I'm so offended

[Yaraye]

It's the truth saaxib

 

[NidarNidar]

1-25 is walaal.
25-35 abti
35-50 adeer
Age> 50 = awoowe

That's the rule!

Abti and Adeer are the same thing.

 

[SuleimanI]

6 more years and she a geriatric reproductive wise whilst the man can have kids till his pp stops working at 90. So who is the true old person here? Logically it’s the 29 yr old

He's giving her one last opportunity

 

[Yaraye]

Abti and Adeer are the same thing.

Adeer just sounds older

 

[Yaraye]

He's giving her one last opportunity

6 more years and she a geriatric reproductive wise whilst the man can have kids till his pp stops working at 90. So who is the true old person here? Logically it’s the 29 yr old

An old man is an old man no matter how you try to twist it

 

[Richard Pearson]

Abti after he finally bags her friend as the 2nd wife and @Yaraye becomes the 3rd wife.

 

[DubatDiaries]

Lets listen to what dr Umar has to say. Woe to the viagra children!

 

[Yaraye]

Lets listen to what dr Umar has to say. Woe to the viagra children!

Exactly! Look at them being proud about how men can produce sperm at 90 yrs old, when sperm is defective after 35 yrs old

 

[Sophisticate]

I have a friend who is 29 and doing her residency. Four years ago, a family friend who proposed to her for marriage. I assumed it was for his son, since his son and my friend are around the same age bracket. However his son was already married. I told my friend that. She stated it wasn't for his son but for himself. When I heard that I was immediately enraged. This man is more than half a century years old, with several wives, and many kids. How dare he propose to my precious friend who is in her prime, pretty, religious and well-educated?

My friend rejected him. However he is still mentions it playfully to her relatives that he's still interested if she's willing. One of my friend's aunt got angry for the same reason as I did. My friend's aunt expressed concern about my friend's future in terms of marriage. She stated "If a man has prolonged interested in a woman, and makes dua to allah for success. There is a possibility allah may block off other men to answer his dua and eventually she will become calaf to him."

I was shocked. I had no idea that was possible! After a bit of thought, my anger turned to worry for my friend. I realized that oddly there is no other man that was interested in my friend. I started to believe that his old man is blocking her blessings. Her aunt has advised her to read dua to protect herself from his interest.

Women, you need to start reading dua to protect yourselves from men you reject lest you become eventual calaf!

Men, you reject? What would have ever made him think he was ever a candidate? I presumed those with established families and adult children would never be in the running. It's over-ambitious for an adeer to think he has a chance. He is likely no George Clooney, with zero wife and kids. The entitlement of some people is insane. Let em' habaar. It won't stick.

 

[Jaale]

If they're cool with it as adults and engage consensually then there's no problem. You are enraged and offended because of your own preconceived bias.

 

[Sophisticate]

If they're cool with it as adults and engage consensually then there's no problem. You are enraged and offended because of your own preconceived bias.

I don't generally see a young female doctor marrying someone old enough to be her father, especially in the West. The caveat is he has "several wives and kids." This is beyond farfetched, and you know it. Choices are commensurate with options. I presume she can choose someone age-appropriate, within a similar income bracket, life stage and values.

 

[Jaale]

I don't generally see a young female doctor marrying someone old enough to be her father, especially in the West. The caveat is he has "several wives and kids." This is beyond farfetched, and you know it. Choices are commensurate with options. I presume she can choose someone age-appropriate, within a similar income bracket, life stage and values.

As a young female doctor, I'm assuming she's not a 12 year old with a gun on her head to marry some old geezer. What is 'age appropriate' is entirely up to her. Just because you disagree what 'should be' does not invalidate her choice.

 

[Sophisticate]

As a young female doctor, I'm assuming she's not a 12 year old with a gun on her head to marry some old geezer. What is 'age appropriate' is entirely up to her. Just because you disagree what 'should be' does not invalidate her choice.

Clearly she turned him down at least according to @Yaraye. So you were speaking hypothetically which appears more fantasy than reality. I have not heard a single ancedote of this occurring. Correct me if I'm wrong.

And by age appropriate I meant having some sense of relatability due to a shared generation and or life experiences. I know she is of age.

What seems to suprise the OP is a man with his level of baggage thinking he ever had a chance. That is uncharacteristic but some men are delusional.

 

[Jaale]

Clearly she turned him down at least according to @Yaraye. So you were speaking hypothetically which appears more fantasy than reality. And by age appropriate I meant having some sense of relatability due to a shared generation and or life experiences. I know she is of age.

What seems to suprise the OP is a man with his level of baggage thinking he ever had a chance. That is uncharacteristic but some men are delusional.

This whole thread and being so offended at the thought is a moot point then.

It is obvious enough that he had such a chance and being seriously entertained. It's neither uncharacteristic nor delusional, word to Dicaprio. This is regular throughout history.

 

[Sophisticate]

This whole thread and being so offended at the thought is a moot point then.

It is obvious enough that he had such a chance and being seriously entertained. It's neither uncharacteristic nor delusional, word to Dicaprio. This is regular throughout history.

I don't think she for once thoughtfully considered him but let the OP speak and add some additional context. I doubt he is rich or handsome. Stop the cap. The comparison between a polygamous odey and a never married childfree bachelor aren't equivalent.
I would more than likely assume he'd have the vitality of caano niido. Dry and in need of constant hydration. Than be a picture of glowing health.

 

[techsamatar]

she is 29 she should be on her 4th kid by now, how far the Macrobian race has fallen.

 

[A Mean Guy]

1-25 is walaal.
25-35 abti
35-50 adeer
Age> 50 = awoowe

That's the rule!

Aint no way, I went to pick up my younger sister from school and this small Somali kids looks at me and asks "Abti does your daughter go to this school?"

The agony
I didn't know being in your mid 20s was this hard wtf

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[A Mean Guy]

There is a possibility allah may block off other men to answer his dua and eventually she will become calaf to him

That is not how it works. He can make dua all he wants but there is not guarantee that it will get accepted. I have never heard of a dua preventing the rizq of someone else.
Furthermore, make sure you think good of Allah (SWT).

 

[xxx_newacc]

That is not how it works. He can make dua all he wants but there is not guarantee that it will get accepted. I have never heard of a dua preventing the rizq of someone else.
Furthermore, make sure you think good of Allah (SWT).
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One of my favourite hadiths still

 

[xxx_newacc]

Aint no way, I went to pick up my younger sister from school and this small Somali kids looks at me and asks "Abti does your daughter go to this school?"

The agony
I didn't know being in your mid 20s was this hard wtf

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Nah, “abti”, is just equivalent to “uncle”. It technically can be applied to anyone since you could be an uncle at 15. It’s not that srs to be called abti by small kids.