We live in countries controlled by Euros with past histories of pure savagery, massacres, colonialism, slavery. Sure, they might have cleaned up their superficially but you can tell that they are void of real humanity and empathy. That's why they always want to control and subjugate someone.
Subconsciously, the word submissive reminds europeans of people's in the past that they conquered, enslaved, slaughtered, destituted.
I think that's where the energy comes from and we learned from them the word and the connotations that comes with it.
In other cultures, being submissive is different and the energy around it is different.
I think I can see why feminism even became a thing in the West
But then again, I could be wrong tho