pretty dham idiotic to abstain from contributing to the weeding citing future hypothetical scenario that might not even happen you think? Maybe he never marries another wife, or they never divorce?

 

[VixR]

Hhhm, you payed for nothing and you get divorce fund.


By the way I'm not against meher, we still have the power to divorce

We’re on opposing sides on what’s more tangible.
I’d say pay for your marriage/wedding expense and no meher (I know I’m a minority on that, but it never made sense to me)

PS I told u I’m a number’s girl. Hypotheticals absolutely factor in, esp common ones.

 

[Hatredfree]

He is not a simp, he is a gentleman. He makes more money than I do, he is generous. You must be broke af. Finish school and get a well paying job. Women don’t like men who whine about money all the damn time. Stingy men are such turn off

You are correct women like men with money because you are goldigger.

 

[Emily]

You are correct women like men with money because you are goldigger.

And you don’t have the gold right

 

[Cumar]

Because it’s an abstract. There’s no actual woman in question that this is directed towards that can be judged on whether she’s independent or not, hence you’re fighting a concept.

In my express opinion, Somali community is not at a stage where the women should be paying for their weddings. They are paying for everything else at a staggering percentage.

I heard of lots of women who helped pay for their wedding. If she's working a white collar job like most Somali women are and doesn't even offer to help that's a red-flag in my opinion. I'm not saying go 50-50, but she should try and help him out. It shows she is invested in this marriage too.

Even if the guy makes a decent middle class salary, wedding costs are a huge burden on one individual especially if like most Somalis there is only a short engagement period and you get married relatively quickly. What I mean by that is you don't have time to save for the wedding like the cadaans do for several years and just date in the interim.

 

[Defendant]

Marriage as an institute in the West is taxed by the government.

Either voluntarily become a slave to your wife or explore your other options in the bush.

 

[Hatredfree]

And you don’t have the gold right

Hmm, whether I have gold or not is pretty dhamn irrelevant because I'm not Simp like your boyfriend. You told me you make less money than him, minimum wage salary is tough to live by so you found yourself a retard

I can't say I blame you simps deserve it

 

[Kodeen]

To be honest, most of them just want to have their cake and eat it too. Completely hijacked the meaning of strong and independent.

Idgaf, but it just means obnoxiously opinionated and unwilling to compromise.

 

[Emily]

Hmm, whether I have gold or not is pretty dhamn irrelevant because I'm not Simp like your boyfriend. You told me you make less money than him, minimum wage salary is tough to live by so you found yourself a retard

I can't say I blame you simps deserve it

Wow didn’t know my one line word would get you triggered hard lol
You went in defensive mode and resort to insults

 

[Emily]

What happened to @Karim ’s post

 

[Hatredfree]

Raw meat eating Habesha gold digger kkkk

Wow didn’t know my one line word would get you triggered hard lol
You went in defensive mode and resort to insults

I didn't insult you I only phrased what you told me. always playing the victim card. Womenup

 

[Emily]

I didn't insult you I only phrased what you told me. always playing the victim card. Womenup

You called my man retard and a simp. You are insulting a man that you don’t even know and called me a minimum wage maker. Dude you are in your feelings, relax.

 

[Hatredfree]

You called my man retard and a simp. You are insulting a man that you don’t even know and called me a minimum wage maker. Dude you are in your feelings, relax.

You can only blame yourself, you brought your man to the discussion, and I again the way you described him he's is your servent. So why get mad me when I say back what you told me?

 

[Fang4]

Weddings nowadays is fifty fifty