Sisters sharing their divorce stories

[Lostbox]

Alot of guys give false promises about what he will accomplish to improve their situation. Some have no plans to change and will say whatever they need to in order to get the girl. That's why looking for potential is dangerous its always better to find the guy that has it together to avoid this disappointment.

@Mercury
This is what happens when you tell your girls to never talk to men/boys then do a 180 telling their 20yr daughter to go find a husband with near zero experience with how to handle men.

We don't have arranged marriage or a community to help you find one. You're all on yourself. No wonder local mosques are full of them

 

[Sloane Ranger]

This is what happens when you tell your girls to never talk to men/boys then told at 20 to find a husband with near zero experience with how to handle men.

We don't have arranged marriage or a community to help you find one. You're all on yourself. No wonder local mosques are full of them

I blame families to be honest because we never get to network with guys. So if every hooyo reached out to her friends/ associates and tried to do matchmaking with eligible bachelors then we wouldn't have so many women tricked by losers.

I know a woman with a masters degree and a lush city job married to a guy that works minimum wage with a drug habit.

The local mosques aren't very helpful either as they tend to be filled with Salafi, Jamaican revert divorcees with multiple kids. I don't know anyone that would go there.

 

[Xanibacal bin Barqa]

They're basically selling their stories,
its the social media age.
I don't think they're doing it to create awareness, they're just seeking attention ,at least the majority of them .

 

[BobSmoke]

I see some sensible folks here. I'm just gonna add an extra for the gang

Personality catfishing is real out there. Too many men and women are just fronting to eachother in the talking stage as wifey and husband material.

They keep up with this fraud until they can't keep up with the fasade anymore and they both realise that they been duped by eachother.

Just for their own egotistic satisfaction and the fear of being lonely.
Most people are also not able to tell the difference between being alone and being lonely.
You'll see that behaviour everywhere especially in those that are addicted to have people around them and also attention seekers.

One thing that is grossly overlooked is the evil eye.

Too many couples dont see the value of privacy. They wanna share their happiness for the world to see. Men and women share too much details to friends and others or maybe on social media

It's good to be happy and everything. But people act as if envy and evil eye don't exist.
Many sudden breakdowns and unnecessary beefs comes from the evil eye.

 

[Revolutionary]

I personally believe they exaggerate their stories for views, and perhaps some caught on with the trend and make it all up. I hate hearing one side of a story

I’m rather cynical, if the divorce was that bad I wouldn’t be putting it on YouTube. It just seems like clickbait.

Exactly

 

[Mercury]

@Mercury
This is what happens when you tell your girls to never talk to men/boys then do a 180 telling their 20yr daughter to go find a husband with near zero experience with how to handle men.

We don't have arranged marriage or a community to help you find one. You're all on yourself. No wonder local mosques are full of them

I think most parents should atleast let their son/daughter know that if they ever are interested to get married they could recommend someone they know

Or they could do like the Turkish do they rent a huge hall cook food and families who have a son or daughter who wanna get married comes to the event and mingle with the opposite gender kinda like a speed date

 

[halwa]

It was a trend started by Naag Nool on YouTube but I believe her intentions were more of an awareness into the kind of marriage she got into and to warn girls to not commit the same mistakes she did. So I kinda understand her situation but all of these other Somali females advertising their failed marriages on YouTube I don’t know what they will get out of it.

It is embarrassing to sit in front of a camera and talk about your failed marriage for the whole world to hear it. They have no self-respect. Attention seeking behaviour, tbh. Some things aren't meant to be shared with the whole world and should be kept private.

 

[Hali]

I personally believe they exaggerate their stories for views, and perhaps some caught on with the trend and make it all up. I hate hearing one side of a story

Exactly

I meant there’s terrible divorce stories the ones I’ve seen on YouTube don’t seem that bad.

 

[Chun Li]

Drop the link of the video. Which YouTuber is this?

 

[QueenofKings]

It was a trend started by Naag Nool on YouTube but I believe her intentions were more of an awareness into the kind of marriage she got into and to warn girls to not commit the same mistakes she did. So I kinda understand her situation but all of these other Somali females advertising their failed marriages on YouTube I don’t know what they will get out of it.

It is embarrassing to sit in front of a camera and talk about your failed marriage for the whole world to hear it. They have no self-respect. Attention seeking behaviour, tbh. Some things aren't meant to be shared with the whole world and should be kept private.

But abaayo, warn girls against what? What did she say that was so profound that you or anybody else needed to hear her say it, to get a deeper understanding?

She booked a ticket to ATL to marry a man she never met, a man who didn’t give her the courtesy of asking for her hand to her family, an AA revert at that ( so someone’s whose back ground is sketchy and she cannot validate his authenticity vs his fetish for Somali girls), and she moved in with his mum and bf who are gaalo! Then proceeded to be a loyal mule for this guy while he sat in his ass and slapped her around.

What warning is she giving exactly that people couldn’t see otherwise?

All that said I kinda feel sorry for her, in the video she comes across like she could be dealing with mental health or self esteem issues. So in that regard I wish her well, but everything else is meh.

 

[Mercury]

But abaayo, warn girls against what? What did she say that was so profound that you or anybody else needed to hear her say it, to get a deeper understanding?

She booked a ticket to ATL to marry a man she never met, a man who didn’t give her the courtesy of asking for her hand to her family, an AA revert at that ( so someone’s whose back ground is sketchy and she cannot validate his authenticity vs his fetish for Somali girls), and she moved in with his mum and bf who are gaalo! Then proceeded to be a loyal mule for this guy while he sat in his ass and slapped her around.

What warning is she giving exactly that people couldn’t see otherwise?

All that said I kinda feel sorry for her, in the video she comes across like she could be dealing with mental health or self esteem issues. So in that regard I wish her well, but everything else is meh.

you forgot to mention she even said she used to wipe his azz

 

[Wervelwind]

It was a trend started by Naag Nool on YouTube but I believe her intentions were more of an awareness into the kind of marriage she got into and to warn girls to not commit the same mistakes she did. So I kinda understand her situation but all of these other Somali females advertising their failed marriages on YouTube I don’t know what they will get out of it.

It is embarrassing to sit in front of a camera and talk about your failed marriage for the whole world to hear it. They have no self-respect. Attention seeking behaviour, tbh. Some things aren't meant to be shared with the whole world and should be kept private.

Of course its xishood for the husband and the family but I think it can be a wakeup call for xalimos who think marriage is roses and sunshine

 

[QueenofKings]

you forgot to mention she even said she used to wipe his azz

Lol she ruined the name Naag nool, more like naag liidato.

 

[halwa]

But abaayo, warn girls against what? What did she say that was so profound that you or anybody else needed to hear her say it, to get a deeper understanding?

She booked a ticket to ATL to marry a man she never met, a man who didn’t give her the courtesy of asking for her hand to her family, an AA revert at that ( so someone’s whose back ground is sketchy and she cannot validate his authenticity vs his fetish for Somali girls), and she moved in with his mum and bf who are gaalo! Then proceeded to be a loyal mule for this guy while he sat in his ass and slapped her around.

What warning is she giving exactly that people couldn’t see otherwise?

All that said I kinda feel sorry for her, in the video she comes across like she could be dealing with mental health or self esteem issues. So in that regard I wish her well, but everything else is meh.

First of all, she did admit that what she did was wrong. And at the beginning of the video she did say that she was in a dark place when all of this has happened. She was young and we all make stupid mistakes when we are young and so I can’t fully hold her against the things that she’s done. Secondly, she did tell her viewers and young girls to not do some of the things she has done. To not forsake their family for the sake of a guy, to not run off with a man you’ve met online and not heed your parents’ warnings. She also did mention to follow the protocol that has been set out culturally and islamically when getting married which is that the the groom’s family should meet up with the girl’s side of the family (which is our dhaqan) that a girl needs a wali to marry her off.

She’s pointed out many things and I was thankful that at least she had the common decency to warn her viewers and not glorify her actions.

You can’t just automatically assume everyone has a good sound of mind and self will. There are many girls who were about to do the biggest mistakes of their lives or who might have been and her video can be a clear warning to those young girls who might find themselves in her shoes of the damages that could occur should they choose that path.

 

[Abdi sensei]

@Mercury
This is what happens when you tell your girls to never talk to men/boys then do a 180 telling their 20yr daughter to go find a husband with near zero experience with how to handle men.

We don't have arranged marriage or a community to help you find one. You're all on yourself. No wonder local mosques are full of them

I never understood this. I get shamed for trying to talk to girls on my phone or in public. And all the good somali girls all feel awkward when you talk alone together.

How else do they expect me to find a wife? There’s no help or set up from anybody. I have to just clumsily figure out flirting & whole proccess from meet to marriage.
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[halwa]

Of course its xishood for the husband and the family but I think it can be a wakeup call for xalimos who think marriage is roses and sunshine

It is a wake up call for anyone who decides to elope with a man or a woman they don’t fully know. If your family is aware of your decisions then at least they can intervene but if you’ve forsaken your family for someone, there’s only so much they can do to help you.

 

[Hali]

I blame families to be honest because we never get to network with guys. So if every hooyo reached out to her friends/ associates and tried to do matchmaking with eligible bachelors then we wouldn't have so many women tricked by losers.

I know a woman with a masters degree and a lush city job married to a guy that works minimum wage with a drug habit.

The local mosques aren't very helpful either as they tend to be filled with Salafi, Jamaican revert divorcees with multiple kids. I don't know anyone that would go there.

How can you be tricked by a loser though. The vast majority of these girls have been free mixing their whole lives unless they went to an all girls school, sixth form and university and were never allowed to even speak to any kind of male
those ones will definitely be getting arranged marriages ,but the vast majority of Somali girls are not like that and they work with other men.
Plus the women in our families have been warning us since time immemorial, the least she should know is not to trust a guy until he’s made himself trustworthy.

 

[ReerVanCadde]

I don't buy this narrative of these naive girls not aware of the world... that's complete nonsense.
These women are fully accountable for the stuff they do.

 

[Angelina]

How can you be tricked by a loser though. The vast majority of these girls have been free mixing their whole lives unless they went to an all girls school, sixth form and university and were never allowed to even speak to any kind of male
those ones will definitely be getting arranged marriages ,but the vast majority of Somali girls are not like that and they work with other men.
Plus the women in our families have been warning us since time immemorial, the least she should know is not to trust a guy until he’s made himself trustworthy.

Some men tick all the boxes, in terms of ambition, finances ect, but are shitty individuals and sometimes those things only really obvious once you live with a man or you spend a lot of personal time.

 

[Mercury]

I don't buy this narrative of these naive girls not aware of the world... that's complete nonsense.
These women are fully accountable for the stuff they do.

Also in my opinion you should never marry someone who your parents don't approve

Have your parents blessing if you gonna marry someone