Qabyaalad sway xalimos to ajanabis

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Garaad Darawiish

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Forget the lost case feminist or gaalo raac Somalis in the west, they are a tiny minority in the diaspora albeit very loud, but they exist in a miserable bobble as token friends of white people and are usually rejected by the Somali community due to their liberalism, anti-somalinimo etc.

This topic is about normal Somali girls in their late teens early 20s, I have noticed a trend among these girls who are now less eager with Somali men, I wonder what the underlining issue is. Perhaps its just freedom, as you know Somali women are free to do what they want.
But naturally I have a hypothesis, as we know every woman wants a man within her social group to validate her, in rare occasions a girl will go with a guy outside of her group if her friends approve it, and I notice that Somali girls do not befriend each other mainly because of qabyaalad, and so these little pretty girls grow up in social circles that are packed with other immigrants, they keep their diin and are normal girls who respect their parents etc but because of qabyaalad they are now more exposed to men from their social circle that is ARAB; BOSNIAN; KURDS ; BLACKS etc back in the 00s, this was completely unheard of, Somalis were still qabilist back then but that was an unspoken rule where Somalis stick together first and foremost, this still exist a little but not with the younger generations, you won't believe what I had to do friday night to get a Somali girl away from her Iraqi boyfriend, first of all the girl told me she was traumatized in school by other Somali girls because of Qabiil so none of her friends are Somalis, second, she is dating her best friends brother(the Iraqi dude) and after I had my fun she had to whisper her number to me to hide it from her girlfriends who acted as if they owned her. This girl is just a normal very hot Somali girl by the way, she just grew up in a fucked up generation, which I have been partly involved in but completely separate myself from now except for when I am in somnet.

I urge Somali men to A. Reduce qabyalad B. prohibit women from participating in it. Back in the day it was all fund and jokes, but young kids who don't necessarily have a strong Somali background will end up being psychologically damaged, by the way this girl was the victim, but other girls who aren't victims, still choose to keep social circles outside of the Somali community due qabyaalad, I can give you an example, I know my ex girlfriends little sister she is from Somaliland all of her friends are non-Somalis, she is more pro-Somaliland than some of the fools on here, and it is evident on her social media, yet this girl rarely mingle with Somalis, she will undoubtedly bully some other poor Somali girl for no reason but qabyaalad and then end up getting hooked up with a foreigner.

Somali men are the biggest qabiilist, however Somali men and even boys still have strong social groups in Europe, it is the females I am talking about, I don't think Qabiil was ever meant for them.
 
Long live qabilism :trumpsmirk:dont care which xalimos ends with who as long as it is not from My family circle which has not happened yet even after 26 years in the diaspora.
 

Nightline Kid

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Audhubillah that's very extreme. Where exactly does this happen? Where I grew up qabyaalad was something kept behind closed doors, not in other people's faces.
:faysalwtf:
 

Garaad Darawiish

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Audhubillah that's very extreme. Where exactly does this happen? Where I grew up qabyaalad was something kept behind closed doors, not in other people's faces.
:faysalwtf:
it happens and it will be passed on to our progeny based on what ppl post here on somalispot. Its a disease with no cure
 

VixR

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TLDR: A hot Somali girl was dating an Iraqi bc certain Somali girls didn't accept her bc of her qabil.

It's one thing to claim her friend group of nonSomalis beingdue to qabilism, but you're going to great lengths to pathologize her dating life being the fault of female Qabil cliques of all things kkk
 

Professor

The name is Professor, Haji Professor
I know a somali girl who her and her family are kinda ignored in the somali community they are isaaq sijues. She has no somali friends partly due to the fact her father and mother don't really associate with somalis. He keeps his family from arms length from other people even though they hj and the live in a predominantly hj city. She only has white and madow friends but she was a good girl neitherless.
 

VixR

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I know a somali girl who her and her family are kinda ignored in the somali community they are isaaq sijues. She has no somali friends partly due to the fact her father and mother don't really associate with somalis. He keeps his family from arms length from other people even though they hj and the live in a predominantly hj city. She only has white and madow friends but she was a good girl neitherless.
This sounds like my parents, except I have one Somali female friend who moved away. I used to have Somali acquaintances.
 

VixR

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Tbh, I think that's the best way to raise Somali children; away from the other Somali clusters. There's too many vices in the Somali community. My parents should've been behaviorally cloned to raise a healthier one:dead:
 

SuldaanGuled

Rag waa shaah dumarna waa sheeko.
Alaa qosol baan la dhiintay

:chrisfreshhah::chrisfreshhah::chrisfreshhah:

Garaad Faraax: Reduce qabyaalada otherwise dumarka ajanibta bay isku tuuri doonan. Vast majority aren't exposed to any qabyalad at all their slogan waxaa waye : #Doonimaynoraggasoomaliyeed, #Somalimenain'tshit, #Beingwithsomaliman waa sadaqo. #Don'twantashyabdi. The fact that they owe their lineage to a somali man infuriates them adigana waxaad dhahaysa qabyalada joojiya. Wale waa riyoonaysa


Vixr xaalimo: Raise them away from buulshada soomaliyeed, why ? because of the many vices in bulshada soomaliyeed. Bal ii suug won't they be exposed to the vices of other communities?? overall message better to be exposed to vices of others rather than your own. Waan garnay

:gaasdrink::farmajoyaab::gaasdrink::farmajoyaab:
 

VixR

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Alaa qosol baan la dhiintay

:chrisfreshhah::chrisfreshhah::chrisfreshhah:

Garaad Faraax: Reduce qabyaalada otherwise dumarka ajanibta bay isku tuuri doonan. Vast majority aren't exposed to any qabyalad at all their slogan waxaa waye : #Doonimaynoraggasoomaliyeed, #Somalimenain'tshit, #Beingwithsomaliman waa sadaqo. #Don'twantashyabdi. The fact that they owe their lineage to a somali man infuriates them adigana waxaad dhahaysa qabyalada joojiya. Wale waa riyoonaysa


Vixr xaalimo: Raise them away from buulshada soomaliyeed, why ? because of the many vices in bulshada soomaliyeed. Bal ii suug won't they be exposed to the vices of other communities?? overall message better to be exposed to vices of others rather than your own. Waan garnay

:gaasdrink::farmajoyaab::gaasdrink::farmajoyaab:
I can get the gist of what you're saying, at least the part to me, but speak full English so I know what I'm responding to, please.

All vices are not created equal :kanyeshrug:
 

SuldaanGuled

Rag waa shaah dumarna waa sheeko.
I can get the gist of what you're saying, at least the part to me, but speak full English so I know what I'm responding to, please.

All vices are not created equal :kanyeshrug:

:chrisfreshhah::chrisfreshhah:

i agree all vice weren't created equal

:salute:

Which parts didn't you understand ? i know i'm not a native speaker of the english language but to imply that you didn't understand because of 2/3 somali words
that's just................................. words fail me

Bulshada: community
Waan garanay ; we get it (said in a sarcastic voice )
 

VixR

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:chrisfreshhah::chrisfreshhah:

i agree all vice weren't created equal

:salute:

Which parts didn't you understand ? i know i'm not a native speaker of the english language but to imply that you didn't understand because of 2/3 somali words
that's just................................. words fail me

Bulshada: community
Waan garanay ; we get it (said in a sarcastic voice )
You said a lot more than that. Anyway, I did get the gist of it better, unlike last time.

I genuinely think it's better to isolate from the community and really select for the ones they interact with, if at all. We had a couple family friends and that's it. We weren't allowed to hang out with other Somali kids that weren't that family.

The fact that @Professor said the family was isaaq makes me wonder if its a coincidence.
 

John Michael

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I wouldn't advise Somali women to marry outside of their qabil, especially if they are isaaq, hawiye or darod..... 40 years ago Somali men were somewhat more civilized but now......

#teamajanabi
 
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Qabyaalad is a very rare thing with this younger generation
Qabiilists born after '91 won't have any effect on the dating scene since they are jobless NEETs that "hustle" from the government and will get hooked up with a poor soul back home because of his failure in the west
 

Professor

The name is Professor, Haji Professor
You said a lot more than that. Anyway, I did get the gist of it better, unlike last time.

I genuinely think it's better to isolate from the community and really select for the ones they interact with, if at all. We had a couple family friends and that's it. We weren't allowed to hang out with other Somali kids that weren't that family.

The fact that @Professor said the family was isaaq makes me wonder if its a coincidence.
what do you mean by coincidence. They are isaaq sijues who were relocated by the British in Kenya over a hundred years ago. Generally somalis don't consider them somali and therefore the somali community in my city didn't really engaged with them at all.

I think the parents didn't want to interact because they would felt like they wouldn't be accepted. For example she was in my politics class would other somali girls and yet she would constantly avoid them initially. But I believe that was due her feeling out of place. I however don't agree with the concept of raising ur child from the somali community as it can lead to them having lack a sense of dhagan. Many kids in your case would obviously desire friendship and have to conform to non-somali kids views. Generally I believe that will eventually lead to them have slight issues in the future if they ever desired to reconnect to their identiy. I understand the negatives of being raised in somali community but with the right guidance from the parents the children won'the go astray. However once you indulge non-somalis I feel you most likely become loss and loss ur very identiy. Sounds cheesy but you are where you come from.
 
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VixR

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I wouldn't advice Somali women to marry outside of their qabil, especially if they are isaaq, hawiye or darod..... 40 years ago Somali men were somewhat more civilized but now......

#teamajanabi
Isn't that everyone? :drakelaugh:

I always thought the opposite even though my family's a bit, ya know. As far as Somalis, I only dated one other Isaaq as it turned out, and he was actually great, but I always thought it was too close to home that he was Isaaq, even if not of the same subclan, which we didnt talk about qabil, but I'd first overheard that to be the case much later when I learned the reason my parents were so partial to the guy was bc of his qabil once they'd learned of him kkkk. After that, it occasionally triggered me that I was dating someone like that. I mean the guy was so far removed from where I'd grown up, which is what was attractive about him among many other things, and yet still my parents knew his people. That weirded the shit outta me at the time.

There's a very weird element to being involved with Somalis.
what do you mean by coincidence. They are isaaq sijues who were relocated by the British in Kenya over a hundred. Generally somalis don't consider them somali and therefore the somali community in my city don't really engaged them at all.
Relocated to Kenya? Not accepted as Somalis? I don't know what Isaaq sijues are, I thought you said Isaaq.
 

EternalLightX

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I don't date f*ck dating it ends in pain and suffering and being called a for daring to talk to a man !!! f*ck I would rather be single than marry a nasty man
 
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