Is it virtually impossible for a married man not to cheat in todays time?

[dr.leorio]

Real men don't cheat. If your desires can't be met with your first wife just get a second one. Simple.

Just be prepared for double the bills, headache and drama. But the upside is that you'll have more children (a blessing) and you won't cheat and commit zina.

 

[so_wavey]

Real men don't cheat. If your desires can't be met with your first wife just get a second one. Simple.

Just be prepared for double the bills, headache and drama. But the upside is that you'll have more children (a blessing) and you won't cheat and commit zina.

If the second wife gives up her right (financial right) then you don’t need to provide for her it’s called misar marriage normally garoobs give up their right so they can have a man who meets their desires

 

[dr.leorio]

If the second wife gives up her right (financial right) then you don’t need to provide for her it’s called misar marriage normally garoobs give up their right so they can have a man who meets their desires

I believe the term for that is melk al-yameen. I personally don't see that ever happening in today's world unless something catastrophic occurs. Sheik Imran Hosein explains it well in this video:

 

[Leila]

If the second wife gives up her right (financial right) then you don’t need to provide for her it’s called misar marriage normally garoobs give up their right so they can have a man who meets their desires

Since when do Somalis take part in Iranian Shia practices ?

 

[Caaro]

Problem solved. Simply avoid nonmonogamous men. Their brains are wired differently than the faithfully inclined who make better fathers.

New fMRI research is beginning to break down the neurology of monogamy and non-monogamy

and how could you possibly tell the difference between a monogamous man and the counterpart? Some of these men don’t even know what they want.

also, I don’t really believe these studies that conveniently fit into feminist tropes. Like come on, I remember reading an article that claimed men who liked bigger breasts were poorer and had lower IQ on average and those who liked smaller breasts were richer and had higher iq lmfao.

I refuse to believe there’s a biological difference between cheating men and non-cheating men. All men and women have the potential to cheat. Nothing to do with the brain, more to do with circumstances and conviction.

 

[Zoobear]

A weak person when given the position to deceive will.

 

[Sophisticate]

and how could you possibly tell the difference between a monogamous man and the counterpart? Some of these men don’t even know what they want.

also, I don’t really believe these studies that conveniently fit into feminist tropes. Like come on, I remember reading an article that claimed men who liked bigger breasts were poorer and had lower IQ on average and those who liked smaller breasts were richer and had higher iq lmfao.

I refuse to believe there’s a biological difference between cheating men and non-cheating men. All men and women have the potential to cheat. Nothing to do with the brain, more to do with circumstances and conviction.

So, do you think humans are quite similar or different in their agreeableness, conscientiousness, openness to experience/thrilling seeking behaviour? Do you think some people are more or less capable of fidelity than others?

 

[Caaro]

So, do you think humans are quite similar or different in their agreeableness, conscientiousness, openness to experience/thrilling seeking behaviour? Do you think some people are more or less capable of fidelity than others?

No, I believe in nurture over nature. It’s not in someone’s nature to cheat. They weren’t born that way, it’s under the circumstances they were raised in. You’re a product of your environment. Your environment is also constantly changing and you could change along with it.

A man or woman may not be likely to cheat on their spouse but who’s to say they’ll be 100% faithful 10 years down the line? You just can’t predict human behaviour. Saying “simple fix, just marry a monogamous man” is a huge oversimplification. How can you possibly tell if a man is monogamous or not?

I’m just saying, there is no real neurological difference between a man who cheats and a man who doesn’t. Despite what a blog post run by a white woman would tell you.

Humans are all incredibly unique when it comes to thought process and decision making, precisely because they were exposed to different things throughout their life. If someone grew up constantly watching p*rn, split up parents, and a bunch of other stuff. They’d probably have an easier time cheating than someone who grew up in a better environment

 

[Sophisticate]

No, I believe in nurture over nature. It’s not in someone’s nature to cheat. They weren’t born that way, it’s under the circumstances they were raised in. You’re a product of your environment. Your environment is also constantly changing and you could change along with it.

A man or woman may not be likely to cheat on their spouse but who’s to say they’ll be 100% faithful 10 years down the line? You just can’t predict human behaviour. Saying “simple fix, just marry a monogamous man” is a huge oversimplification. How can you possibly tell if a man is monogamous or not?

I’m just saying, there is no real neurological difference between a man who cheats and a man who doesn’t. Despite what a blog post run by a white woman would tell you.

Humans are all incredibly unique when it comes to thought process and decision making, precisely because they were exposed to different things throughout their life. If someone grew up constantly watching p*rn, split up parents, and a bunch of other stuff. They’d probably have an easier time cheating than someone who grew up in a better environment

Is it safe to say its both nature and nurture? Children have pronounced differences in temperment which is said to be innate. And adverse life experiences could be contributing factors to commitment issues. But I wonder what of those with seemingly ordinary upbrings who still make wreckless and ill-advised decisions (not in a moment of weakness but are inveterate offenders).

What about serial philanderers? Do you think they are wired the same?

Let me make another point. A man with conservative values and who is conscientious is a better bet at fidelity than one who is more liberal with an openness to experience.

 

[jabsveg276]

The temptations in the west is at a all time high a married farah sees young supply of halimos everywhere looking to impress

A Somali man is born to conquer and plant his seed in as many young beautiful halimos why limit yourselves as a man? why let a woman prevent you from having fun? allah allowed you to have 4 its your right does a lionesss telll a male lion he cant do anything? be a man!

This thread is talking about cheating not marrying second or thirds or fourths which is not cheating its allowed but sadly guys cheat because they dont want to marry again because they scared of their wives reaction they rather do zina subhanallah

Some women would rather their man mess around then marry anther woman

allah let us marry 4 wives for a reason 4 slaves is better than 1 so look at as many women as you want kings until you're satisfied and when they turn old, divorce them for some young gazzeles real king shit

 

[Spartan]

In the wise words of Shiekh Moneybagg yo: Niggas f*ck off but want they perfect

 

[so_wavey]

Since when do Somalis take part in Iranian Shia practices ?

You getting it mistaken for mutah marriage I’m talking about misar marriage which is allowed In the deen

 

[so_wavey]

allah let us marry 4 wives for a reason 4 slaves is better than 1 so look at as many women as you want kings until you're satisfied and when they turn old, divorce them for some young gazzeles real king shit

Real alpha life my adeer is 67 he had 4 wives divorced one years back recently got married to a 24 year old young vibrant gazzel Alhamduliah. His first wife is fair Petite second tall dark big bone 3rd between the 2 and this last one is something else he enjoys different flavours why limit your self? Why do zina when you married just marry anther 3 and make it halal

 

[Angelina]

You getting it mistaken for mutah marriage I’m talking about misar marriage which is allowed In the deen

Its very discouraged tbh. You cannot act like its acceptable when some scholars like Sh Albani go as far as saying it is haram. Even scholars that allowed it have retracted their views because of the negative consequences.

It is not liked. Marriage is about building families.

Enough trolling now.

 

[Amirah]

Plus, knowing the lifespan of the average Somali man it'll be a very short life, unfortunately.

What do you call a culture that normalized these short life spanned men to marry teen girls when they’re old men sometimes 60-80yrs old? In the eyes of Somalis a camel has more worth than a woman. And then they wonder why they’ve been destroyed. Now the men are paying for the karma everywhere they go. Allah answers the cries of the oppressed.

 

[Amirah]

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[greyhound stone]

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Somalis are crazy asf. Idk how this shit is acceptable. Sheeko cajib waaye.

 

[Amirah]

Somalis are crazy asf. Idk how this shit is acceptable. Sheeko cajib waaye.

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[greyhound stone]

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Me I'm not really connected to people back home. But my family are so I wasn't aware how crazy this is. Now I understand why many somali women despise some somali men. Seems like abdis been doing xalimos dirty since day one. This is why family need to value eachother. If u don't care about your daughters well being then don't expect love as a parent. Some somali parents be toxic asf and can't be understanding to the children's needs and wellbeing. Wallahi shit is crazy. Sheeko walaan

 

[Xaruun]

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Exactly, it goes both ways. Us faraxs always hear about the good miskeen guys who get used and treated like shit or thrown out by their wives who then prevent them from seeing their own kids. Then we see the abusive/absent CHADs with loyal battered wives and harems of young gazelles back home and go ‘What’s the point in being a good husband?’.