Then face the fact that you won't make a good partner.
There is a Somali saying that goes like:
Be a mountain or be the person leaning on it.
It's in human nature to want to be depended on and use your strength to serve others. A wife depends on her Husband and vice versa. That's how a good relationship is made.
I read an article that was talking about military boot camps and the thing that sparked my interest was that the boot camps were designed for trainees to ask others for help. They realized that the more they asked each other for help, the more the trainees bonded. The ones that decided to be stuck up and act like they didn't need any help were shunned by the rest of the group.
Love is cultivated by giving sincerely. The more you give a person sincerely. The more you love them and not the other way around. When you give, it's like you're taking a part of yourself and offering it to another person. You're essentially tricking your brain into thinking that a part of you is with them. Thus, making you love them.
You can be an independent all you like but keep in mind that men will always flock to women that are dependent on them. It's just in our nature
