Strong, Independent, Women

[AussieHustler]

Aussie, This issue is not about me it's general scenario especially geared more so the western Somali women that scream "S men ain't shit" We're independent Strong women, but expect men to pay for their wedding.

Sidi

I get your point. Anyone can claim whatever they want, but can they walk the walk? Here we've a group of people who diss, insult and declare war on one another over petty qabiil differences (in the fadhi ku dirrir rooms) that has destroyed our social fabric and our communities and made us qaxootis and caused so much poverty back home and once they show up on this forum, they are nationalists and fake a strong empathy towards h/her fellow Muslim brothers and sisters. They only fool themselves with their dual personality disorders. There are people like that and ignore them. A genuine "strong and independent" female wouldn't conduct herself that way. They are sheegato.

 

[VixR]

So you are not strong independent woman?

The strong independent women in the Somali community are better off building a single-motherhood divorce fund than paying for luckless marriages and runaway fathers.

 

[Shushue]

It’s a contradiction, congratulation for noticing it

 

[VixR]

So you are not strong independent woman?

Do you know property ownership still scares so many men off women in the US?

If a chick owns a place, they become intimidated pretty much instantly.

For Somalis, the equivalent is if she has money to spend.

I’m running towards that intimidation myself. Nothing like a likeminded partner against which to weed out the easily intimidated.

 

[Emily]

Why does the so called Strong independent Somali women still expect only men to pay for the entire weeding? I would think their independence would put some senses into their skulls, but not even after proclaiming strong, independent womenhood , they still expect everything from males.


Who was the simp that started this S men paying for the whole weeding slavery scheme ?

Because that is part of your culture. Hence why I am marrying an Abdi, I am not gonna pay for anything I am just gonna look pretty. He doesn’t even let me pay for dates, he gets upset when I pull out my wallet


Blessed

 

[Balqisa]

I thought you were a cool person I never knew you were a dickhead

What did I say that made me a dickhead? Waa yaab we got snowflakes on here

 

[Jake from State Farm]

Do you know property ownership still scares so many men off women in the US?

If a chick owns a place, they become intimidated pretty much instantly.

For Somalis, the equivalent is if she has money to spend.

I’m running towards that intimidation myself. Nothing like a likeminded partner against which to weed out the easily intimidated.

Well make her sign a prenuptial agreement.

Why does the so called Strong independent Somali women still expect only men to pay for the entire weeding? I would think their independence would put some senses into their skulls, but not even after proclaiming strong, independent womenhood , they still expect everything from males.


Who was the simp that started this S men paying for the whole weeding slavery scheme ?

I honestly 100% have always planned on marrying a independent women. All my life a majority of women around me were either in school or working. I never seriously contemplated the idea of having a housewife. So when it comes to wedding cost I never planned on paying the whole thing unless it was really cheap. I didn’t fully think about the concept of mehr either for like the first 20 years of my life until like December prior to when I joined the forum.all the hijabis I have met growing up aspired to be like doctors nurses and etc. so I didn’t hear anyone talk about wanting to be a housewife.

Paying full price for a wedding and having to pay a mehr sounds like too much. Call me broke i don’t care. I haven’t accomplished my career goal so the price amount for a wedding plus mehr currently sounds really expensive.

 

[Hatredfree]

Do you know property ownership still scares so many men off women in the US?

If a chick owns a place, they become intimidated pretty much instantly.

For Somalis, the equivalent is if she has money to spend.

I’m running towards that intimidation myself. Nothing like a likeminded partner against which to weed out the easily intimidated.

you are drawing connections that seem unrelated to the question I raised.

Let's not double wham back and forth how women face this and that, that was not what I come to discuss and if you haven't noticed I'm not questioning all women but the double standards of strong Independent Women.

 

[Hatredfree]

Because that is part of your culture. Hence why I am marrying an Abdi, I am not gonna pay for anything I am just gonna look pretty. He doesn’t even let me pay for dates, he gets upset when I pull out my wallet


Blessed

You are marrying a SIMP.

Besides in our culture most women are good Muslims unlike the strong independent women vultures, they don't marry men the same reason you marry which is for money.

 

[Hatredfree]

Well make her sign a prenuptial agreement.

I honestly 100% have always planned on marrying a independent women. All my life a majority of women around me were either in school or working. I never seriously contemplated the idea of having a housewife. So when it comes to wedding cost I never planned on paying the whole thing unless it was really cheap. I didn’t fully think about the concept of mehr either for like the first 20 years of my life until like December prior to when I joined the forum.all the hijabis I have met growing up aspired to be like doctors nurses and etc. so I didn’t hear anyone talk about wanting to be a housewife.

Paying full price for a wedding and having to pay a mehr sounds like too much. Call me broke i don’t care. I haven’t accomplished my career goal so the price amount for a wedding plus mehr currently sounds really expensive.

You can marry who ever you want but if you are planning on marrying strong independent women, why not make her contribute as well?

 

[Jake from State Farm]

You can marry who ever you want but if you are planning on marrying strong independent women, why not make her contribute as well?[/QUOTE]




Cause I assume they are going to already contribute. Especially if they have and make their own money.a majority of the hijabis I know in real life are in college. I know one that’s about to finish nursing school with her BSN.

These chicks are making money. U shouldn’t have to worry about paying whole weddings with a girl that’s independent

 

[VixR]

you are drawing connections that seem unrelated to the question I raised.

Let's not double wham back and forth how women face this and that, that was not what I come to discuss and if you haven't noticed I'm not questioning all women but the double standards of strong Independent Women.

It’s reality.

I’m a numbers girl.

Somali relationships are so volatile and scattered, you could find yourself in co-wifeship at a moment’s no notice, and you’re left to pick up the pieces all alone. The odds are not worth halving wedding expenses.

 

[Jake from State Farm]

It’s reality.
I’m a numbers girl.

Somali relationships are so volatile and scattered, you could find yourself in co-wifeship at a moment’s no notice, and you’re left to pick up the pieces all alone. The odds are not worth halving wedding expenses.

Seems like it’s best to just do a cheap nikah and just travel the world with a couple thousand

 

[AussieHustler]

Sidi

VixR is one of the few "strong and independent Somali women" on this forum and she is making a logical claim that a Farah can't be relied upon and the marriage could disintegrate anytime because of his fault and thus, the wedding expenses and meher are for insurance purposes. How do you respond to that?

 

[Balqisa]

Also i dont know why people spend so much on weddings they should save up for a nice honeymoon instead

 

[Hatredfree]

It’s reality.

I’m a numbers girl.

Somali relationships are so volatile and scattered, you could find yourself in co-wifeship at a moment’s no notice, and you’re left to pick up the pieces all alone. The odds are not worth halving wedding expenses.

Hhm , I agree I also think wedding expenses is waste of resources, however the co-wifeship is something that is permitted for males and doesn't always lead to divorce, I mean if the man is payed for the weeding expenses before and he does the same again, I don't see how the woman losses anything

 

[Hatredfree]

Sidi

VixR is one of the few "strong and independent Somali women" on this forum and she is making a logical claim that a Farah can't be relied upon and the marriage could disintegrate anytime because of his fault and thus, the wedding expenses and meher are for insurance purposes. How do you respond to that?

Of course she blames the men for the divorce

 

[VixR]

Hhm , I agree I also think wedding expenses is waste of resources, however the co-wifeship is something that is permitted for males and doesn't always lead to divorce, I mean if the man is payed for the weeding expenses before and he does the same again, I don't see how the woman losses anything

lol it’s definitely leading to divorce here. where’s my aforementioned divorce-fund?

Going halves on our marriage and landing in this mess would be the biggest L imaginable, I would legit slap myself.

 

[Balqisa]

I would divorce the guy if he even thought to marry a 2nd wife . f*ck that

 

[VixR]

Sidi

VixR is one of the few "strong and independent Somali women" on this forum and she is making a logical claim that a Farah can't be relied upon and the marriage could disintegrate anytime because of his fault and thus, the wedding expenses and meher are for insurance purposes. How do you respond to that?

I’m curious what you have to say. How do you respond?