Alright, well first off, yes I guess it's kind of pathetic to try online dating but moving recently to a state with barely any Muslims or Somalis limited my options ,but hey, it's 2020 already, regardless, I went to a couple different sites/App that were suggested to me by a friend, them being "Muzmatch" ' and 'Plenty of Fish(the only one with a religion search preference)'.
These websites are good for the individual user in general, you're not forced to pay to join, however you can upgrade memberships. However, that's not really what this is about. So I build my profile on one, adjust it, tweak it, put up select pictures and BAM, I am ready to date.
Now on these things it would be bizarre if they didn't have a matching system for you. But this is where 'Plenty of Fish' aka 'plenty of whales' takes a huge turn in a bad direction. Their matching system will literally pair you up in comparison with people who have 0-2 common interests with you. And those interests 99% of the time on a woman's profile are going to be "movies" and "music".
Now we all know that those two words are so broad that you're lucky to find someone who likes the same movies as you do, if you don't watch every movie that comes out. And don't even get me started on music. I refuse to listen to Nicki Minaj and Kodak Black, so I might as well be a hermit from here on out.
Now I feel like I m a slightly above average guy, young, good head on my shoulders. Im a good balance of athletic and nerdy, and overall I am decently cute for a guy. So I've been told. So, I approach this websites with optimism for a good week or so. I had set my goal to send at least one decent looking female a message each day. If not to date, at least strike up some conversation to even better my skill at reading people.
To my surprise, women online are just as stuck up and introverted as they are in person. You send 12 messages and get maybe 2 responses back. Now this wouldn't be a big issue if I wasn't able to tell whether or not they read my message. But they do read it, look at my profile and then continue to ignore me. So tell me this: How is it that you're 'super fun, friendly, and outgoing' when I am sure more guys than just me talk to you, and you probably reply to 1% of them.
Maybe at this point I take a few days away from it, let the profile collect it's own traffic, but who am I kidding? I'm literally not the guy that women talk to on their own initiative. Not that he doesn't exist, but he doesn't need online dating, because he isn't single.
Anyway, I feel like most of the women who joined this dating apps/sites expected to be surrounded by big muscular men who are looking to just settle down or something along those lines
I am not saying guys are perfect, In fact, i'm quite sure most of the men on there are not. However I didn't go on a dating website to meet men. But when it really comes down to it, I had an exceptionally higher hope that women on a dating Apps would be more, inclined, I guess to reply to a decent gentleman that tries to be nice to them. Because, women are looking for a "nice guy", right? At least, that's what they say they're looking for.
This isn't a slam on women, because us guys are just as shitty as them. But wouldn't you think it would help you out a little bit to put up what you're REALLY looking for? I feel like the expectations for men are too high sometimes. Some women are looking for a "Nice, adventurous, funny, friendly, outgoing guy. Who can also stay at home all the time, and relax and pamper me like a princess."
So now that I've seen the ups and downs of online dating I invite some of you to share with me your opinions of online dating, or even advice so im not completely alone anymore, anyone ?
These websites are good for the individual user in general, you're not forced to pay to join, however you can upgrade memberships. However, that's not really what this is about. So I build my profile on one, adjust it, tweak it, put up select pictures and BAM, I am ready to date.
Now on these things it would be bizarre if they didn't have a matching system for you. But this is where 'Plenty of Fish' aka 'plenty of whales' takes a huge turn in a bad direction. Their matching system will literally pair you up in comparison with people who have 0-2 common interests with you. And those interests 99% of the time on a woman's profile are going to be "movies" and "music".
Now we all know that those two words are so broad that you're lucky to find someone who likes the same movies as you do, if you don't watch every movie that comes out. And don't even get me started on music. I refuse to listen to Nicki Minaj and Kodak Black, so I might as well be a hermit from here on out.
Now I feel like I m a slightly above average guy, young, good head on my shoulders. Im a good balance of athletic and nerdy, and overall I am decently cute for a guy. So I've been told. So, I approach this websites with optimism for a good week or so. I had set my goal to send at least one decent looking female a message each day. If not to date, at least strike up some conversation to even better my skill at reading people.
To my surprise, women online are just as stuck up and introverted as they are in person. You send 12 messages and get maybe 2 responses back. Now this wouldn't be a big issue if I wasn't able to tell whether or not they read my message. But they do read it, look at my profile and then continue to ignore me. So tell me this: How is it that you're 'super fun, friendly, and outgoing' when I am sure more guys than just me talk to you, and you probably reply to 1% of them.
Maybe at this point I take a few days away from it, let the profile collect it's own traffic, but who am I kidding? I'm literally not the guy that women talk to on their own initiative. Not that he doesn't exist, but he doesn't need online dating, because he isn't single.
Anyway, I feel like most of the women who joined this dating apps/sites expected to be surrounded by big muscular men who are looking to just settle down or something along those lines
I am not saying guys are perfect, In fact, i'm quite sure most of the men on there are not. However I didn't go on a dating website to meet men. But when it really comes down to it, I had an exceptionally higher hope that women on a dating Apps would be more, inclined, I guess to reply to a decent gentleman that tries to be nice to them. Because, women are looking for a "nice guy", right? At least, that's what they say they're looking for.
This isn't a slam on women, because us guys are just as shitty as them. But wouldn't you think it would help you out a little bit to put up what you're REALLY looking for? I feel like the expectations for men are too high sometimes. Some women are looking for a "Nice, adventurous, funny, friendly, outgoing guy. Who can also stay at home all the time, and relax and pamper me like a princess."
So now that I've seen the ups and downs of online dating I invite some of you to share with me your opinions of online dating, or even advice so im not completely alone anymore, anyone ?
