Somali husband stole money from his wife to finance his side chick in somalia

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Back home they’re only responsible for the house and they live in a Islamic country, where as in the west they have house chores, work, responsibilities and the all the temptations the west has to offer.

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[Ozymandias]

I dont know if this is old news and somebody allready made a thread about this. But when i saw this i was shocked

I know some somali guys have 2nd wives in somalia but stealing money that you build with a women you were married to for 20 years and have kids with and then eventually bounce with the money Its actually nasty





What would you guys do if your dad did that your mother?

That nigga would be dead to me pretty much

 

[Ozymandias]

I can completely understand why some women decide to not go after somali men for marriage purposes. There are too many vindictive and solipsistic faraxs. Matrimony opens up a whole bag of worms which may be detrimental. Stay safe.

 

[Angelina]

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[Nin123]

I dont know if this is old news and somebody allready made a thread about this. But when i saw this i was shocked

I know some somali guys have 2nd wives in somalia but stealing money that you build with a women you were married to for 20 years and have kids with and then eventually bounce with the money Its actually nasty





What would you guys do if your dad did that your mother?

Nah the wife is the side chick

 

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[GemState]

I feel sorry for Hooyos who get robbed, let the tuug sizzle in hellfire, don't ever forgive him either, no matter how much he cries and begs. No matter how much the pick-me's and misogynists in your family try to convince you otherwise.

Allah knows best and this is why men are supposed to provide and a woman's money is her money, to do with what she pleases. Whenever we stray from Islam's teachings, we get into trouble. Islam is the manual for life, follow it completely and don't marry men who scoff at certain rulings..
Don't tell him how much you really have, have inherited, are set to inherit and other financial things which are none of his business. Don't ever open a shared account with a man, and make sure he provides as is his duty in Islam. Always keep an emergency fund and make sure your favourite gifts, are those that appreciate in value; gold, land and other assets.

Finally, only give your full love to Allah, with everyone else, try to keep your head.

I don't think it's right to conceal your assets to your partner. That will lead to trust issues. Imagine working a 9-6 for a decade to provide than you find out your partner actually have a million in assets. Would be grounds for instant divorce

 

[Arma]

Leave it to xalimoids to name their podcast *Oversharers*

 

[Enlightenednomad]

At this point I think these two females are creating scenarios just to draw in viewers to their podcast.

 

[SomaliWadaniSoldier]

Such people are truly garbage. They dont value marriage at all. Selfish.
Can u really blame Somali Women for marrying non-Somalis?

 

[Sophisticate]

Yep, hardly any of them ever have the intentions of bank rolling them. The story is such a common one. Wife gives husband money to buy land and a villa. Husband then buys it for himself and a younger woman. It’s easy for us to call the first wife naive, but after 20 odd years and at least four kids, you’d think you can trust your other half? Right? Rookie mistake, especially if they’re going Somalia. Polygamy is glorified there and random men will be in his ears. Women are better off going themselves or even trusting their brothers and others to do it on their behalf.

I agree. They make the mistake of blind trust based on the length of the marriage. I think it's best if they do not entrust him with their savings. This will change as women become conscious that people/men can and do change. And you don't know what people can do until you see them in action.

I think pressures may arise from peers around them, but these men were open to the idea, hence why they caved. If polygamy were not for them, they wouldn't even engage. People are not always transparent about their intentions and keep them hidden. There are many unknowns when dealing with people.

Yep, it is hard to detect which is why I hate the immature responses on this forum and online in general in which men accuse women in those types of situations of not ‘picking’ better or not noticing the red flags. In many of these sordid cases, issues only arise after 20-30yrs into the marriage. How are women meant to predict how they’ll be treated after being married for what feels like a lifetime and many kids?

I’ve seen this in real life btw, the couple had adult children, were married for decades and the husband never gave the impression that he was a greedy and evil individual. I think it’s a combination of extreme selfishness mixed with a midlife crisis. Going back home as an older man can cause a lot of issues as opportunistic locals will go out of their way to hook you up and make you feel like you’re not a real man if you’re not polygamous. Also, culturally their aren’t a lot of consequences. Usually the woman’s qabil get involved, the husband is told to fear Allah and the woman is encouraged to still stay married whilst the husband pays her back. The gravity of his actions are always downplayed and the woman’s emotional turmoil is dismissed as petty jealousy despite being fleeced and betrayed!

Lol, imagine telling a habo they should have chosen better. Well how could they know with incomplete information. That is like shooting in the dark. You can only hope a man is faithful, ethical and honourable in the long run. There are no guarantees.

What I find odd is this cop out of assuming these girls who are unhappy or disappointed with their fathers do not have valid concerns. I do not blame them for being angry. Somali men who divorce (Boomers and Gen Xers) tend to divorce their kids too. And often divorce occurs after polygamy. If it does not the woman appears psychologically clocked out and pressured to stay as you said. The betrayal tends to arise from often not being informed, having no say and being genuinely upset.

I say that as someone whose parents are strictly monogamous and have been married 40+ years Alx. Despite that I can still point out poor excuses for fathers or husbands when I see them.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

I don't think it's right to conceal your assets to your partner. That will lead to trust issues. Imagine working a 9-6 for a decade to provide than you find out your partner actually have a million in assets. Would be grounds for instant divorce

So what if a man works 9-6 for a decade. What is his purpose in life as a man? Whether she has 1 dollar or 1 Million, it is hers to do what she wants with it.

A woman's money is none of her husband's business. Men who are worried about a woman's income need to go marry Gaalo women and leave Muslimah's alone.

 

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This is why I don't recommend Somali women to have babies back to back like a baby machine. Somali women need the 'soft life' and not listen to pick-me's and 'raaliyo's who got treated like donkeys and brainwashed.

It's better for women to stay as healthy and well-rested as humanely possible, even hiring help at home if need be. Put yourself before everyone, eat before your children and husband eat and make sure number 1, is good at all times. Husbands can leave and die, and children also leave the nest at some point, so don't get left whilst broken and sucked dry.

what a bad message, if your children are not involved in your life after they reached adulthood then it is 100% on you.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

what a bad message, if your children are not involved in your life after they reached adulthood then it is 100% on you.

LMAO


What's a bad message? Telling mothers to look after themselves? If you're a man, you are an abuser of some sort and if you're a woman, you've been brainwashed into being abused. Either way, get help.

 

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LMAO


What's a bad message? Telling mothers to look after themselves? If you're a man, you are an abuser of some sort and if you're a woman, you've been brainwashed into being abused. Either way, get help.

the eat before your children, and this shitty western idea of your children leaving you dry without any support. that shit only happens if you dont spend time with your children and you do not foster a relationship with them as adults.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

the eat before your children, and this shitty western idea of your children leaving you dry without any support. that shit only happens if you dont spend time with your children and you do not foster a relationship with them as adults.

LOL

When did I say leaving children 'dry'?

Mothers should eat before feeding children, because otherwise they won't get time to eat. Not to mention the fact that babies literally feed from a mother's body. Do you have children? Have you ever tried to feed a baby? It can take a long time to get a child to even eat, especially if they are fussy eaters.

A healthy, fed, well-rested mother, has the energy to be a good parent.

 

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LOL

When did I say leaving children 'dry'?

Mothers should eat before feeding children, because otherwise they won't get time to eat. Not to mention the fact that babies literally feed from a mother's body. Do you have children? Have you ever tried to feed a baby? It can take a long time to get a child to even eat, especially if they are fussy eaters.

A healthy, fed, well-rested mother, has the energy to be a good parent.

read again, your comprehension is lacking. here is a hint: "your children leaving you dry"

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

read again, your comprehension is lacking. here is a hint: "your children leaving you dry"

My comprehension is not lacking, this is what I said and if anyone finds issue with it, that's not my problem.

This is why I don't recommend Somali women to have babies back to back like a baby machine. Somali women need the 'soft life' and not listen to pick-me's and 'raaliyo's who got treated like donkeys and brainwashed.

It's better for women to stay as healthy and well-rested as humanely possible, even hiring help at home if need be. Put yourself before everyone, eat before your children and husband eat and make sure number 1, is good at all times. Husbands can leave and die, and children also leave the nest at some point, so don't get left whilst broken and sucked dry.