Siblings who are loners

[World]

Not ideal but better than being a wannabe thug like many Somalis. He focuses on his grades in school and he works part time.

He should go Somalia for summer, it will be impossible for him to be an recluse in that country and will build his social skills.

 

[Periplus]

Honestly, get him to make an account on SSpot or Reddit.

Then he can interact with people on his own terms online. Then he becomes more accustomed to interacting online and finds his extrovert persona, he will start exhibiting it irl.

This could either be great advice or the worst advice ever.

 

[Macalin dheerow]

What do you know about his social life? According to OP, he's a gamer.
In my experience, many of us meet IRL people, all thanks to video gaming (online).

Nothing senseless about a fellow gamer who's defending my nigga against people who believe everyone must have 1k fake niggas as "friends".

” Who believe everyone must have 1k fake niggas as ”friends”.

This sentence shows that you are not approaching this discussion from a good place. You are ignorant. You are basing your whole point on your personal life and imagining yourself at his place. You are not him. You have negative views on friends kulaha ” 1k fake niggas”. Thats a bad look on life saaxiib.


Anyways lets end our back and forth here, we are deraillng the topic in hand.

 

[Xaruun]

Tough for him. Maybe he’s afraid of rejection?

 

[elite1337]

There’s a difference between being an introvert and having no friends at all. Introverts have one or two friends at the very least and still leave their house sometimes

True, theres a difference to introversion and being socially awkward. Theres no justifying having 0 social life

 

[wheel]

Biggest problem for him that i would warn him about is internet/gaming addiction, the effect on his life is like a harmful drug addiction and can severely harm his education and mental health. Maybe he's autistic which in that case he'll have a hard time socialising but it's important that he at least lives a healthy and productive life.

 

[Caaro]

Nothing sad with being an introvert.
He has his own world and does no harm; as he's a gentle and hard-working kid.

Mind your business, OP. Somalis like you are too intrusive.

Difference between introvert and antisocial. My sister’s an introvert but she still maintains some friends. Teaching to at least know how to interact with people without making things awkward is an asset.

Maybe OP’s exaggerating and her brother’s not as bad as she thinks he is. But from what she’s said her brother’s probably not alone by chose. Also, no clubs/extracurricular’s gonna look bad for uni applications.

What do you think’s gonna happen when he moves out? He’s going to be stuck between work and gaming/surfing the internet. Again this is an extreme case.

He’ll probably make friends and meet people in college. But you need to stop associating antisocial behaviour with introvertedness.

 

[elite1337]

Difference between introvert and antisocial. My sister’s an introvert but she still maintains some friends. Teaching to at least know how to interact with people without making things awkward is an asset.

Maybe OP’s exaggerating and her brother’s not as bad as she thinks he is. But from what she’s said her brother’s probably not alone by chose. Also, no clubs/extracurricular’s gonna look bad for uni applications.

What do you think’s gonna happen when he moves out? He’s going to be stuck between work and gaming/surfing the internet. Again this is an extreme case.

He’ll probably make friends and meet people in college. But you need to stop associating antisocial behaviour with introvertedness.

The word ur looking for is probably not antisocial, antisocial is what u see in sociopaths where they are totally unable to emotionally connect with people, anyways what u said I agree

 

[Shimbiris]

I went through a phase like this at his age. Main difference was that I did have plenty of friends at school since it was the same school I'd gone to since KG2. And I did go out every other or few weekends with them and socialize at school but I spent a lot of time just sitting in my room, being a recluse and not going out as much as I would have wanted to.

For a while I convinced myself I preferred it that way. That I had just become an introvert as I grew older and all this bullshit but, looking back, I regret it all. I was just sitting in my comfort zone and retreating into addictions like the internet. Luckily, I made some good use of my time on the web. I read many books, papers and became a bit of a savant on many subjects, including ones I now use to make money but I still kick myself for all the times I ditched a hangout I was invited to or avoided going to this or that party or didn't date as much as I should have at a younger age. Lot of social time wasted.

Luckily, I still had good friends I made many great memories with and went out with during at least 1/3rd of the weekends of the school year but I suspect your brother is doing what I did and just sitting in his comfort zone but years down the line he'll regret all the social interactions he hid from and the opportunities and youth lost.

 

[4head]

” Who believe everyone must have 1k fake niggas as ”friends”.

This sentence shows that you are not approaching this discussion from a good place. You are ignorant. You are basing your whole point on your personal life and imagining yourself at his place. You are not him. You have negative views on friends kulaha ” 1k fake niggas”. Thats a bad look on life saaxiib.


Anyways lets end our back and forth here, we are deraillng the topic in hand.

Ok dude who believes life has one (and only) dimension from his cyclopic eye.

 

[Halimo-2018]

First if nothing is wrong with your brother. The way you’re approaching this is all wrong. Did you check the environment his in? Maybe his preserving himself. Maybe his scared knowing how young men are these days good for him. If you want to help him be his friend for now take him out yourself and stop prettying him that wont help. How old is he?

 

[World]

First if nothing is wrong with your brother. The way you’re approaching this is all wrong. Did you check the environment his in? Maybe his preserving himself. Maybe his scared knowing how young men are these days good for him. If you want to help him be his friend for now take him out yourself and stop prettying him that wont help. How old is he?

Sounds like he’s 15 ish this is the age that a lot of Somali youths start associating with crime, gangs, weed etc. The fact he is at home is not that bad of a thing. I’m sure he’ll grow out of it.

 

[Geeljire lotus]

I have a younger brother who has no friends and hasn’t had any for a long time. I feel a little bad for him, he just goes to school and his part time job and comes home he never goes out. I remember when we went to his middle school graduation and we were taking pictures and we suggested that we take some of him and his friends and he was like “I don’t have any” we were like huhhh

He’s a nice kid, just shy. I also think he has some form of social anxiety as well because it’s hard to get him to go on family outings, he would rather play video games in his room. He had friends when he was young but when we moved to another city he stopped making friends. My parents don’t mind and even like that he stays home a lot because they say that way he won’t get himself into trouble. But idk, I think it’s a sad way to live. At his age I had so many friends and was always out during the summer and had the best time. How do I help him

Shit I didn’t really have friends growing up either lol

 

[Wavepapi]

Any updates on ur brother?

 

[ChiefFizzy]

I went from being an extrovert when I was younger to being introvert when I went to high school, from grade 9 to 12 I had friends but they were all in different classes different lunches, and I started to get lonely as time passed by, I didn't even live near any of them so it was difficult, I only gained confidence when I started working, gained the ability to speak out and create friends, and spark conversations, just make him get a part time job working with more of his co-workers rather than customers, like working at a movie theater. I still missed out for most of my teenagehood. oh well.