So, I'm a bit confused and would like someone to help clear this up. My manager (woman, mid-30s) has been VERY touchy-feely lately. Escalated just before Christmas, here's a list of her shenanigans with me:
- Whenever she comes over to talk to me, she always touches me. Either places her hand on my lower back or on my arm, and it's always for a second too long.
- If I show her something on my computer screen, she'll come super close to me to check it. Our faces are like mm from touching.
-Always asking about my personal life. I once told her about a slip up I made during a date and she's constantly reminding me of it. Keeps on calling me a player etc.
- Compared me to her bf physically many, many times.
- Showed me a picture of her when she was around my age and asked me if I would date her (I'm not kidding....this is my manager!)
-Here's the big one. We were working together, sitting side by side. I point to a mistake I found on my laptop, she leans in to look over and rest her HAND ON MY THIGH the whole time she was looking (like 30seconds).
Even my coworker has caught on a bit. He asked me why she treats us different. Things like the way she talks to us and the work allocation (she always gives me work I enjoy, most of the time). Lastly, every time we go to lunch together, she pays (maybe once a week).
So guys, help me out here. Am I being groomed? Or is she just particularly friendly with me?
And about the touching, that's something I can't stand (from anyone). But I'm afraid she'll make my work life hell if I tell her to cut it out.
- Whenever she comes over to talk to me, she always touches me. Either places her hand on my lower back or on my arm, and it's always for a second too long.
- If I show her something on my computer screen, she'll come super close to me to check it. Our faces are like mm from touching.
-Always asking about my personal life. I once told her about a slip up I made during a date and she's constantly reminding me of it. Keeps on calling me a player etc.
- Compared me to her bf physically many, many times.
- Showed me a picture of her when she was around my age and asked me if I would date her (I'm not kidding....this is my manager!)
-Here's the big one. We were working together, sitting side by side. I point to a mistake I found on my laptop, she leans in to look over and rest her HAND ON MY THIGH the whole time she was looking (like 30seconds).
Even my coworker has caught on a bit. He asked me why she treats us different. Things like the way she talks to us and the work allocation (she always gives me work I enjoy, most of the time). Lastly, every time we go to lunch together, she pays (maybe once a week).
So guys, help me out here. Am I being groomed? Or is she just particularly friendly with me?
And about the touching, that's something I can't stand (from anyone). But I'm afraid she'll make my work life hell if I tell her to cut it out.