Most likely the latter
Especially if she wants the housewife life, aimless doesn’t cut it.Most likely the latter
He says 'he's not even 25', meaning hes probably 24 which is not young. By that age if you haven't began your career or at least dont have a solid plan to move your life forward then you're just a bum. Why should she stick around if she sees no potential?
Your brother is in the wrong phase man. Men should just date and have fun until their early 30s and then marry a woman in her mid 20s. Tell him to focus on his life and stop the fucking nonsense.Had a chat today with my younger brother whose been frustrated with his failing love life.
He's not even 25 yet but said his girl broke up with him recently because she didn't want to wait for him to "get his shit together".
I asked him to describe this girl and explain these demands she wants, turns out she's a little younger, with a year left at University. She has no money of her own but expects the kid to already have a down payment on a flat, not drive a rental like most his age but instead own a car in this expensive ass city, have the money to throw a massive wedding and enough money for a years rent and to have a credible profession. She has all these expectations (some are reasonable some aren't) because in her head she wants to skip the headache of joining the real world when she graduates and become a stay-at-home wife.
From her part she agreed to play housewife given she can be provided for.
I told him she drives a hard bargain but you can't blame her for wanting a secure future. But atleast she's willing to be a housewife, that's unheard of these days, war inanta ma salafi baa
Anyway he said all his friends are going through similar problems and the girls they all want are dating and marrying older guys, only to end up being divorced.
Which brings me to my question, what happened to growing together through struggle? Why do some girls drop the young Abdi just to get with the older Abdi who they have no chemistry with? Yeah he has money but you barely know him?
I feel like this leads to a vicious cycle. Xalimo breaks up with Young Abdi because she doesn't believe in his potential. Young Abdi loses motivation and messes around. Xalimo marries older Abdi who doesn't treat her right because he was expecting a doormat after years of also messing around because a previous Xalimo probably broke his heart too.
Now everyone is unhappy, all because of instant gratification? I think this generation need a reality check wallahi. We don't have parents with generational wealth, learn to be humble and appreciate a simpler life. Half of you are in debt and probably won't afford houses for decades. Instead of a big wedding, have a modest one. Instead of the Shard, go to Tinseltown, instead of driving 18 plates, how about an uber if you're travelling or even a nice walk? Or is romance just about snapping dashboards?
Where did the OP say that his brother smokes weed “all day”?
I can see that. Ironically, for lots of guys, that’s the push it seems to take to get them going. But, you’re right, it might turn them into cynics when they get there. Personally, I can’t fathom how someone doesn’t have goals they’re actively working towards in their 20s. A person who doesn’t have goals or any kind of framework in their early 20s, wouldn’t have made progress by their late 20s, and is aimless. And I’m not the housewife type.The issue as I see it is when the guy finally makes it and is successful with financial stability, he often turns into a cynic that doesn't want to commit to any broad. It's not easy differentiating between those that actually like you for you, and those that like you for the lifestyle you can provide and merely tolereate you.
He said he told him the weed got to his head, ie translation, he smokes a lot.
Educated housewife is still beneficial than someone who never got post-secondary, and if something changes in her life, she has something to fall back on
Your degree would be useless if you’ve done nothing for the past 5 years. If you have an employment gap that large, you wouldn’t even get a job as a sales assistant.
That’s bullshit. Granted, you can’t expect to start back right where you left off, and it depends largely on what she’s studying. And I’d go so far as to say even if she never works a day in her life, it’s still of more benefit.
Who'll fix you up?
Had a chat today with my younger brother whose been frustrated with his failing love life.
He's not even 25 yet but said his girl broke up with him recently because she didn't want to wait for him to "get his shit together".
I asked him to describe this girl and explain these demands she wants, turns out she's a little younger, with a year left at University. She has no money of her own but expects the kid to already have a down payment on a flat, not drive a rental like most his age but instead own a car in this expensive ass city, have the money to throw a massive wedding and enough money for a years rent and to have a credible profession. She has all these expectations (some are reasonable some aren't) because in her head she wants to skip the headache of joining the real world when she graduates and become a stay-at-home wife.
From her part she agreed to play housewife given she can be provided for.
I told him she drives a hard bargain but you can't blame her for wanting a secure future. But atleast she's willing to be a housewife, that's unheard of these days, war inanta ma salafi baa
Anyway he said all his friends are going through similar problems and the girls they all want are dating and marrying older guys, only to end up being divorced.
Which brings me to my question, what happened to growing together through struggle? Why do some girls drop the young Abdi just to get with the older Abdi who they have no chemistry with? Yeah he has money but you barely know him?
I feel like this leads to a vicious cycle. Xalimo breaks up with Young Abdi because she doesn't believe in his potential. Young Abdi loses motivation and messes around. Xalimo marries older Abdi who doesn't treat her right because he was expecting a doormat after years of also messing around because a previous Xalimo probably broke his heart too.
Now everyone is unhappy, all because of instant gratification? I think this generation need a reality check wallahi. We don't have parents with generational wealth, learn to be humble and appreciate a simpler life. Half of you are in debt and probably won't afford houses for decades. Instead of a big wedding, have a modest one. Instead of the Shard, go to Tinseltown, instead of driving 18 plates, how about an uber if you're travelling or even a nice walk? Or is romance just about snapping dashboards?
