Siblings who are loners

[empressjamila]

I have a younger brother who has no friends and hasn’t had any for a long time. I feel a little bad for him, he just goes to school and his part time job and comes home he never goes out. I remember when we went to his middle school graduation and we were taking pictures and we suggested that we take some of him and his friends and he was like “I don’t have any” we were like huhhh

He’s a nice kid, just shy. I also think he has some form of social anxiety as well because it’s hard to get him to go on family outings, he would rather play video games in his room. He had friends when he was young but when we moved to another city he stopped making friends. My parents don’t mind and even like that he stays home a lot because they say that way he won’t get himself into trouble. But idk, I think it’s a sad way to live. At his age I had so many friends and was always out during the summer and had the best time. How do I help him

 

[Abu Hesi]

If I had a video game in my OWN room as a middle schooler I would probably be like him I'm not gonna lie.

 

[Franklin]

Restrict his gaming time and make him go to the park and play some sports

 

[elite1337]

He still has a chance to make friends when he goes to highschool and college

 

[TheManWhoIsAlive]

It's because ppl these days don't play enough sports.

Smartphones for kids is a mistake. Same with social media.

When I was in middle school, all I had was a PS2 and the TV. The internet wasn't that popping at the time.

So I could either play soccer or basketball with friends, or be extremely bored.

 

[NeseN]

It's because ppl these days don't play enough sports.

Smartphones for kids is a mistake. Same with social media.

When I was in middle school, all I had was a PS2 and the TV. The internet wasn't that popping at the time.

So I could either play soccer or basketball with friends, or be extremely bored.

And No online gaming, everyone will come to my house to play GameCube games. The best time to raise a child was before 2010.

 

[empressjamila]

He still has a chance to make friends when he goes to highschool and college

He’s in high school right now, going into his senior year

 

[Wervelwind]

What does he say when you talk to him about it. Is he scared of people?
Also, if you want your parents to get involved more, tell them how is he going to get married and spend his life with a woman if he's always alone?

 

[Abu Hesi]

He’s in high school right now, going into his senior year

Yeah, thing is once you go down on this antisocial behavior path, it's hard to come back from unless you have friends that force you to go out.

 

[Macalin dheerow]

I have a younger brother who has no friends and hasn’t had any for a long time. I feel a little bad for him, he just goes to school and his part time job and comes home he never goes out. I remember when we went to his middle school graduation and we were taking pictures and we suggested that we take some of him and his friends and he was like “I don’t have any” we were like huhhh

He’s a nice kid, just shy. I also think he has some form of social anxiety as well because it’s hard to get him to go on family outings, he would rather play video games in his room. He had friends when he was young but when we moved to another city he stopped making friends. My parents don’t mind and even like that he stays home a lot because they say that way he won’t get himself into trouble. But idk, I think it’s a sad way to live. At his age I had so many friends and was always out during the summer and had the best time. How do I help him

Force him to join some clubs in highschool. Make him sign up for any events that could interest him and if they don’t, still force him. Ask him if he likes any sports and tell him to apply there.

Trust me with antisocial people you got to socialise them by force. Even if they don’t seem to want it, inside, they are asking for it. He might not show it but its torturing him

 

[4head]

Nothing sad with being an introvert.
He has his own world and does no harm; as he's a gentle and hard-working kid.

Mind your business, OP. Somalis like you are too intrusive.

 

[4head]

Force him to join some clubs in highschool. Make him sign up for any events that could interest him and if they don’t, still force him. Ask him if he likes any sports and tell him to apply there.

Trust me with antisocial people you got to socialise them by force. Even if they don’t seem to want it, inside, they are asking for it. He might not show it but its torturing him

Do you hate talking nonsense with the average small-brainer that works in fast food?
You must secretly LOVE talking and interacting with people like this.

Allow him, nigga. Forcing someone to socialize will just generate more resentment and hatred.
And, introvert Somalis do exist.

 

[Wervelwind]

Nothing sad with being an introvert.
He has his own world and does no harm; as he's a gentle and hard-working kid.

Mind your business, OP. Somalis like you are too intrusive.

You're tripping. It's unhealthy to always be alone and it's only going to make it harder for him to bond with other people in the future (wife included). Even with stuff like work he'll need to be able to socialise

 

[empressjamila]

Nothing sad with being an introvert.
He has his own world and does no harm; as he's a gentle and hard-working kid.

Mind your business, OP. Somalis like you are too intrusive.

There’s a difference between being an introvert and having no friends at all. Introverts have one or two friends at the very least and still leave their house sometimes

 

[4head]

You're tripping. It's unhealthy to always be alone and it's only going to make it harder for him to bond with other people in the future (wife included). Even with stuff like work he'll need to be able to socialise

Typical response from someone who can't live on their own.
And he's still a "kid", or teen; no need to think ahead. A "wife" doesn't come because he'll be wasting his time to be someone else.

There’s a difference between being an introvert and having no friends at all. Introverts have one or two friends at the very least and still leave their house sometimes

Ok Boomer.

Just kidding,
kids like him have friends on online video games and they meet up with them IRL (that's how I met many good friends of me), don't worry for him!

 

[Macalin dheerow]

Do you hate talking nonsense with the average small-brainer that works in fast food?
You must secretly LOVE talking and interacting with people like this.

Allow him, nigga. Forcing someone to socialize will just generate more resentment and hatred.
And, introvert Somalis do exist.

Countless have been done on the effects of loneliness, did you not go to parties and have good time? This boy does not have any friends. Thats not good at all. Introvert somalis exist but they too have and can have friends. Very senseless to say on your behalf.

 

[Wervelwind]

There’s a difference between being an introvert and having no friends at all. Introverts have one or two friends at the very least and still leave their house sometimes

Does he play online with people and have online friends? It also depends on how he feels about it. I don't think it's healthy to be all alone but I believe some people are bothered by it more than others

 

[Macalin dheerow]

There’s a difference between being an introvert and having no friends at all. Introverts have one or two friends at the very least and still leave their house sometimes

You know your brother better then anyone here, do whats best you see fit

 

[4head]

Countless have been done on the effects of loneliness, did you not go to parties and have good time? This boy does not have any friends. Thats not good at all. Introvert somalis exist but they too have and can have friends. Very senseless to say on your behalf.

What do you know about his social life? According to OP, he's a gamer.
In my experience, many of us meet IRL people, all thanks to video gaming (online).

Nothing senseless about a fellow gamer who's defending my nigga against people who believe everyone must have 1k fake niggas as "friends".

 

[Wervelwind]

Typical response from someone who can't live on their own.

Of course I can't live alone. As a human we need other people