Sisters sharing their divorce stories

[Hali]

Some men tick all the boxes, in terms of ambition, finances ect, but are shitty individuals and sometimes those things only really obvious once you live with a man or you spend a lot of personal time.

Get his credentials, ask about him.
And that’s why we have walis, once you’ve found the supposed right one he needs to be vetted.
He can tick every box but you still won’t know him except what he chooses to show you.

 

[Revolutionary]

Get his credentials, ask about him.
And that’s why we have walis, once you’ve found the supposed right one he needs to be vetted.
He can tick every box but you still won’t know him except what he chooses to show you.

Sometimes it could be the fault of the other partner as well, people like @Angelina cannot see the faults in them and always has to make sure that the husband is always to blame

 

[Angelina]

Get his credentials, ask about him.
And that’s why we have walis, once you’ve found the supposed right one he needs to be vetted.
He can tick every box but you still won’t know him except what he chooses to show you.

The way men treat other men can be different to the way they treat women. If he was never married, how would you know if he has misogynistic tendencies. How would you know if he has a habit of being emotionally or physically abusive?

Men know not to treat other men like that. They know they would be punched up.

And the wali comment is spot on. Most walis seem to only care about his qabil and family, without doing in depth research on the character of the man.

At the end of the day who we marry is qadr. Sometimes are spouses are a test for us. That is the case for both men and women.

 

[Angelina]

Sometimes it could be the fault of the other partner as well, people like @Angelina cannot see the faults in them and always has to make sure that the husband is always to blame

When have I ever said only men are to blame? I personally know miskeen men married to trash women.
Just because i'm talking about issues affecting women doesn't mean I think only men are to blame.

 

[Hali]

The way men treat other men can be different to the way they treat women. If he was never married, how would you know if he has misogynistic tendencies. How would you know if he has a habit of being emotionally or physically abusive?

Men know not to treat other men like that. They know they would be punched up.

And the wali comment is spot on. Most walis seem to only care about his qabil and family, without doing in depth research on the character of the man.

At the end of the day who we marry is qadr. Sometimes are spouses are a test for us. That is the case for both men and women.

After all that
Nimanka waa la iska celiya

 

[Revolutionary]

When have I ever said only men are to blame? I personally know miskeen men married to trash women.
Just because i'm talking about issues affecting women doesn't mean I think only men are to blame.

I was trying to get you to quote me, you seem to like ignoring me

 

[Villainess]

why do you guys always post at damn 3 am i was sleeb huuno!

 

[Sloane Ranger]

why do you guys always post at damn 3 am i was sleeb huuno!

Lol its evening in the UK.

 

[adventurequestworlds1.0.2]

Obviously these stories are one sided but there's one thing that keeps reoccurring and it's the subject of men not being providers and maintainers

Tell me why your wife is living with you and your family? When did we adopt this shameless Asian culture? Why does your wife have to claim a council house as a single mother (your income is haraam) when you can afford to rent privately?

It is not shameless and it is not asia culture if mens want their wife's to live with their family

 

[jabsveg276]

So makeup ?

yes

 

[Sloane Ranger]

yes

I don't wear any so I won't have this problem.

 

[Desert Flower]

If I had a youtube channel, I would 100% NOT share a divorce story. In fact, I wouldn't share anything related to my family. Just me. That way if (God forbid) my relationship went south, no one would know about it. I think that while some women do share their divorce story to provide knowledge for other women, a vast majority do it for clout, likes, views, followers and income. Its no coincidence why many hop on YT as soon as the divorce papers have been signed. Doing this puts your reputation in the bunker. You've got to think long-term about your life and what you represent.

 

[jabsveg276]

If I had a youtube channel, I would 100% NOT share a divorce story. In fact, I wouldn't share anything related to my family. Just me. That way if (God forbid) my relationship went south, no one would know about it. I think that while some women do share their divorce story to provide knowledge for other women, a vast majority do it for clout, likes, views, followers and income. Its no coincidence why many hop on YT as soon as the divorce papers have been signed. Doing this puts your reputation in the bunker. You've got to think long-term about your life and what you represent.

Agreed