Is it normal for people to ask for your qabil when they don’t know you

[Somalib]

Most people would say yes but I would like to know what you think?

 

[Keep it a boqol]

In Somalia? Yes

in the diaspora? It’s definitely not normal

 

[Som]

I was taught it's rude to ask directly what is your qabil to people. If you meet somebody they either tell you or you can guess/ask to other people who know the person

 

[Som]

In Somalia? Yes

in the diaspora? It’s definitely not normal

In the diaspora it's a big no no. Back home it's ok but in a indirect way, they'll ask you who your father is or where in Somalia you are from to guess.
Before the war it was frowned upon even in Somalia, my parents told me they didn't even know the exact qabil of many of their school friends while growing up and only learned after the war

 

[Mount23]

In the diaspora it's a big no no. Back home it's ok but in a indirect way, they'll ask you who your father is or where in Somalia you are from to guess.
Before the war it was frowned upon even in Somalia, my parents told me they didn't even know the exact qabil of many of their school friends while growing up and only learned after the war

Asking someones qabil during Barre era was seen as a hillbilly/lower class thing to do especially in big cities

The War changed everything

 

[Periplus]

I was at a function a few weeks ago and this guy that was around my age point blank asked what qabiil I was.

I was stunned for a second and my guy was shocked that I was shocked.

 

[Periplus]

Asking someones qabil during Barre era was seen as a hillbilly/lower class thing to do especially in big cities

The War changed everything

The polite way is to ask which city someone is from in Somalia.

 

[El Nino]

One nigga from Toronto said its caadi there to ask peoples qabiil, can torontonians confirm this

 

[Prince of HS]

In Somalia? Yes

in the diaspora? It’s definitely not normal

Funniest thing is your more likely to get asked in a convo here in the diaspora than back home.I’m talking about the reer magaal city ppl. It’s a reer baadiyo thing to directly ask someone ‘what is your qabil’

 

[Som]

Asking someones qabil during Barre era was seen as a hillbilly/lower class thing to do especially in big cities

The War changed everything

Yes. It was reer baadiye behavior.

 

[Aden22]

One nigga from Toronto said its caadi there to ask peoples qabiil, can torontonians confirm this

he’s cappin bro

 

[Yankee]

“Just came back from Somalia”
“Which part”

 

[Nilotufian]

Even if they know you, still not right.

 

[Awad]

Yup, I only have allow myself to interact with a max 3 waqooyis :/

 

[Somaliwadani123]

One nigga from Toronto said its caadi there to ask peoples qabiil, can torontonians confirm this

Its caadi....no one really cares if u ask.....most people aren't really in tune with somali culture over here, so there is no stigma behind it.

 

[NordicSomali]

yaa tahay?

 

[The Somali Caesar]

Yes it's actually the first question that gets asked after they ask you how you doing. But luckily I come from a noble tribe so I don't have the need to hide it

 

[FOBish]

People got confuse with my accent and to confuse more I say I am from Mogadishu .then they gave up and ask directly which qabiil am I

But to answer your question it is weird to ask in diaspora but I think it is ok back home

 

[Chase]

To me people who don't divulge their qabil are weird, what's there to hide? I don't have any prejudice towards a clan, lol if anything we can get to learn more about each other's history, politics, news etc.

I don't get why it has to be taboo.

 

[SPMLegend]

Who needs to ask anyways? Just look at their accent and ask what region of Somalia or Somali lands they are from by dropping some hints in the conversation. Then proceed to ask about villages if they are more knowledgeable.

as long as I know what region you come from I can narrow it down to the remaining options.

somalis in the diaspora heavily rep their states using bracelets

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