Should a man always pay for dates?

[Peache]

Yes I already did make her pay her half when we were first going out and it was my wife that insisted on it.A woman who demands that a man should pay for her time with him is a red flag. Either the woman is a bum who couldn't get her life together which is why she has no money or she's a gold-digger.It's not the year 1200 AD...you should have enough money for a good meal for yourself or to go out and do other things

So no need to call me a bum or a gold digger.
It’s just that I am very aware of women who are ok with paying and splitting. I’ve done that before.

I do have money, no need to say I don’t.
And when I did have someone pay for me once… best Beileve I always insisted and they would do it, and point out … “if I saw that you were demanding and expecting I paid Eveything… I would’ve had you pay your food no problem. But because I saw that you offered and were nice about it, I have no problem paying”.

In fact I always tell women to make sure they have their own money if they going out.

 

[Shimbiris]

Only a sith deals in absolutes, walaal.

 

[Peache]

Yes I already did make her pay her half when we were first going out and it was my wife that insisted on it.A woman who demands that a man should pay for her time with him is a red flag. Either the woman is a bum who couldn't get her life together which is why she has no money or she's a gold-digger.It's not the year 1200 AD...you should have enough money for a good meal for yourself or to go out and do other thing.

Yes I already did make her pay her half when we were first going out and it was my wife that insisted on it.A woman who demands that a man should pay for her time with him is a red flag. Either the woman is a bum who couldn't get her life together which is why she has no money or she's a gold-digger.It's not the year 1200 AD...you should have enough money for a good meal for yourself or to go out and do other things

Can I ask something ? Why is it that when guys like you who insist on women paying … and that’s no problem honestly, cause that’s the norm now and its your choice and some women are ok with it ….

Why do some men have an issue with the men out there that don’t mind paying for the whole thing ? And these men ( these were discussions at work ) told me they only pay when they see the girl isn’t expecting and demanding the man to be paying for everything… they only do it when the woman is really nice about it.

 

[King Khufu]

As a dignified gentlemen,
To show my corteousness
Always Pay For The Date.
Fellas don't be bad to your
Lady now, she's your queen
#ChampagneiyoCaviar

 

[Angelina]

Only a sith deals in absolutes, walaal.

I wonder what your take is? I'm curious, don't worry I won't argue with you loool, I respect your opinions either way. I mean you're one of the sane ones, so you won't get any buuq from me.

 

[King Khufu]

I wonder what your take is?

As my own man, I think
It's useless to pay for sex
But not for dates because
I wouldn't date a woman
That I wouldn't marry (eventually)

Paying for prostitutes is haram
Nor is it classy fellow gentlemen
[I would never have sex outside of marriage]

 

[Shimbiris]

I wonder what your take is? I'm curious, don't worry I won't argue with you loool, I respect your opinions either way. I mean you're one of the sane ones, so you won't get any buuq from me.

I always preferred to pay but if the woman insisted on us splitting it and I noticed she was the type who'd take offense if I insisted on paying I'd just avoid unnecessary buuq and let her split it with me but otherwise I'd always be eager to be the one paying and playfully refuse her the opportunity to pay if I noticed she was not very forceful about splitting the bill like running up to the counter before her and being like "Beat you to it!" Kkkkk.

 

[Angelina]

I always preferred to pay but if the woman insisted on us splitting it and I noticed she was the type who'd take offense if I insisted on paying I'd just avoid unnecessary buuq and let her split it with me but otherwise I'd always be eager to be the one paying and playfully refuse her the opportunity to pay if I noticed she was not very forceful about splitting the bill like running up to the counter before her and being like "Beat you to it!" Kkkkk.

Yeah, thought so. Like I said, you're normal.

 

[Shimbiris]

Yeah, thought so. Like I said, you're normal.

Kkkkk, mahadsanid. But, by the way, mind answering me on whether or not you're a married woman now? Wanted to know if congrats are in order.

 

[Al-Ma'mun]

Why do some men have an issue with the men out there that don’t mind paying for the whole thing ?

I don't have a problem with other men simping unless it is an individual in my immediate family.Paying for things for a woman that is not your wife,sister,mother or cousin is weird ass behavior unless it's charity which is a good thing.Majority of you women ain't charity cases tho lmfao

 

[Angelina]

Can I ask something ? Why is it that when guys like you who insist on women paying … and that’s no problem honestly, cause that’s the norm now and its your choice and some women are ok with it ….

Why do some men have an issue with the men out there that don’t mind paying for the whole thing ? And these men ( these were discussions at work ) told me they only pay when they see the girl isn’t expecting and demanding the man to be paying for everything… they only do it when the woman is really nice about it.

Girl, just read the posts of the normal ones like @Shimbiris @Nilotic @El Nino @Keep it a boqol 💯 ect. They're the type of guys you'd want to get to know in the real world, not one who'd call you a golddigger over a plate of food you could buy 5 times over.

 

[Angelina]

Kkkkk, mahadsanid. But, by the way, mind answering me on whether or not you're a married woman now? Wanted to know if congrats are in order.

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[Shimbiris]

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[Kane]

A Gentleman should always pay his fare, not as a square, but to set the tone and be known as one who’s fair.

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[Angelina]

A Gentleman should always pay his fare, not as a square, but to set the tone and be known as one who’s fair.

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Warya ceeb. Why are you cooking for women that you’re not married to?

SIMP

 

[Kane]

Warya ceeb. Why are you cooking for women that you’re not married to?

SIMP

Oh how I have fallen, I went from a red pill king to a culinary simp.

 

[AbrahamFreedom]

Why does it have to be dinners? Why can't it be coffees?

Take her to coffee for up to 5 dates and see if she is willing to pay even once. It will show her character and expose if she will ever help out during marriage.

I have a hilarious story to share. I know of a woman who had an argument with my friend about splitting bills. She said what's mine is mine and what's yours is mine. My friend said no and they ended up breaking up later for other reasons. She ends marrying some other guy and they divorce after a few months. Because of my ties with literally a dozen gossipy Somali girls from every corner of my gobol who love talking to me about their problems and the community's tea (they tell me, I never ask), I heard her husband broke up with her because she didn't want to spend any money on the household. She ends up talking to my friend later and she changes her mindset. He wasn't interested in her anymore but she did a full 180. She was a changed woman.

Moral of the story: She will end up contributing if she's a working woman.

 

[AllStarSaciid]

Why does it have to be dinners? Why can't it be coffees?

Take her to coffee for up to 5 dates and see if she is willing to pay even once. It will show her character and expose if she will ever help out during marriage.

I have a hilarious story to share. I know of a woman who had an argument with my friend about splitting bills. She said what's mine is mine and what's yours is mine. My friend said no and they ended up breaking up later for other reasons. She ends marrying some other guy and they divorce after a few months. Because of my ties with literally a dozen gossipy Somali girls from every corner of my gobol who love talking to me about their problems and the community's tea (they tell me, I never ask), I heard her husband broke up with her because she didn't want to spend any money on the household. She ends up talking to my friend later and she changes her mindset. He wasn't interested in her anymore but she did a full 180. She was a changed woman.

Moral of the story: She will end up contributing if she's a working woman.

damn my guy you’re the emotional tampon they be talking about.

Are u ok? Listening to xalimos gossiping sounds torturous

 

[XawoTako]

Had a little debate about this with a friend. I have a more traditional view where I think a man should pay for most of the dates if not all. Like if it’s his birthday or something like that yea go ahead and treat him but I just think a guy should pay most of the time as a way to show his appreciation. My friend has a different view where she feels they should split the bill or he pays once she pays next time. She says that way she doesn’t feel like she “owes him anything”. And she feels like it’s more equal.

What do you think?

It’s the man’s responsibility. Only stingy men with have problem with this lol

 

[Xoxoxo]

Whoever asks should pay.
Tbh Somali guys aren’t stingy, cause if they are into you, they’ll surely do everything lol