Not pessimistic by a long shot, but very observant.
The damage has been done. All I learned from this forum is, Somali guys out there are fucked and you seriously have to watch out in their midst as many of them secretly hate you, and have a disregard for women who’re strangers to them for everything they wear, say on social media (whether it’s a Somali girl who said or not doesn’t matter), who they date/marry, when their meher is high, when their meher is low, for saying/doing the most random of things, like talking about mental health in the community. Good thing I don’t see too many of you around. Maybe it’s just the ones on Somalispot that’re damaged, but something’s definitely up.