Is a wedding that important?

[Codeine]

People always seem to bring up finances and the cost of a wedding as one of the biggest obstacles preventing young men from getting married. Just like that other thread of a guy throwing together a fund me page to fund his wedding (LOL).

I've always thought that this was more of an archaic issue and not so much relevant in the Western diaspora.

Personally, I see the wedding as something done exclusively for the woman. Therefore, if she likes you enough, she'll marry you regardless or settle for a cheaper <10k wedding. If she refuses and can't work anything out, she didn't really want to marry you anyway, no?

Do you think this is a real problem or just a bad excuse? Personally, I think it's an excuse to not get married

 

[Inquisitive_]

This problem is an epidemic, it's not just the women but also the degenerate useless mothers/aunties that are far worse and wield far more influence then the dude ever will, so even if she relents, they will enforce it!

The most bizarre part is that the women regarded as 'loose' or too westernised (drinks/clubs etc.) mostly don't want this whole charade and are very firm on it and strong, problem is that most reasonable men don't target these, hence many reform and end up with reverts.

The religious ones and those in the middle that appear outwardly religious are the ones whom are firm and adamant on this whole charade, it very ironic, because it's the one group you'd expect to be against it, but such is the crazed times we live in today everything is possible.

 

[Mercury]

People always seem to bring up finances and the cost of a wedding as one of the biggest obstacles preventing young men from getting married. Just like that other thread of a guy throwing together a fund me page to fund his wedding (LOL).

I've always thought that this was more of an archaic issue and not so much relevant in the Western diaspora.

Personally, I see the wedding as something done exclusively for the woman. Therefore, if she likes you enough, she'll marry you regardless or settle for a cheaper <10k wedding. If she refuses and can't work anything out, she didn't really want to marry you anyway, no?

Do you think this is a real problem or just a bad excuse? Personally, I think it's an excuse to not get married

Well Heres the thing even if the Guy and girl want a low key wedding the girls parents Will talk her out of it and demand a more expensive one

 

[Cognitivedissonance]

Wedding is a western thing ask your xalimo which is more important to her giving money to charity and feeding the poor or a wedding and if she chooses the latter then I hate to break it to you but you shouldn't even be considering meher or nikah run while you still can my g kkkk