TekNiKo
Loyal To The One True Caliph (Hafidahullah)
Majority of Canadians are in debt and under 100k. You are promoting elitism Hunger Games style
Never been married Faraxs and Xalimos over 30, what made you stay single?
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JohnCena
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yes and those same Canadians shouldn't be having children esp if they're in debt.
"hunger games" LOL. Wtf?
It's quite obvious that people with wealthier educated parents will do better school/career wise. I'm just saying it's perfectly okay for your average lower-income labourer to have their own families.
JohnCena
PROFESSIONAL SHITPOSTER
The problem is people who work lower income-labor roles won't be able to provide for their child or children to their absolute best because they would be ridden with bills .
It would lead to a more stressful relationship and most likely end up in divorce hence why money struggles are a top 3 leading cause for divorce.
I know it's harsh but i'm being objective and realistic.
This langaab nuclear family cope somalis have is why ajnabi qaxootis mog us financially. As long as you’re taxi driver that’s enough to raise a happy family.
What truly matters for raising children is that they aren’t incel. You ensure this by:
>Marrying a non-recessed tall woman rather than a recessed short girl who’s better looking
>Send them to football practise
It’s that easy. Muh middle class lifestyle and muh happy family are rubbish that doesn’t matter
JohnCena
PROFESSIONAL SHITPOSTER
Good luck doing that in today's economy.
All my views are based off today's economy btw. If you said this in 1980-2005, I would 100% agree with you.
Things changed for the worse. I'm just being realistic.
True it’s completely over.
JohnCena
PROFESSIONAL SHITPOSTER
You gotta grind and aim for a 6 fig salary and go all out with investments, my good sir.
Always good to have a TRUMP card, sir.
Avoiding marriage/having a family over the possibility of being divorced due to finances is not being realistic.
You might as well not get married to avoid being cheated on then divorced, which is probably one of the top 2 leading causes for marriage breakdowns.
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JohnCena
PROFESSIONAL SHITPOSTER
The goal is to make sure you're good on all front including being financially prepared to have a child/children and support them.
To answer you're question,
That's why it's important to really vet a partner and make sure they are the one for you and vice versa. That's why i'm a big supporter of long term dating then getting married because you'll have a better understanding of that person.
"One study from Kansas State University for the National Survey of Families and Households reported that “arguments about money (are) by far the top predictor of divorce.”"
Another study by Ramsay Solutions in 2017 backed up the findings, reporting that money was the second most common subject that couples fight about – after infidelity. Finances can be more damaging to a marriage than arguments about children, sex, the in-laws or anything else.
Money: Financial Reasons Couples Get a Divorce - Spectrum Family Law
Nobody gets a divorce without a good reason.
www.spectrumfamilylaw.ca
This is anecdotal but I talk to a lot of people who are married and most of the ones who got married early didn't consider the financial implications of marriage and are constantly complain about overdue bills and how one partner isn't doing their part in paying them. These financial issues leak into other avenues of the relationship(ie the bedroom) and that ultimately leads to partners cheating on each other.
Finance issues are a gateway to even more issues in the relationship and will ultimately lead to a divorce.
Are you over 30? I’m not sure many people on here who are would admit to it. There’s a lot of shame that goes with that in our community.
Some people may also lack initiative or are too afraid of putting themselves out there for fear of rejection. How about a fear of the marriage failing? Some also lack the strong desire for love, companionship or children. Ultimately, I believe it comes down to fear. That’s why we should do our due diligence and place our complete trust in Allah.
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Your man is in Jannatul FardousIt's men who face greater health disparities than women when single. People who are most disadvantaged are those lacking strong social bonds/connections. Healthy marriages are wonderful but unhealthy or eroding ones are more health injurious.
Anecdotally, I'm probably more health conscious than most. Please direct me to an Abdi who:
1) Does not take any pharmaceuticals nor has not had a vaccine in decades
2) Is sexually abstinent/ never fornicated
3) Eats Paleo/Keto/Carnivore
4) Believes in home births/home schooling {more lifestyle but you get the picture}
5) Is physically active
6) Takes health supplements when appropriate be it vitamins, minerals or herbs
7) Has never smoked, drank nor taken recreational drugs (ever)
8) Drinks adequate amounts of water and has adequate amounts of sleep
9) Consumes mostly halaal, organic, pasture raised, grass fed produce or animal products
10) Effectively manages stress
11) Gives back in some form through volunteerism
When you couple that with all the other requirements I essentially get me. I could live with that. Not an aberration but it's what I call an outlier and I never liked being 'caadi' in this respect.
you know what...you're right @JohnCena. I can't compete with your cited paragraphs. I don't have it in me.The goal is to make sure you're good on all front including being financially prepared to have a child/children and support them.
To answer you're question,
That's why it's important to really vet a partner and make sure they are the one for you and vice versa. That's why i'm a big supporter of long term dating then getting married because you'll have a better understanding of that person.
"One study from Kansas State University for the National Survey of Families and Households reported that “arguments about money (are) by far the top predictor of divorce.”"
Another study by Ramsay Solutions in 2017 backed up the findings, reporting that money was the second most common subject that couples fight about – after infidelity. Finances can be more damaging to a marriage than arguments about children, sex, the in-laws or anything else.
Money: Financial Reasons Couples Get a Divorce - Spectrum Family Law
Nobody gets a divorce without a good reason.
This is anecdotal but I talk to a lot of people who are married and most of the ones who got married early didn't consider the financial implications of marriage and are constantly complain about overdue bills and how one partner isn't doing their part in paying them. These financial issues leak into other avenues of the relationship(ie the bedroom) and that ultimately leads to partners cheating on each other.
Finance issues are a gateway to even more issues in the relationship and will ultimately lead to a divorce.
maalin wacan
My beard isn't full
Your man is in Jannatul Fardous
If I exist than so does he.@JohnCena is spitting the haqq. don't have kids if you broke. The world is a mess, poverty is the number one cause of divorces, struggling financially causes a broken home, broken home causes messed up kids who grow up to be criminals or on the streets. I think it's superficial if you bring a kid to the world if you broke to have a new toy or you and abdi can get a free home and benefits. Let's stop this
JohnCena
PROFESSIONAL SHITPOSTER
I think its pretty selfish as well. Some people just want kids and rush into marriage because of societal/religious pressure.
They don't understand how incredibly difficult it is to raise a child especially the need to raise them within the right environment.
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100%. I wish there was a way the body could decide the person is mentally stable and ready to birth a child. So many kids are doomed from the very first second they come out the womb.
@Shimbiris is your closest bet
