Men who don’t want educated wives..

[Desert Flower]

Again sort yourself out before marriage.

You cant leave a kid on day care.
That is how most kids end up in gangs.

The kids are left on day care.during week and during weekend somali women would go from party to party.So the kid grows without a parents.

We’re talking about two different things here. Putting your kid in day care doesn’t guarantee they’ll become gangsters. If we wanna use anecdotes, I’ll say that most gangsters are the offspring of SAHM who didn’t do anything but go to weddings and watch Turkish soap operas. They don’t teach their kids anything.

An educated mom will mean your kids will be educated. It will benefit them.

 

[GemState]

If you're a marrying a Somali girl you're the one providing and taking care of her you shouldn't depend on her to contribute financially Cadaan don't have same deen as us

Secondly if you don't want your wife to wear the pants in the relationship you need be more involved in the household

Akhi, if a woman is educated, has a job, and wants you to pay 3-5k Mehr while also not contributing to the household, then you're simply being taken advantage of plain and simple.

Wallahi if you said this to any other ethnicity they'd think you're insane for agreeing to it, but Somali men in the West will accept it without question and will get gaslighted if they disagree

Either be traditional or be like the Cadaans who split 50/50

 

[Mercury]

I am not going to give you an excuse firat you will ask to go to work second meet your family third meet your friends and I am not talking annually but weekly then what Am I left with ?
That is not a relationship.
You can marry your career like Oprah or be a wife and try to raise kids.

You can have a career and raise kids you just need to work together like a team and see what works best for you

 

[Desert Flower]

Akhi, if a woman is educated, has a job, and wants you to pay 3-5k Mehr while also not contributing to the household, then you're simply being taken advantage of plain and simple.

Either be traditional or be like the Cadaans who split 50/50

You can have a career and raise kids you just need to work together like a team and see what works best for you

A lot of the comments here are very black and white. There’s no nuance. I’ll say that as men, your job is to protect and provide. Don’t worry about what money your wife brings to the table. It’s not yours anyways.

 

[Sheikh Kulkuli]

We’re talking about two different things here. Putting your kid in day care doesn’t guarantee they’ll become gangsters. If we wanna use anecdotes, I’ll say that most gangsters are the offspring of SAHM who didn’t do anything but go to weddings and watch Turkish soap operas. They don’t teach their kids anything.

An educated mom will mean your kids will be educated. It will benefit them.

I prefer a religiously educated woman than just an educated woman.

Because an educated xalimo should also know she is part of the solution not part of the precipitate.

 

[Jungle]

A lot of the comments here are very black and white. There’s no nuance. I’ll say that as men, your job is to protect and provide. Don’t worry about what money your wife brings to the table. It’s not yours anyways.

outrageous!

This aint how the world works.

 

[Desert Flower]

I prefer a religiously educated woman than just an educated woman.

Because an educated xalimo should also know she is part of the solution not part of the precipitate.

Good laakin why do you have to choose between the two? You do know there are religious women who are also highly educated...

 

[Alluring]

Akhi, if a woman is educated, has a job, and wants you to pay 3-5k Mehr while also not contributing to the household, then you're simply being taken advantage of plain and simple.

Wallahi if you said this to any other ethnicity they'd think you're insane for agreeing to it, but Somali men in the West will accept it without question and will get gaslighted if they disagree

Either be traditional or be like the Cadaans who split 50/50

Cadaans don't split 50/50, that is the biggest lie they've sold. Maybe in bills but in most cases women do the child-rearing, cooking and cleaning while splitting the bills. A lot of their so-called independence is a load of bs.

 

[Desert Flower]

Cadaans don't split 50/50, that is the biggest lie they've sold. Maybe in bills but in most cases women do the child-rearing, cooking and cleaning while splitting the bills. A lot of their so-called independence is a load of bs.

Most are SAHM and their husbands pay for everything. They also live in nice big homes and drive nice cars.

These men want you to be a SAHM living in public housing or a small apartment with no naafiso and want you to cook, clean and take care of 5 screaming kids with no help. Yaab badana!

 

[Sheikh Kulkuli]

Good laakin why do you have to choose between the two? You do know there are religious women who are also highly educated...

Yes and know how to obey their husbands.
Not sex and city kind.

 

[Mercury]

Akhi, if a woman is educated, has a job, and wants you to pay 3-5k Mehr while also not contributing to the household, then you're simply being taken advantage of plain and simple.

Either be traditional or be like the Cadaans who split 50/50

You look at it as being taken advantage of when its been our tradition back in the day Somalis used to offer 100 camels and offer alot of money in order to marry the girl they wanted

 

[Desert Flower]

Yes and know how to obey their husbands.
Not sex and city kind.

Ok. I see where this is headed, so I’ll stop.

Good luck in finding what you want iA.

 

[Sheikh Kulkuli]

Cadaans don't split 50/50, that is the biggest lie they've sold. Maybe in bills but in most cases women do the child-rearing, cooking and cleaning while splitting the bills. A lot of their so-called independence is a load of bs.

They do.They also split wedding and there is no meher.

Cadaan women know what they want in a relationship.But a secularist xalimo would take what is best for in in cadan culture and what is best for her in islamic culture and demand nothing less nothing more.
Clash of civilisation.

 

[Alluring]

Most are SAHM and their husbands pay for everything. They also live in nice big homes and drive nice cars.

These men want you to be a SAHM living in public housing or a small apartment with no naafiso and want you to cook, clean and take care of 5 screaming kids with no help. Yaab badana!

Everyone knows they do absolutely nothing beside f*ck the hispanic poolboy once in a while and go shopping with their other SAHM friends.

 

[Idyllic]

Ok. I see where this is headed, so I’ll stop.

Good luck in finding what you want iA.

“obey” lool he lost me at that

 

[Mozart]

An educated wife who doesn’t work at least until the kids are a certain age is clearly superior.

 

[Hali]

I hope women wake up and see that a man who is happy with you not having a job or an education wants to see you destitute and dependent on him. It’s their worst fear to have an educated woman by his side because she’ll not accept his bs.
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Funny thing is that’s the idea
But I’ve seen educated girls who are very submissive and will even go out everyday working for the guy while he sits at home lounging and popping out to see his friends
then uneducated girls that nimanka nafta uu keena

 

[Sheikh Kulkuli]

Ok. I see where this is headed, so I’ll stop.

Good luck in finding what you want iA.

We men always find what we want.

Women should spend time on their relationship not making money out of the relationship.It should be a mutual relationship not a parasitic relationship.

 

[Alluring]

Off-topic but why are there so many men disputing mehr, you can't claim to want a religious woman and not fulfill your religious obligations. If a girl is too expensive, either get richer or lower your standards.

 

[Desert Flower]

Everyone knows they do absolutely nothing beside f*ck the hispanic poolboy once in a while and go shopping with their other SAHM friends.

And where do they get the money? Their husbands. These men want the benefits but don’t want to put in the work. Most women would be ok with being a housewife if you offered them a secure life, not one filled with rafaad.