Hey all long story short, I came to the states when I was a teenager. I'm completely integrated now, and I have a lot going for me, but then I met this older woman. Is it a smart idea for me to move in with her?
I'm in my late twenties, and she's in her early forties. She has a teenage daughter, thus she has been divorced before. I also don't want to see myself assisting in the upbringing of another man's child. But she's a lot more accomplished than I am; she's a doctor with her own home. I reside in the city (SD) and work a day job that isn't particularly interesting, rent is rising and I want to pursue higher education. It's only me here, my father moved out of the country. I sometimes see my mother, she does her own thing. I do enjoy a bit of independence, yet I feel a bit scared.
Living in the city was nothing like living in her small town. I fell in love with it, it was more affordable, there ain't no traffic, you can stroll the park without getting yelled at. I didn't experience any racism, but I'm sure some people looked back when they saw an interracial couple strolling together.
I'm scared I'm going to lose something I might never get later on in life. I have a woman who is super into me, and she does act a little like my sugar m lol. But she wouldn't hesitate to pick me up when my car was broken down, she would love bomb me and take me on trips, but I find it strange as well.
I see flaws in her, I don't mind that she's older but the sex is as decent at best... She's attractive to the general eyes. But she's not quite my type. I want to keep it respectable. She spent a lot on me and her time. I don't want to be wasting her time. She's also super monogamous and even if otherwise... She is very clingy. As with any relationship. Her daughter isn't even in this decade to move out yet, so I can only imagine how it could be if I move in, her daughter's angsty/a bit LGBT not that it bothers me but again, her mother is dead set on a relationship.
I'm young and I haven't really had any real long-term relationship. And living in the city can be a struggle nowadays. So this is a shot in the dark. Hoping to get some real advice.
I'm in my late twenties, and she's in her early forties. She has a teenage daughter, thus she has been divorced before. I also don't want to see myself assisting in the upbringing of another man's child. But she's a lot more accomplished than I am; she's a doctor with her own home. I reside in the city (SD) and work a day job that isn't particularly interesting, rent is rising and I want to pursue higher education. It's only me here, my father moved out of the country. I sometimes see my mother, she does her own thing. I do enjoy a bit of independence, yet I feel a bit scared.
Living in the city was nothing like living in her small town. I fell in love with it, it was more affordable, there ain't no traffic, you can stroll the park without getting yelled at. I didn't experience any racism, but I'm sure some people looked back when they saw an interracial couple strolling together.
I'm scared I'm going to lose something I might never get later on in life. I have a woman who is super into me, and she does act a little like my sugar m lol. But she wouldn't hesitate to pick me up when my car was broken down, she would love bomb me and take me on trips, but I find it strange as well.
I see flaws in her, I don't mind that she's older but the sex is as decent at best... She's attractive to the general eyes. But she's not quite my type. I want to keep it respectable. She spent a lot on me and her time. I don't want to be wasting her time. She's also super monogamous and even if otherwise... She is very clingy. As with any relationship. Her daughter isn't even in this decade to move out yet, so I can only imagine how it could be if I move in, her daughter's angsty/a bit LGBT not that it bothers me but again, her mother is dead set on a relationship.
I'm young and I haven't really had any real long-term relationship. And living in the city can be a struggle nowadays. So this is a shot in the dark. Hoping to get some real advice.