My cousin is ranaway

[SOULSEARCHING]

We got a call from my auntie , my dad's sister , her daughter has left home.
She messaged them saying she's left home because she was under too much stress .
She's the youngest of 7 brothers and she never left home to go out with friends, because my auntie told her a girls job is to look after her house, cook and clean.
She was out only one night with friends and came home and her mother attacked her saying , you are my only daughter, you're always out with girls who have other sisters who stay home and clean , but you shouldn't be like that you're my only daughter.
I feel sorry for my cousin , but I feel like my auntie is a control freak.

 

[486th President]

I can’t blame her if she stayed imagine her future it’s haunting to be honest but also scary that she left

 

[Mercury]

how old is she ?

 

[Jiron]

My heart goes out to ur cousin, unfortunately some Somali parents can be cruel to their daughters sometimes, expecting too much and being too hard on them. Your cousin deserves to have a life of her own and the trust by her family. She should be able to socialize with her friends and not bear the responsibility of looking after others. Please have ur parents contact her parents and talk to them for her

 

[Desert Flower]

I wish her well. It’s tough, the girls get stuck doing the brunt work and the boys get to coast. It’s not fair. Some Somali moms are toxic and mean spirited. No one runs away for no reason (unless they’re mentally ill).

 

[Sloane Ranger]

I wish her well. It’s tough, the girls get stuck doing the brunt work and the boys get to coast. It’s not fair. Some Somali moms are toxic and mean spirited. No one runs away for no reason (unless they’re mentally ill).

Some care more about public perception then their daughters happiness. Until they get to a point were the kids start rebelling then they'll try to change. Its quite sad. I feel sorry for the girl. I hope she doesn't do end up leading a haram lifestyle to rebel.

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

how old is she ?

She's 26, I don't understand why she can't see friends once a week. She works 5 days a week. She needs a social life.

 

[Recon Expert]

She's 26, I don't understand why she can't see friends once a week. She works 5 days a week. She needs a social life.

Seems like your aunt is unreasonable.

 

[Sloane Ranger]

She's 26, I don't understand why she can't see friends once a week. She works 5 days a week. She needs a social life.

That's crazy. If she's holed up at home where will she find her husband from ?

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

Some care more about public perception then their daughters happiness. Until they get to a point were the kids start rebelling then they'll try to change. Its quite sad. I feel sorry for the girl. I hope she doesn't do end up leading a haram lifestyle to rebel.

No, she is a good girl.

That's crazy. If she's holed up at home where will she find her husband from ?

I don't know I wish she lived here in the UK I would chill with her.

 

[Spartan]

Your cuzzo is very immature, selfish and caasi for putting her mother through that. *NVM I just read she’s 26.

 

[Ciyaalka Xaafada]

That's crazy. If she's holed up at home where will she find her husband from ?

Im asking that myself my sister is 22 and isnt still allowed to talk with men

 

[ReerVanCadde]

You need to cut your parents/aunties some slack. Bear in mind, we are first generation Somalis so all of this is relatively new to us.

 

[Angelina]

That is so sad. 26 wa naag weeyn.

If she is always stuck at home working, working, working, how is she going to make a life for herself? What about her mental health?

 

[Angelina]

Im asking that myself my sister is 22 and isnt still allowed to talk with men

And then once she gets to 25+ some people will shame her for being unmarried.

I'm telling you, its mostly the miskeen girls from strict families who end up marrying late. But people here want to act like if you are unmarried after 26 its because you've been around, a career woman or there is something wrong with you.

 

[Ciyaalka Xaafada]

And then once she gets to 25+ some people will shame her for being unmarried.

I'm telling you, its mostly the miskeen girls from strict families who end up marrying late. But people here want to act like if you are unmarried after 26 its because you've been around, a career woman or there is something wrong with you.

Facts

 

[Iceman88]

And then once she gets to 25+ some people will shame her for being unmarried.

I'm telling you, its mostly the miskeen girls from strict families who end up marrying late. But people here want to act like if you are unmarried after 26 its because you've been around, a career woman or there is something wrong with you.

That is not true, those girls do get married. The ones that don’t get married are the ones that leave house to go uni, dysfunctional families where no one cares. No dad at home. Party girls etc.
A miskeen girls that listens to her parents, Someone like that will get help from higher powers.

 

[Angelina]

That is not true, those girls do get married. The ones that don’t get married are the ones that leave house to go uni, dysfunctional families where no one cares. No dad at home. Party girls etc.
A miskeen girls that listens to her parents, Someone like that will get help from higher powers.

All types of women marry.

But the reality is that in our community, women are expected to find their own spouses. We don't have arranged marriages, nor community marriage services. So, if you do not interact with the opposite gender it will be hard for you to marry. Obviously everything is qadr.

Also, what are you going by? As a woman who is constantly surrounded by other women that is my observation. The whole point of my post is that family and communities need to start helping their kids marry.

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

Her mother expects her to be only out for an hour. Which is crazy. If longer she's going to attack her and say I was cleaning the whole house by myself and nobody helped me and I have body aches etc.
When she has 7 sons who could do some house work.

 

[Ciyaalka Xaafada]

Her mother expects her to be only out for an hour. Which is crazy. If longer she's going to attack her and say I was cleaning the whole house by myself and nobody helped me and I have body aches etc.
When she has 7 sons who could do some house work.

Sons should marry wives = Its all gucci
Get house Maid = all gucci