Rejection

I fear rejection to such an extent that I can never shoot my shot. Women that are moving to men are soldiers, with hearts of steel that can battle the impossible.

Even when getting to know a guy, the first few months i keep my cards to myself as I want to observe how serious and how into me he is. I've never been the type of woman that jumps in head first, as deep down, although I don't show it, i'm pretty sensitive and at times emotional so no way am I allowing an F boy get the most of me. I need to feel 100% reassured that he is being genuine with me before I even take him seriously.

Women need to be careful though when they shoot their shot. Men are ultimately hunters and unfortunately, a lot of men are not mature enough to appreciate a decent girl that knows what she wants, if they are not the ones doing the chasing.
 
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If feels bad but it's a learning experience.

Also how it affects you emotionally is valuable.

"Rejection served a vital function in our evolutionary past. In our hunter/gatherer past, being ostracized from our tribes was akin to a death sentence, as we were unlikely to survive for long alone. Evolutionary psychologists assume the brain developed an early warning system to alert us when we were at risk for ostracism. Because it was so important to get our attention, those who experienced rejection as more painful (i.e., because rejection mimicked physical pain in their brain) gained an evolutionary advantage—they were more likely to correct their behavior and consequently, more likely to remain in the tribe."

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201307/10-surprising-facts-about-rejection?amp
 

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If feels bad but it's a learning experience.

Also how it affects you emotionally is valuable.

"Rejection served a vital function in our evolutionary past. In our hunter/gatherer past, being ostracized from our tribes was akin to a death sentence, as we were unlikely to survive for long alone. Evolutionary psychologists assume the brain developed an early warning system to alert us when we were at risk for ostracism. Because it was so important to get our attention, those who experienced rejection as more painful (i.e., because rejection mimicked physical pain in their brain) gained an evolutionary advantage—they were more likely to correct their behavior and consequently, more likely to remain in the tribe."

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201307/10-surprising-facts-about-rejection?amp

I think woman find it harder to deal with than men.
 
Lol do you seriously not care if you are rejected by someone you like?
@Knowles

it probably happened twice, once during high school and another time in uni. One, we became friends and she was interested in football players (Australian rules), but she opened for me greener pastures that I never knew existed. The other was an American. What I learn’t from both experiences was to lift up my game and sometimes, rejection is a blessing. At that time in my life, I liked half of Melbourne girls of my age. Like wasn’t that important to me.
 
@Knowles

it probably happened twice, once during high school and another time in uni. One, we became friends and she was interested in football players (Australian rules), but she opened me greener pastures that I never knew existed. The other was an American. What I learn’t from both experiences was to lift up my game and sometimes, rejection is a blessing. At that time in my life, I liked half of Melbourne girls of my age. Like wasn’t that important to me.
You can get hurt from a rejection and still learn from it, it's not mutually exclusive.
 
@Mahacagalla

I wouldn’t call it hurt, but I would word it as disappointed, haven’t you lied to girls who hit on you so as not to hurt their feelings?
You can word it that way but there is nothing wrong with admitting you have feelings bro, we all get a bit sad getting rejected by someone we were into.

Not really I would just give them subtle cues that I am not interested. Girl's are pretty good at taking a hint. It's hard when someone has a really good personality and you'd actually wanna be friends with them but aren't attracted to them and they start assuming. Thankfully I haven't been in a position to have to give a firm not interested response to a girl.
 
Why am not affraid of rejection? When I was in the dating g pool I would Literally make a fool out of myself then just go ok now I know atleast for sure that he hates me etc then be like Next!
Are you affraid of rejection if so why?
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You can word it that way but there is nothing wrong with admitting you have feelings bro, we all get a bit sad getting rejected by someone we were into.

Not really I would just give them subtle cues that I am not interested. Girl's are pretty good at taking a hint. It's hard when someone has a really good personality and you'd actually wanna be friends with them but aren't attracted to them and they start assuming. Thankfully I haven't been in a position to have to give a firm not interested response to a girl.
Tell me more about this rejection that left you reeling walal what happened exactly
 

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Don't really give a shit about it and I only go after someone who clearly shows interest back.


I fear rejection to such an extent that I can never shoot my shot. Women that are moving to men are soldiers, with hearts of steel that can battle the impossible.

Even when getting to know a guy, the first few months i keep my cards to myself as I want to observe how serious and how into me he is. I've never been the type of woman that jumps in head first, as deep down, although I don't show it, i'm pretty sensitive and at times emotional so no way am I allowing an F boy get the most of me. I need to feel 100% reassured that he is being genuine with me before I even take him seriously.

Women need to be careful though when they shoot their shot. Men are ultimately hunters and unfortunately, a lot of men are not mature enough to appreciate a decent girl that knows what she wants, if they are not the ones doing the chasing.
I feel like you don't realise most men would say yes to woman just because she went to them first. I mean unless your bumfuck ugly your not battling anything, you'll probably rarely ever get rejected.
 
Yeah I used to fear rejection when I was younger, so I never ever made a move on any girl. After a while It just become normal for me, and then stopped even caring.

Now married with kids, so obviously you will end up with what was meant to be no matter what.

However now, if I intended to, I could approach any woman without fear of rejection, because I honestly do not care. Would not do it anyway, because I love my dear wife.
 

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Have you ever been laughed at and been told 'at least you tried'? :mjcry:

A good rejection should end up with the girl being mad. The madder she is, the better you handled the rejection. Just call her dh.ilo and move on to the next:mybusiness:
 
You shouldn't be getting rejections as a male if your over 26.

By then your experience and social skills should be sufficient enough to know to what degree the person has interest in you before you close it.

Approaching a chick in a flirtatious way or full on from the get go without even qualifying her first is a sign of low value and if she bites on it her value is far lower then yours and her body count is x10 yours.
 
You shouldn't be getting rejections as a male if your over 26.

By then your experience and social skills should be sufficient enough to know to what degree the person has interest in you before you close it.

Approaching a chick in a flirtatious way or full on from the get go without even qualifying her first is a sign of low value and if she bites on it her value is far lower then yours and her body count is x10 yours.
Honestly I use to be clueless when it came to the dating game. After lots of heartbreak and confusion i finally got it. It turned me off from dating at all for a while i was depressed. No one really taught me anything i had to learn it myself but thankfully i've never gotten preganant did anything wrong alhamdulilah looking back i think Allah protected me walahi if your intentions are pure Allah always got your back.maybe this is why i dont mind rejection.
May Allah protect innocent girls out there.
 
Rejection really is not so much an issue, the mental toll of there being people out there who know you on that level however is uncomfortable.
 
You shouldn't be getting rejections as a male if your over 26.

By then your experience and social skills should be sufficient enough to know to what degree the person has interest in you before you close it.

Approaching a chick in a flirtatious way or full on from the get go without even qualifying her first is a sign of low value and if she bites on it her value is far lower then yours and her body count is x10 yours.

Perhaps your first sane and reasonable post on here. :ehh:
 

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