No woman likes Miskiin men.

[HalimaJ]

We have been tolds lies my gus having friends. Women HATE nice guys. Having a nice guy is like having a lesbian for a husband.

The only nice guys they like is the savage that can switch from being civilized to being a drolling monster, in case the days comes when 4 men show up in your house to plunder and rape your wife.

Women always have that fear and the need for safety and protection due to how history have treated them. Call it evolution if you want.

How can i nice guy protect anything? How can he provide safety? When he lacks the stomach for violence and aggression?

Humans are multidimensional. We have many sides to us. That is why I find it funny when men say women hate nice guys. You can be nice, but have firm boundaries and not let anyone walk all over you.

Women love men that are nice and compassionate. But in life, you have to switch it up. You can't be nice towards those that are being disrespectful towards you, or those that are trying to harm you or your loved ones.

Be nice, be loving, but just make sure that any woman you deal with knows deep down, she can never walk all over you, nor would you have any qualms knocking down any men that try to harm you.

Also, any mature woman knows hot headed men, that are willing to bicker with you all the time, are little es. We don't rate that, in my neck of the woods.

 

[HalimaJ]

Only a would carry out favors and errands for non maxram women

A man that is planning to make you his wife, will indeed carry out favours for you. If he doesn't then he just isn't interested.

 

[Samaalic Era]

A man that is planning to make you his wife, will indeed carry out favours for you. If he doesn't then he just isn't interested.

I disagree, a man can like a woman but he has to maintain his dignity, neither should ask favours until they are actually married

 

[Molotoff]

Why do women love drama so much?

 

[HalimaJ]

I disagree, a man can like a woman but he has to maintain his dignity, neither should ask favours until they are actually married

How is, helping a woman you like and want to marry, going against your dignity?

I'm not talking about massive favours btw.

 

[Factz]

I HATE men who are arrogant and 'dominant' which basically translates to the fact that he is an asshole who could care less about you. I prefer gentle, compassionate men who are laid- back and hold no ego. The kind that will share household duties and child-rearing responsibilities with me rather than tell me to go into the kitchen and make him a cup of shaax.

I disagree. You can be dominant and kind, gentle, compassionate and laid back at the same time. That is what my noble father, uncles and relatives were. They were amazing fathers and husbands.

Being dominant only means you are in charge of the relationship. Islamically, men are supposed to be the leader, protector, provider and maintainer of the family. Allah gave them that responsibility and as a Muslim woman, you should accept what your creator says. As long as you married a good man, you should not be worried.

Traditionally women are supposed to do the household duties but if you prefer modern relationships where you split gender roles like doing 50/50 chores, paying half of the house rent, bills and even paying your half for the wedding and honeymoon. That is perfectly fine but some women prefer traditional relationships where their husband is the head of the house, protects her, provides for her and maintain her needs and even paying all of the wedding and honeymoon cost but if you do in fact prefer a traditional husband. You should be a traditional wife and being a traditional wife means knowing your gender roles which include being a carer, nurturer and caterer. Basically, you cook for him, do the chores and satisfy his sexual needs. If you don't like the sound of it then you can choose a modern relationship but that also means he is going to be modern too. You cannot pick and choose different elements to suit your liking. You have to pick a specific relationship role. Generally speaking to all Muslim women.

The purpose of marriage and relationships is about covering each other's needs and scratching each other's back. If one cannot fulfil their gender role. They are useless, selfish, unloving and they clearly have no purpose for a relationship so you should dismiss them.

 

[Waa-Aniga]

Nayaa Reiko,

Where is my thank you for making this thread platinum?

 

[Killua]

I wouldn’t call them desperate. But I understand that men will do favours for a woman that they consider beautiful. Is that my fault? Of course I appreciate their help, but I’m not required to engage in a relationship out of pity.

A man doesn’t owe you anything . Get rid of the self entitlement.

How many times have you heeded to a man(you were interested in) who asked you of favours?