Pickmesha epidemic back home
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Pick-me-ism is earned.
I'll be the pick me and stay if my husband asks me to stay at home one day, granted that he is a simp who cooks and cleans while I visit my mama's house every other weekend
I'll be the pick me and stay if my husband asks me to stay at home one day, granted that he is a simp who cooks and cleans while I visit my mama's house every other weekend
"hooyaday amarkeed hadan qaato oo ku dhinto, ehlu-naar aan ahay"
Who is teaching the deen to these women?
and indoctrinate your daughters to be slaves to their future husbands?
Pick-me-ism is earned.
I'll be the pick me and stay if my husband asks me to stay at home one day, granted that he is a simp who cooks and cleans while I visit my mama's house every other weekend
This is an example of the made-up hadiths that used to indoctrinate the muslim population either for political reasons or social reasons, the hadith is a daiif, basically BS hadith.
Kizaru
Cast in the name of God Ye not Guilty
Kane you’re right, people follow their feelings, but unfortunately I’ve found Muslim men are guilty of that.
If someone asked you who is more deserving of your financial provision, Mum or wife, you’d say mum wouldn’t you? Yet the correct answer that would make most of us feel uncomfortable is the wife.
‘But the wife takes precedence over the mother in one case, and that is the matter of spending. If the husband cannot afford to spend on both his wife and his mother because he is poor, then in this case he should put his wife before his mother.’
If you were poor and couldn’t afford to feed your mum and she was elderly but had to provide for your wife who is young and could work, who would you choose? We both know the answer but it seems Muslim men only like telling women they come first over their parents.
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Keep it a boqol
VIP
the world would be a lot better if men and women followed their islamic duty
What proof do you have this Hadith is Daiif?
A Mean Guy
Minister of Ajanabi Affairs
People love to argue about fake scenarios that may never happen. If a husband/wife tries to prevent you from seeing your parents, then there is a bigger underlying issue that needs to be solved rather than picking a side.
It is kind of hypocritical for you women to say that you will pick your mother when you call men, "Mommas boys" or tell them to go marry their mum if they dare voice the same opinion.
In marriage, you should both prioritise each other and while I don't say to completely disregard parents, know that there should be some boundaries. You are not allowed to just leave your wife at night with the kids just because your mum ordered you to do so.
Both the husband and wife have responsibilities that they should prioritise.
It is kind of hypocritical for you women to say that you will pick your mother when you call men, "Mommas boys" or tell them to go marry their mum if they dare voice the same opinion.
In marriage, you should both prioritise each other and while I don't say to completely disregard parents, know that there should be some boundaries. You are not allowed to just leave your wife at night with the kids just because your mum ordered you to do so.
Both the husband and wife have responsibilities that they should prioritise.
As long as my daughter ain't a broke ass lady I don't care what my wife indoctrinates.
It clearly states sahih, anyway do you have any legitimate sources to validate your claim?
Angie if I’m right and you agree then why am I the only one who voted for the husband?
I don’t like mudug girls position but she is brave for standing on her truth unlike you and hodan.
who are flip flopping so hard y’all got me day dreaming about tuna sandwiches.
Apart from making the husband the center of whether the wife enters janna, the hadith narrator
claimed Abu Hurayra as the source of the hadith, then later claimed Abu Awf to be the source, which create conflict. It is like saying i heard Angelina said that and tha, and later claim the one who said was not actually Angelina but Basra. I hope my broke English is understandable
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Great way of getting out of answering the question. I rarely vote and go straight to commenting and I nearly do that in every thread. I don’t for one second believe that the ‘husband is more important’. Should the wife obey him more? Yes. But what Islamic proof do you have he is more important? What scholar uses those terms? The wife should obey him more then same way he needs to provide for his wife more. Does that make her more important than his mother since she’s more deserving of his money? Of course not.
I don’t believe the husband comes before the mother when it comes to love and mercy. But with regards to obedience yes, simply because upon marriage the husband is now the protector and provider for his wife and she has went from being under her fathers protection to now that of her husband, hence she is now of a new household. It makes sense that the new person that is currently looking after her should be the ones that she listens to more since she’s under his roof. But in terms of love and allegiance, it’s parents every day. A woman can divorce her man for hating him according to the Sharia, can she ever cut ties of kinship with her parents?!
It’s the same for a husband as well, but according to the Sunnah, his provision goes to his wife first, even if his parents are poor. He is more responsible for his wife.
Kane, do you agree?
I can agree that the wife obey her husband more….but can you agree that your wife comes first in terms of providing even if your parents are poor?
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Are there scholars of the past that viewed the Hadith as weak?
yep, they pointed out who the hadith sourcing is problematic.
Same loser women will get triggered when I say I love my mom more than her. If a woman is not committed to her husband then that marriage is on feeble foundations and women path to heaven is thro the husband
I don’t think any woman would get triggered if you say you love your mother more? How could you not? That’s the woman who birthed you, breastfeed you and went through all that hardship to raise you and in the same way her mother did the same and only a mother would love you unconditionally.
I find it weird when people compare themselves to their loved ones mothers. It’s weird and gross. A woman’s path to heaven is also that of her mother as well.
