Man divorces wife because she can't cook food

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Would you marry someone, who couldn't cook probably?

  1. Yes

  2. No

  3. It doesn't matter

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  1. Benjamin

    Benjamin Free speech doesn't end where your feeling begins.

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    This is based on a story I heard while, spying on my eedos drinking tea & gossiping.

    This happened to a girl I don't personally know, but my aunt knew her. When she first met her future husband, on the first date he didn't ask to much questions as usual.
    But on the third date, he asked her if she could cook, and She said yes & lied about it. Is not that is lied about it, she could cook but not in a good level. After a while they got married.
    Her husband became abusive, after finding out that she couldn't cook probably. The girl became depressed & once tried to attempt suicide. Her father interfered and demanded that he divorce his daughter.

    PS: That girl is mother now , as my aunt told me, she married another man. I'm glad she left that dipshit.

    my opinion:
    I wouldn't care actually, I'm not acquiring a slave. To marry a strong independent woman is actually what matters.

    Does it matter to you if she can't cook, and would you go as far as this guy did?
     
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  2. Mercury

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    The Guy went too far It shouldnt matter if it is that important to him he could help her by asking his mom/sisters to teach her

    I wouldnt care if My wife can Cook or not the only thing that matters to me is her deen and how devoted she is to her family
     
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  3. Duke of Bohol

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    Why not make her watch Youtube cooking videos and teach her how to do it.
     
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  4. Benjamin

    Benjamin Free speech doesn't end where your feeling begins.

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    He was too narcissistic for that, he left her for good.
     
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    He pushed her to attempted suicide over not knowing how to cook? As if that can't be learned...? There must've been more to the story.

    If not they're both insane, and I feel bad for her.
     
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  6. Benjamin

    Benjamin Free speech doesn't end where your feeling begins.

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    There is actually nothing more, the man was an abusive narcissist. I couldn't believe it either. May Allah save you from men like that.
     
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    That's so strange. Thank you, all our sisters ameen.
     
  8. Malcolm X

    Malcolm X The price of freedom is death

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    The girl made a mistake of lying, didn't deserve the suffering the man gave her.

    If the woman couldn't cook, I'd try to see if she can follow the instructions. It's not cooking that's the important part, it's willingness to learn that's the important part.
     
  9. Benjamin

    Benjamin Free speech doesn't end where your feeling begins.

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    She didn't lie attentionally, she could cook basic food. But her husband was expecting more for her. He didn't even give her the chance to learn.
     
  10. Malcolm X

    Malcolm X The price of freedom is death

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    If he asked, I guess he is expecting her to cook meals typically eaten in Somali households. Pasta with suugo is an example.

    I'm sure she knew exactly what he meant when she asked. If she couldn't cook those food, it's lying by omission.

    Not that deserves such treatment by the husband anyway
     
  11. The Cushitic One

    The Cushitic One Xoolaha slayer ......

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    Just eat.com and uber eats.com

    :hillarybiz:
     
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  12. Southie

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    You want a easy transition from hooyo's cooking to the wifey's. I'd rather stay home if she can't cook
     
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  13. supz

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    Man had problems. He would have raged about other shit if it wasn't for food. Good that he disliked her cooking i guess....
     
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  14. El padrone

    El padrone SomaliSpot Padrone

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    I live up to the saying that goes " a mans heart is thru his calool" if she cant cook for cunto macaan oo faraha la isku goosto, she aint worth the $100k meher im splashing on her. the price tag must reflect her skills
     
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  15. supz

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    Thing is, cooking is a life skill. Every adult should be able to cook. Its not hard. Splashing money or orders is not even economical neither healthy. Best to be frugal for these things.
     
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