Marriage ends friendships

[SOULSEARCHING]

I had a friend who I knew from high school, we were really close. We would go out nearly everyday even after work and days off.

We'd spend late nights out in town eating, smoking shisha and playing board games.

It was two years ago when she meet a guy, at the start their relationship started off bad, she'd always visit me and tell me her problems and I'd a give her advise.

We were still seeing each other every other day.


But I noticed something about her, she will only talk to me when she was depressed over her relationship and when things were going good between them two, I wouldn't hear anything from her.


A year ago she got married, and we didn't talk for 6 months straight. I forgot about her because of this.
I realized people use you too pass time.

I know people have priorities once they get married, but you still could communicate with your friends through texting & calling etc.

I know for sure I won't be helping her if she and her husband have issues.

 

[Helios]

 

[Karim]

Marriage is the plight of the single person; you go from being a member of a posse, and as people get married, the dynamics of your friendships change. There are two ways a friendship can diminish after marriage: if one person remains single, or if the married person becomes too attached-at-the-hip to their partner.

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

Marriage is the plight of the single person; you go from being a member of a posse, and as people get married, the dynamics of your friendships change. There are two ways a friendship can diminish after marriage: if one person remains single, or if the married person becomes too attached-at-the-hip to their partner.

She's attached to him like a glue, I was wondering if he did vodoo on her.


I have another married friend and we see each other at least 3x a week and she has children.

 

[Radical]

One unhappy marriage shouldn't cloud your overall views on the subject, marriage is just another extension of community and opens the door for another family in your social life like in laws, it's not a downgrade and if your spouse is making you live a secluded lifestyle then you should rethink that marriage

Welcome back sxb

 

[Cagmadhige]

I had a friend who I knew from high school, we were really close. We would go out nearly everyday even after work and days off.

We'd spend late nights out in town eating, smoking shisha and playing board games.

It was two years ago when she meet a guy, at the start their relationship started off bad, she'd always visit me and tell me her problems and I'd a give her advise.

We were still seeing each other every other day.


But I noticed something about her, she will only talk to me when she was depressed over her relationship and when things were going good between them two, I wouldn't hear anything from her.


A year ago she got married, and we didn't talk for 6 months straight. I forgot about her because of this.
I realized people use you too pass time.

I know people have priorities once they get married, but you still could communicate with your friends through texting & calling etc.

I know for sure I won't be helping her if she and her husband have issues.

Nice story

 

[Nomoregames2019]

Move on and get a better friend. Also sometimes, I don't think she means it in anyway. Married people have a tough life, jiggling between work, and raising their children. Heck, even me when I was working a tough 9-5 office job I sometimes I didn't go out or meet people for a whole month because I was so tired, and I prefered staying indoors on the weekends to rest, I am not married with kids.

Also, as people grow up they take different avenues, people don't have the time to chill and hang out as they use too in University. Anyone should be grateful enough if you have that one friend who they can call up, and meet up with every weekend to hang out. This is definitely case as you go into the adult working world full time

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

Move on and get a better friend. Also sometimes, I don't think she means it in anyway. Married people have a tough life, jiggling between work, and raising their children. Heck, even me when I was working a tough 9-5 office job I sometimes I didn't go out or meet people for a whole month because I was so tired, and I prefered staying indoors on the weekends to rest, I am not married with kids.

Also, as people grow up they take different avenues, people don't have the time to chill and hang out as they use too in University. Anyone should be grateful enough if you have that one friend who they can call up, and meet up with every weekend to hang out. This is definitely case as you go into the adult working world full time

She doesn't work or have children.
She lives with her partner's family.

 

[CaliTedesse]

Ukhti who cares make a new friend, forget her. Focus on yourself. Why stand still and reflect on this girlfriend of yours who totally forgot you and seems she only went to you when she had problems. How fake is that?

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

Ukhti who cares make a new friend, forget her. Focus on yourself. Why stand still and reflect on this girlfriend of yours who totally forgot you and seems she only went to you when she had problems. How fake is that?

Just a lesson I learned..

 

[Molotoff]

A person that is with you just to pass time, is not your friend. If he or she is a genuine friend, they want to spend time with you because they genuinely like and care about you.

Also, a person not helping you in your time of need, is not a friend of yours.