I get why you would think that judging from this forum and social media. If i judged all our women from that same angle, I would also assume somali women are all like how the annoying, deen/daqhan lahaan girls that are loudest on social media networks present themselves.
But there are good, god-fearing men as there are women. Seek them out in your community to change your perspective (thats what i did). I find the most shaqo la'an guys/girls are those who are most invested in voicing their opinions on social media 24/7 and dont help themselves, their families or community lol they congregate in these negative spaces (social media typically) and project their self-hatred, ignorance, insecurity and inadequacy day and night. Its the same accounts as well lol for anyone on social media just become a serial blocker, or better yet just dont use it as often