So I was watching ‘millennial money’ on YouTube in a new effort to unlearn my very Somali,’aduunyo waa laba maalin’ approach of managing money. Money stresses me out so for too long I refused to budget or even spare a thought to what my expenses possibly looked like.
Anyway, so there was this young couple (gaal) and they literally split everything down the middle. Even when they do their weekly shop, these two get the cashier to split the bill at the till. I didn’t even do that with my housemates all the time bisinka.
Anyway alx ilahey made me Somali but for those of you who are married and working, what do you really do regarding money? I know there is a lot of booto and fronting done by people but what’s the reality on the ground?
I did relatively well for myself in terms of money/career but erm I cannot fathom splitting bills with a grown man. In my head, I‘m essentially paying for the roof over his head and his food and well that won’t fare too well in terms of the future of that relationship.
However, if I were to work and make good money, and then proceed to tuck away all that money, a little part of me would perhaps feel a teeny weeny bit bad. Esp if living costs are high.
I guess it would come down to the type of lifestyle you’d want to live but honestly I think I’d much rather live a simpler life than take on the providing role with him (eww) and tbh I don’t really work for the money but for other more erm, ...altruistic reasons let’s say.
So eventually when I have kids I do plan to pause/halt work (because motherhood is a full time job in itself and public schooling is a scam) but until then what to do if I make money but don’t want to be the man???
Sigh...times like this I wish my awoowe didn’t run away from the baadiyo so that I could’ve lived the nomad life in Xanan Bure.
But here we are.
Unprecedented times perhaps call for contemporary solutions.
So I’m all ears.
What is the solution?
Anyway, so there was this young couple (gaal) and they literally split everything down the middle. Even when they do their weekly shop, these two get the cashier to split the bill at the till. I didn’t even do that with my housemates all the time bisinka.
Anyway alx ilahey made me Somali but for those of you who are married and working, what do you really do regarding money? I know there is a lot of booto and fronting done by people but what’s the reality on the ground?
I did relatively well for myself in terms of money/career but erm I cannot fathom splitting bills with a grown man. In my head, I‘m essentially paying for the roof over his head and his food and well that won’t fare too well in terms of the future of that relationship.
However, if I were to work and make good money, and then proceed to tuck away all that money, a little part of me would perhaps feel a teeny weeny bit bad. Esp if living costs are high.
I guess it would come down to the type of lifestyle you’d want to live but honestly I think I’d much rather live a simpler life than take on the providing role with him (eww) and tbh I don’t really work for the money but for other more erm, ...altruistic reasons let’s say.
So eventually when I have kids I do plan to pause/halt work (because motherhood is a full time job in itself and public schooling is a scam) but until then what to do if I make money but don’t want to be the man???
Sigh...times like this I wish my awoowe didn’t run away from the baadiyo so that I could’ve lived the nomad life in Xanan Bure.
But here we are.
Unprecedented times perhaps call for contemporary solutions.
So I’m all ears.
What is the solution?
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