Potentials

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How many of you have had people from other cultures ask you for marriage?

I'm not here to brag but I've had
A Palestine guy, Indian , Afghan, Ethiopian and Turk.

I told them all I'm only interested in my own kind, some were pulling up hadith's and stating what I'm doing is wrong etc. But I told them having a preference isn't haram.

 

[Degmada waaberi]

I told them all I'm only interested in my own kind, some were pulling up hadith's and stating what I'm doing is wrong etc. But I told them having a preference isn't haram.

Walaal they can pull up any verse of the Quran or Hadith Laakiin at the end of the day the choice is yours whether you want them or not. DO NOT let them make you feel bad about your choice

 

[Dr.Xayawaan]

Nagataga ajnabiyoo we follow shaafi madhab and shaafi madhab has this.

We see the following regarding the kafa’a for marriage in the classic Shafi’i manual of Islamic law titled ‘Umdat as-Salik wa ‘Uddat an-Nasik (Reliance of the Traveller and Tools of the Worshipper):

والكفاءةُ في: النسَبِ والدِّينِ والحريةِ والصَّنعةِ وسلامة العيوبِ المُثْبِتَةِ للخِيار، فلا يُكافئ العجميُّ عربيةً، ولا غيرُ قُرَشيٍّ قُرشيَّةً، ولا غيرُ هاشميٍّ أو مُطَّلبيٍّ هاشميةً أو مطَّلبيةً، ولا فاسقٌ عفيفةً، ولا عبدٌ حرةً، ولا العتيقُ أو من مسَّ آباءَهُ رِقٌّ حرةَ الأصلِ، ولا ذو حِرفَةٍ دنيئةٍ بنتَ ذي حِرفةٍ أرفعَ، كخياطٍ بنتَ تاجرٍ، ولا معيبٌ بعيبٍ يُثْبِتُ الخِيارَ سليمةً منهُ، ولا اعتبارَ باليسارِ والشيخوخةِ، فمتى زوَّجها بغَيْرِ كُفءٍ بغَيرِ رضاها ورِضا الأولياءِ الذينَ هم في درَجتهِ فالنِّكاحُ باطلٌ، وإن رَضُوا أو رضيَتْ فليسَ للأبعدِ اعتراضٌ.


(Taken from the section of Kafa’a in the chapter of Nikaah in the text)
Translation: Kafa’a (Suitability in marriage for a female) is in the lineage (ancestry of the man), and in religiousness, and his being a free man (not a slave), and in his profession, and his being free of defects that can cause the annulment of the marriage. And the ajami (non-Arab) is NOT suitable for an Arab woman, and a non-Qurayshi is NOT suitable for a Qurayshi woman (Quraysh was the tribe of the Holy Prophet (S)), nor is a non-Hashimi or non-Muttalabi suitable for a Hashimi or Muttalabi woman (Hashimitesare the members of the clan to which the Holy Prophet (S) belonged to, and Muttalabites are the descendants of the grandfather of the Holy Prophet(S)). Nor is an immoral man suitable for a virtuous woman, nor is a slave suitable for a free woman, nor is a freed slave or one whose ancestors were touched by slavery suitable for a (free) woman whose ancestors were free. Nor is a man of a lowly profession suitable for the daughter of someone with a noble profession, such as a tailor wanting to marry a tradesman’s daughter.

 

[Vanessa]

They said I’m racist whenever I said I’m attracted to Farahs

 

[Degmada waaberi]

They said I’m racist whenever I said I’m attracted to Farahs

Laakiin now you're married to a Faarax right?

 

[Vanessa]

Laakiin now you're married to a Faarax right?

InshaAllah I’ll marry to a faarax.

 

[Degmada waaberi]

InshaAllah I’ll marry to a faarax.

Were you not the one who said you were married or I'm I mixing you with someone else

 

[Vanessa]

Were you not the one who said you were married or I'm I mixing you with someone else

I think you’re mistaking with someone else

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

I told them there's plenty of beautiful girls from their cultures and they would respond with "do we need to marry from our own"

TBH the Turkish guy I was so close to marrying he had his life sorted, had a business running,good looking and into the deen. But I was thinking about my kids I want them to have a somali tribe looool

 

[Degmada waaberi]

But I was thinking about my kids I want them to have a somali tribe looool

Any Somali tribe mise a specific one?

Btw what's yours?

 

[Ubax45_]

Thats unfortunate, seems like you passed over on good potentials due to a false sense of loyalty.

 

[Nilotufian]

Swahili from Kenya

Man was saying things like if it was up to him (his people) Lamu and Mombasa would've been part of Somalia

 

[Apollo]

How many of you have had people from other cultures ask you for marriage?

I'm not here to brag but I've had
A Palestine guy, Indian , Afghan, Ethiopian and Turk.

I told them all I'm only interested in my own kind, some were pulling up hadith's and stating what I'm doing is wrong etc. But I told them having a preference isn't haram.

I find it hard to believe or are guys that pathetic to ask women for marriage they don't know that well?

 

[Peaches]

I find it hard to believe or are guys that pathetic to ask women for marriage they don't know that well?

I am guessing they where religious, its different. Don't look at it through a western lens. You're not supposed to date, just see if they tick the boxes and fall in love after marriage

 

[Apollo]

I am guessing they where religious, its different. Don't look at it through a western lens. You're not supposed to date, just see if they tick the boxes and fall in love after marriage

Lol, I was looking it through a Western lens and was shocked.

 

[Peaches]

Lol, I was looking it through a Western lens and was shocked.

yeahhh people get desperate. Young Muslims want to experience sex and relationships like everybody else so they jump on the first decent person without really getting to know them. sad lmao

 

[Mufasah]

Only escalated to marriage with one girl, mostly brought up by her mother. They were non-Somali.

 

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Any Somali tribe mise a specific one?

Btw what's yours?

Any tribe I don't mind.


Tell me yours first?

 

[Degmada waaberi]

Any tribe I don't mind.


Tell me yours first?

:siilaanyolaugh:Any are you sure?


I'll be more than happy to once you tell me yours

 

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:siilaanyolaugh:Any are you sure?


I'll be more than happy to once you tell me yours

I'm gadbuursi.